Note for Listeners: This episode contains explicit language and conversation about sex and sexual pleasure. Listener discretion is advised.What if the best sex of your life is still ahead of you?In this episode of Coming Out and Beyond, Anne-Marie Zanzal and dating coach Barbara Rowlandson sit down with Susan Bratton, the intimacy expert to millions and one of the most prolific and widely read sex educators in the world. Susan has spent more than two decades teaching the kind of sex education most of us were never given, the kind rooted in pleasure rather than shame or silence, and she brings all of it to this conversation with warmth, science, and a whole lot of joy.Together they talk about what it means to come home to your own body, often for the first time. So many women arrive in midlife having only known sex that was performative, dutiful, and centered on someone else. Susan offers another way. She walks us through calming the nervous system with the soulmate embrace, moving out of performance and into sensation, and understanding why a woman's arousal is slow, responsive, and worth every unhurried minute.This is an honest, tender, sometimes very funny conversation about pleasure as something sacred rather than shameful, about the body as something to be understood rather than judged, and about why, for so many Sapphic women, the intimacy they find after coming out is the most connected they have ever known.If sex was ever framed for you as a duty or a source of shame, this episode is an invitation to imagine something better. Pleasure is a skill. It is learnable at any age. And you are far more capable of it than you were ever allowed to believe. Want to learn more about Susan and Better Lover, her library of resource materials for improving sexual pleasure? Visit her website at https://susanbratton.com/ The toys that Susan highlighted in the episode can be found at https://drivedesire.com/Jamie McCartney's Great Wall of Vulva project, mentioned in this episode, can be found here: https://www.thegreatwallofvulva.com/Ready to explore this for yourself? Join us for the 3 Day Clarity Experience, a live event for women who are questioning, wondering, and ready to understand what they are feeling. Over three evenings together we make space for your story, your clarity, and the beginnings of real community. The next one runs September 22 through 24. You can join for $47, or $97 for VIP, which includes a group Clarity Circle with Anne-Marie.Register here: https://annemariezanzal.com/3-day-clarity-experience/

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