If you have ever performed the easygoing, low-maintenance, go-with-the-flow version of yourself for someone who was not even close to being your person — this episode is going to hit home. Identity Shift Coach Letitia Hopkins gets radically honest about a decade of dating, the situationships, the convincing game, and the moment grief stripped away every mask she had ever worn. What happened next is the identity shift that changed everything. Because the right relationship does not require you to be perfect. It requires you to be real. This is the conversation on perfectionism in relationships, people pleasing, and what it actually takes to attract the love you have been praying for — and it starts with you going first.WE'RE GETTING INTO:✦ Why performing the perfect, easy, low-maintenance version of yourself in relationships is not love — it is fear, and what it has been quietly costing you✦ The mirror principle in relationships: how the identity shift from people pleasing to radical self-acceptance changes who and what you attract✦ The real story behind a decade of situationships, the catfishing (including a very memorable 4'11" moment), and how grief became the greatest identity shift of Letitia's life✦ Why you cannot attract everything while you are still entertaining nothing — and what it looks like to finally stop auditioning for a role that was already yours✦ How declaring your identity out loud — even before the evidence arrives — is what moves you from performing to receivingTHE SELF LOVE 2 STEP — She Stopped Performing PerfectStep 1 — The Honesty Step: Pick one relationship where you have been performing a version of yourself. Write down what you edit out when you are with this person. What do you not say? What do you not ask for? What do you pretend you are okay with? That list is showing you where the performance lives.Step 2 — The Declaration Step: Write the sentence the real, unperformed version of you would actually say. Start with: "I am a woman who does not shrink to fit. I am a woman who..." Read it out loud. That is your new standard. Any relationship that cannot hold it is information, not a failure.Step 3 — The YOU Step: You get still. You get quiet. And you ask yourself — what is my heart telling me to do next? Whatever comes up, that is your next right aligned step. Not the whole plan. Just the next move. Trust her, Friend. She already knows.GET YOUR JOURNAL PROMPTSWant to go deeper on this episode? Journal prompts are waiting for you — designed to help you get clear on your desires, honor yourself now, and start stepping toward your next level with intention and without guilt.👉 Get YoursLET’S STAY CONNECTED📍Come share what shifted for you after this episode. Drop a review, comment on a YouTube video, or hit reply on the weekly Love Notes newsletter.💌Not on the Love Notes list yet? Join at the link below — it is the best way to stay connected and keep the encouragement coming straight to your inbox every week. 👉 Subscribe Here📺 New videos DAILY on YouTube: @EO_E 🎙️ New podcast episodes every Tuesday and Thursday 🌐 encourageovereverything.com🎵 Music: It's Easy to Love You💖💖 Confident and Empowered Women with Letitia Hopkins drops every Tuesday and Thursday. Subscribe so you never miss an episode. If today's conversation shifted something for you, leave a review — your words help other women find this podcast and there is a woman out there right now who needs exactly what you just heard.

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