You handle the responsibilities. Keep the commitments. Consider everybody else's needs. But when it comes to something you want?Suddenly, everything is negotiable.We're talking about how easy it is to become optional in your own life—not because you stopped caring about yourself, but because somewhere along the way, you stopped being intentional about including yourself.I'm sharing how I protected my sense of self as a single mom through seemingly small things and intentionally making room for the woman underneath all my responsibilities. Because those things weren't just self-care. They were reminders: I'm still here.We'll also get into why women become so good at talking themselves out of what they want, how constantly putting yourself last can make it harder to even know what you want anymore, and why your wants aren't selfish or frivolous—they're information.Because you don't have to get everything you want.But you do deserve to remain part of the conversation.WE’RE GETTING INTO:How constantly putting yourself last becomes an automatic patternWhy you may tell yourself “no” before anyone else gets the chanceWhy your wants, preferences, and desires matterHow motherhood, caregiving, responsibility, and busy seasons can disconnect you from yourselfHow intentional choices help you reconnect with yourselfTIMESTAMPS:00:00 When You Become Optional02:05 Meet the Negotiators04:16 Life Gets Loud06:55 Identity of Needing Little08:26 We Need New Management12:32 Time Is Decided15:21 Wants Are Information17:54 Put Yourself Back In22:29 Later Is Not Identity24:55 Last Note of EncouragementTHE SELF-LOVE 2-STEP REMIXStep 1 — Consider Yourself: Ask yourself: Where have I become optional in my own life?Step 2 — Be Intentional: Choose one place to become intentional again.Step 3 — YOU Step: Get quiet and ask yourself: What’s the next aligned step for me?GET YOUR MCE JOURNAL PROMPTSIf you're realizing it's been a minute since you really asked yourself What do I want? The Main Character Energy Journal Prompts will get you out of the roles you play for everybody else and into an honest conversation with yourself. Not what makes sense. Not what everybody else needs. What do you think? What do you want? What's true for you? → Main Character Energy Journal Prompts: 👉 Get Yours LET’S STAY CONNECTED📍Come share what shifted for you after this episode. Drop a review, comment on a YouTube video, or hit reply on the weekly Love Notes newsletter.💌Not on the Love Notes list yet? Join at the link below — it is the best way to stay connected and keep the encouragement coming straight to your inbox every week. 👉 Subscribe Here📺 New videos on YouTube: @EO_E 🎙️ New podcast episodes every Tuesday and Thursday 🌐 encourageovereverything.com🎵 Music: Jazzy Swimming

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