Canaries in the Coal Mine
Episodes
Why Being Around Family Feels So Exhausting During the Holidays
16 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This video explores why being around family feels so exhausting during the holidays, especially for adult children of emotionally immature parents. We...
Why Saying No Feels So Wrong (When You’re Not Wrong at All)
02 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This video explains why saying no feels wrong, why guilt shows up when you set boundaries, and how childhood conditioning, trauma, and people-pleasing...
The Hidden Cost of Being the Family Peacemaker
18 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Being the family peacemaker, people-pleaser, or the “calm one” comes with hidden emotional and nervous system costs — this video explains why an...
Why Men Shut Down Emotionally (and How It Starts)
04 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
FREE guide: The Unlearning Guide — How to Feel Safe Feeling Again → Download here → coming soonWhy do so many men shut down emotionally? And whe...
When You Tell the Truth in a Dysfunctional Family
21 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Free guide: The Truth-Teller’s Survival Guide — what to expect after speaking the hard truth + how to steady your body and mind. Download here →...
Narcissists vs. Emotionally Immature: The Key Differences
05 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Is your parent a narcissist—or just emotionally immature? Understanding the difference between narcissistic parents and emotionally immature parents...
What Does Gaslighting Mean? 10 Everyday Examples & Hope
22 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Gaslighting is emotional abuse and psychological manipulation that makes us question our memory, perception, and reality. In this video we define gasl...
The Hidden Struggle of Complex PTSD
09 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I share honestly what Complex PTSD feels like from the inside.Not the clinical definitions, but the lived reality: why your body stay...
What Depression Really Feels Like (From the Inside)
26 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I share honestly what it’s like from the 'inside', and I answer the questions so many of us carry: Is depression just a c...
The Vagus Nerve Explained: Panic, Trauma & Why You Don’t Feel Safe
10 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Vagus nerve trauma, panic attacks, and nervous system healing. Learn how childhood trauma rewires the vagus nerve, why you still feel unsafe, and scie...
How Childhood Trauma Shows Up in Your Adult Life
27 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if your panic attacks... your insomnia... your people-pleasing—weren’t quirks, but survival instincts?Childhood trauma doesn’t end when we ...
10 Narcissistic Behaviors You Were Taught to Call ‘Love’
14 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
narcissistic behaviors, narcissistic parent, emotional abuse, gaslighting, childhood trauma, CPTSD, inner child healing, toxic family dynamics, emotio...
I Finally Told My Narcissistic Father the Truth About Our Childhood
30 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Narcissistic parent. Gaslighting. Childhood trauma. Estrangement. Emotional neglect. This video shares what happened when I confronted my father after...
What It Really Means to Be the 'Cycle Breaker'
16 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Being a cycle breaker means healing generational trauma, setting boundaries, and choosing truth—even when it hurts. In this video, we explore what i...
What Is Trauma, Really? (It's Not What You Think)
19 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Trauma isn’t always what we think.It doesn’t just come from war zones, accidents, or abuse. Sometimes, trauma comes quietly—from emotional negl...
8 Tools to Set Healthy Boundaries
12 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Boundaries, people-pleasing, codependency recovery, emotional burnout-if setting limits makes you feel like the bad guy, you're not alone. Sensit...
The Truth About Highly Sensitive People
28 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Highly Sensitive Person traits, sensitivity, emotional healing - Have you ever been told you're "too sensitive"? Felt like your emotion...
The 6 Hidden Roles in Every Dysfunctional Family
21 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt like you were playing a part in your family—one you never chose? 👉 The Hero. 👉 The Scapegoat. 👉 The Lost Child. ...
9 Signs You Grew Up in a Dysfunctional Family
14 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt like the adult in your own childhood? Or found yourself constantly fixing everyone else’s emotions — even now?In this episode, ...
Were You the Sensitive One in a Dysfunctional Family?
05 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel like the one who notices everything… but no one else seems to care?In this first episode of Canaries in the Coal Mine, Shannon shares a me...