What if the person on your team who frustrates you the most isn’t the problem… but the clue?In this episode of the Calm and Confident Leader Podcast, host Jason Stonehouse sits down with Dr. James Borishade, author of Connecting Across Differences, to unpack why so many leaders struggle with conflict and communication, and what they might be missing.Dr. Borishade brings a fascinating perspective shaped by leading in high tension environments, serving as CEO of Circle Urban Ministries, becoming the first African American CEO in the challenge course and zip line industry, and helping organizations rethink how people work together. Together, Jason and James explore a powerful idea. What if the behaviors that irritate us in others are actually rooted in their story, their experiences, and even their unique design?In this conversation you’ll discover:• Why many relational struggles begin with the belief that something is wrong with us• The difference between God designed uniqueness and emotional immaturity• How trauma and personal stories shape workplace behavior• Why the silent tension in a team can be more dangerous than open conflict• Practical ways leaders can create environments where people feel safe enough to be honest• A powerful shift from employing people to deploying them into the roles where they thriveThis episode is packed with practical leadership wisdom about navigating differences, asking better questions, and building teams where diverse perspectives actually strengthen the organization instead of tearing it apart.Links mentioned in this episodeJason Stonehousehttps://jasonstonehouse.comDr. James Borishadehttps://borishade.comCircle Urban Ministrieshttps://circleurban.orgBook: Connecting Across Differences (available wherever books are sold, including Amazon)If this episode encouraged you or helped you think about leadership in a new way, share it with a friend or a colleague who could benefit from the conversation. And be sure to subscribe to the Calm and Confident Leader Podcast so you don’t miss any of the great content coming your way.

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