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When was the last time you showed up as your whole self — messy bun, bold dreams, coffee cup in hand — and said, “This is me”?
In this episode of The Communication Queen Podcast, host Kimberly Spencer sits down with Marianne Hickman, professional speaker, storytelling coach, and founder of The Elegant Office. Together, they unravel the truth that every Queen in business needs to hear: authenticity isn’t optional — it’s your greatest business strategy.
From her journey as a single mom of five on food stamps to becoming a powerhouse on global stages, Marianne reveals how owning your story — every raw, unfiltered, audacious bit of it — builds unshakable trust. Kimberly and Marianne go deep on the “cost of conformity,” how to stop shrinking to fit, and why storytelling that comes from the scars (not the wounds) transforms audiences and careers alike.
If you’ve ever felt like your story wasn’t “professional” enough to share, this conversation will shake you awake. Because when you stop performing and start being real, your people don’t just listen — they lean in.
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What You’ll Learn in this Episode:
Authenticity is your superpower. Marianne shares her journey from being a single mom on food stamps to a thriving speaker and entrepreneur. Her success began when she stopped caring about others’ opinions and started showing up as her true self. That radical ownership of her story turned vulnerability into power
Authentic storytelling builds trust. The more honest and human you are, the more your audience connects. Marianne’s viral “coffee post” story demonstrates that imperfection is what resonates most—authentic moments create deeper relationships than polished personas
Rejection is redirection. Marianne uses her “bottle of water” metaphor to teach that your value doesn’t change based on where you are—only your environment does. If you’re not being valued, you’re simply in the wrong room
Tell stories from the scar, not the wound. Both Kimberly and Marianne stress that the most powerful stories are told from a place of healing and ownership, not blame. When you’ve moved from “this happened to me” to “this happened for me,” your message becomes transformational
Show up, even when it’s messy. Marianne emphasizes that 80% of success is just showing up—on podcasts, in conversations, on stages. Authentic visibility builds relationships, credibility, and confidence over time
Gratitude fuels grounded storytelling. She also shares a personal morning practice: “What if I lost everything I didn’t thank today?” That mindset keeps your message rooted in appreciation and presence, not perfection
🌟 In Short
You’ll learn how to:
Turn real-life experiences into emotionally resonant stories
Build trust through authenticity in your brand and voice
Move from fear of judgment to confident self-expression
Heal your story so it empowers, not limits, you
Use storytelling as both a business and personal growth strategy
This episode is a masterclass in authentic storytelling — how to stop performing, start transforming, and let your truth be your stage.
Quotes:
“As long as I’m proud of it and can honor it, it takes the power from others and gives it back to me.” - Marianne Hickman
“If you’re not finding your value, you’re just in the wrong room — not the wrong story.” - Marianne Hickman
“Authenticity isn’t about perfection. It’s about power — the power to be unembarrassable.” - Marianne Hickman
Links & Additional Resources:
Connect with Marianne Hickman.
Website: https://mariannehickman.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marianne__hickman
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@marianne__hickman
Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/349b6bi0HwzT1szt3S40V0?si=dc8acc8fb77e4b0e
Mastery Hive Public Speaking Training Program: https://offers.mariannehickman.com/weekly-mastery-hive-call?am_id=kimberly8230
Moments of Note:
00:00 – The Mic-Drop Promise: Never Be Embarrassed Again Marianne Hickman opens the episode with the mantra that changed her life — “I don’t care what you think of me.” Discover how reclaiming your self-worth rewires your confidence and turns embarrassment into empowerment.
01:50 – From Food Stamps to Financial Freedom: The Power of a Story Still Being Written Marianne shares her journey from single mom of five on food stamps to thriving entrepreneur. Learn how “unfinished stories” are actually your strongest brand asset.
03:45 – Authenticity vs. Approval: The Nordstrom Suit Story 👗 A $750 suit, a corporate stage, and one big realization: you can’t buy authenticity. Marianne’s fashion confession turns into a masterclass on personal branding and being yourself on stage and off.
06:50 – The Coffee Post That Changed Everything ☕ When Marianne’s viral “authenticity post” got her called out by a boss — she faced the ultimate test: conform or stay true. This moment became the foundation of her speaking career.
09:45 – The Fear Behind Public Speaking: Rejection or Reflection? Why the #1 fear isn’t public speaking itself — it’s being seen. Marianne and Kimberly unpack how fear of rejection keeps leaders hiding behind personas, and how to reclaim your real voice.
12:40 – “Wrong Room” Wisdom: The Bottle of Water Metaphor 💧 The viral metaphor you didn’t know you needed: why your worth never changes, only your environment does. Learn how to price your value and find the right stages.
15:40 – How to Find the Right Stage for Your Authentic Voice 🎤 Kimberly and Marianne reveal how to identify “aligned stages” — the rooms that celebrate your truth instead of silencing it.
18:00 – Love, Alignment, and Authentic Attraction 💞 Both women get real about relationships, self-love, and attracting aligned opportunities (and partners!) by being your full self.
20:40 – Storytelling Mastery: From Daily Moments to Mic-Drop Messages How to turn everyday experiences into unforgettable stories that build emotional connection, authority, and trust.
27:00 – The Gratitude Shift: What If You Lost Everything You Didn’t Thank? 🙏 Marianne shares a soul-stirring morning routine story that redefines gratitude — and why appreciation is the foundation of a magnetic mindset.
32:00 – Storytelling Timeline: When to Tell the Story (and When to Heal First) The golden rule of storytelling: tell stories from the scar, not the wound. Kimberly and Marianne discuss timing, emotional ownership, and avoiding victim narratives.
37:00 – From Victim to Hero: Taking Radical Ownership of Your Story How to move from blame to breakthrough — in life, business, and speaking. Learn how to transform pain into purpose.
40:00 – The Visibility Strategy: From Podcast Guest to Keynote Speaker Marianne breaks down the roadmap for turning podcast appearances into major speaking opportunities — including her 4-stage framework for growing your visibility.
44:00 – Your Call to Rise: Show Up, Speak Up, Stand Out 👑 Kimberly closes with a powerful reminder: your story can save lives — but only if you tell it. This is your invitation to show up and shine.
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