New episodes every Thursday | Hosted by Blaine & ReedThis episode kicks off our Pride Month arc with a truth bomb:Pride didn’t start with rainbow merch—it started with people who had to survive silence.We’re bringing you the raw, redemptive story of Matt, a man outed after 35 years of marriage to a woman. His journey cracks open a larger conversation about how far we’ve come—and how far we still have to go.We also dive into the hidden lives of queer Hollywood icons: Cary Grant, Rock Hudson, Katharine Hepburn—and the man who claimed to know all their secrets, Scotty Bowers.🎥 Want more? We fully unpack the Scotty Bowers documentary, and you can stream it free on Tubi. It’s messy, revealing, and morally complicated—but worth watching if you care about how queer history has been told (and sold).And yes—the pod is officially relaunching. New tone. New vibe. Still brunch-table realness.⏱️ Chapter Breakdown:00:00 — Welcome to Pride Month + Personal Reflections01:13 — Matt’s Story: Outed After 35 Years03:39 — Relaunching Coffee with Gays 04:42 — Old Hollywood and LGBTQ Representation 07:44 — Cary Grant & Randolph Scott’s Complex Relationship10:46 — Scotty Bowers and the Secrets of Tinseltown13:46 — The Moral Dilemma of Outing the Dead16:45 — Rock Hudson, AIDS, and America’s Wake-Up Call 25:05 — Names, Identity, and Cultural Framing 27:00 — The Legacy of Rock Hudson and Representation 28:31 — Katharine Hepburn’s Queer Subtext 33:19 — Monogamy vs. Non-Monogamy in Today’s Gay World 40:32 — How Safe Are We Really? 45:09 — LGBTQ Activism: Then vs. Now 50:22 — Why Pride Still Matters✨ In This Episode:The danger and dignity in Matt’s late-in-life coming outThe moral mess of outing celebrities after deathThe dark underbelly of Old Hollywood’s golden ageScotty Bowers: whistleblower or opportunist?Pride vs. performance—where do we stand today?🧠 Why It Matters:Not every hero was a protester. Some were lovers who died without being seen. Some made art. Some just survived. And some—like Matt—are still figuring it out.This episode is for them. And for everyone still walking the line between privacy and pride.🎧 Listen if you’ve ever:Felt conflicted about visibilityWondered who really "made Pride possible"Wanted to scream during a bad Grindr date📲 Follow @coffeewithgays, hit that subscribe button, and tell us in the comments: Who made your Pride possible?Let me know if you want this adapted for Buzzsprout preview text or shortened for YouTube Shorts next.Support the showFollow Us! The Hosts are on our linktr.ee 😉🌐 Visit our Linktree For All the Socials🕺 Follow us on TikTok🎥 Subscribe to our YouTube Channel📸 Follow us on Instagram🐦 Follow us on Twitter🍏 Subscribe on Apple Podcasts🎵 Subscribe on Spotify Podcasts❤️ Subscribe on iHeart Radio🌍 Check Out Our Website: https://www.coffeewithgays.com/

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