Jordy Cray (@jordycray) comes in hot on Break It Down! In today's episode, Cate & Ty explain why they continue to talk about their adoption story despite the backlash with the public and the growing issues with the adoptive parents. While acknowledging a better understanding of the adoption community and learning of the adoptive parent's hypocrisy, Jordy still questions Cate and Ty's choice to vent publicly on social media but agrees that there is always more to the story than what everyone sees online.(Previously recorded in 2024)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Chapter 1: Who are the hosts and guest on this episode?
So, hi, Jordi. It's nice to meet you.
Thanks for having me here. I'm very excited. I was telling Kale, I was like, this must be how Kelly Clarkson felt when she won American Idol.
You're putting it way out there. Dang, okay.
You're living large now. I know. I appreciate it. So I'm excited to be here.
Well, I know that you and Ty met just a little bit.
A little bit.
You know what I mean? But I've never even seen you or anything until all this stuff happened. So I was like, oh, that would be nice just to talk, you know?
Yeah. Yeah, you don't know. I don't even think you watched the live that we did.
No, I did not. No.
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Chapter 2: Why do Cate and Ty continue sharing their adoption story?
No, that always happens. And then, so days go by, a week goes by, and then the birth mom messages me, hey, has she said anything? No. So I reach out in, hey, just checking in on this, wondering if you and Brandon had the time to talk about it. And she was just like, you know, I know it's disappointing, but no, we're not planning to have a visit this year.
And I said, yeah, I said it's disappointing just because of all the kids. You know, like all the kids, like my kids are getting older. They know Carly. They know that's her sister.
Mm-hmm.
The other birth mom's kids, same thing. They know that their brother is out there and they ask questions. I said, so it sucks that, you know, we can't even meet up just for a dinner, you know? And then Teresa was like, yeah, I understand, you know, whatever. But just know that we love and we care about you guys so much.
And she also said no to the dinner because we were like, oh, we'll come to you. We'll make it really easy. I know you're busy with the kids. And if that's a problem, then we'll just come to you and make it meet up at a restaurant for an hour dinner. You know, make it simple. Not like a long weekend, long visit like we usually have. That's typically how they are.
Yeah. And and then so and she got upset with me because I said, you know, it doesn't feel like love. You know, like people that I truly love and I care about that are involved in my life. I make time for those people. I even if it's just an hour, like I want to spend time with the people that I love and I care about. So she got upset with me that I said that.
And then you fast forward a few weeks and it was like Carly's birthday. So, of course, I'm like, hey, I texted recently. Hey, I sent Carly gifts. Please let me know if she gets them. And she answered me on that day. But even a few days after her birthday, I checked in again and it was like she never responds again. You know, weeks go by, then I check in again, no response.
And I'm like, okay, you know, what's going on?
Don't you like our gifts? Right, you know, or whatever.
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Chapter 3: What are the challenges of sharing personal stories on social media?
Yeah.
You know? Not being able to have your own shot. You know? Like, that's hard.
Mm-hmm.
And it's sad. And I do feel like it's gotten... It's gotten... Things have gotten more rocky as she has gotten older.
She's been asking questions.
Yes, she's been asking. She's asked questions. I've been informed of these questions that she's asking. And I think it scares them, which I get that when she's older, she might want everything to do with us and nothing with them.
And that's pretty much the main fear that we believe is driving everything.
And the sad thing is, though, is like I have told them even face to face, like Carly could come to me and say like, oh, my gosh, my mom and my dad just bug me because they want me to do this, this, this, this. I said, I will always have your back. And I will always say to her... They're your parents.
Those are your parents and they love you and they're doing those things because they want the best for you. And why I will... Even I can not agree with everything that they do.
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Chapter 4: How do Cate and Ty handle backlash from the adoption community?
Right. But I think it's one of those things where it's like we're allowed to live different lives and have different –
religious beliefs and then it brings up the question too like so you know just if this was the case it's like you know you have people that work at strip clubs and they're strippers and they dance and they show their tits and some
can be fully nude you know there's underwear models on billboards right but like our strippers not allowed to have children or does that hurt their children i don't know does yeah kelvin klein models and their underwear are they not allowed to have children you know so right it's a hard thing to balance but that's why we just said well we'll take it down if that's their reasoning yeah that we don't know if it is or not just in case yeah do we think we're morally wrong
no not really I think it's empowering and it's freedom and that's what it is and I think anyone Pamela Anderson she's allowed to have kids just because she did her thing doesn't mean she's not allowed to be a parent I think people the backlash is like you have children it's like well yeah and how do you get children You have sex. Yeah.
And, you know, how do you like, you know, and eventually those children are going to be adults and do the same fucking thing.
Yeah.
And what's the difference between a model on a billboard in Times Square or a bathing suit guy in a bathing suit at the beach? Like your children. So it's like it's it's I think it brings up an interesting topic.
Yeah. I think that's the only reason why you got backlash was because of what you guys said to Farrah. But like you said, you guys did. People need to rewatch the episodes because I think all of you may see included. acknowledge you were wrong. Oh, for sure. I mean, it's all I can do, right?
It's all I can do. I can't.
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