You're over-giving because you're terrified no one will see your value. You know you're doing it. You're even aware it's exhausting you. But awareness without understanding why you do it? That just fuels the shame cycle. Emma came to this coaching session with a question about imposter syndrome. Twenty-five years of teaching, consistently getting great results with her clients, and still doubting whether she's doing enough or good enough. Still uncomfortable asking for money. Still over-giving in every session because maybe, just maybe, if she gives enough, they'll finally see her value. But here's what I don't coach to: I don't coach to imposter syndrome. I coach to the operating system underneath producing that symptom. Within minutes, we uncovered what was really running the show. Emma watched her mom overwork her entire childhood. Watched her put herself last, neglect her health, tie her worth to productivity, and never value herself. Emma loved her mom. So she learned this is what you do. You work until you're exhausted. You give until there's nothing left. You prove your value through doing. And now, decades later, Emma's middle-aged, looking in the mirror, and seeing her mom staring back at her. In this coaching episode, you'll hear me guide Emma through: Why she's been working so hard to get her clients' acceptance and what part of her is driving that hustle for approval The exact moment she realized she's been modeling her mom's pattern of tying worth to productivity without even knowing she picked it up How loving someone who couldn't value themselves creates an unconscious loyalty to suffering—and why it feels like betrayal to treat yourself better than they treated themselves The practice of emotional neutrality when asking for money so she can witness the discomfort without letting it run her choices Why "I want more money" and "I want freedom" are abstract goals that keep high-achievers trapped in chasing their tail instead of actually creating what they want How to stop recreating your parent's life and become the conscious creator of your own by getting crystal clear on your values and boundaries The tool for parenting the part of you that innocently picked up misinformed stories about your value—so you can take different action even while feeling uncomfortable This episode is for you if: You've built success but still feel like you have to over-give to prove your value You're aware of your patterns but can't seem to change them, which just makes you feel more shame You watched a parent sacrifice themselves through overwork and now you're doing the same thing You're uncomfortable asking for money even though you deliver exceptional results You chase "more money" or "freedom" but never feel like you're actually getting there You want to understand what it's like to work with a Master Coach who sees the operating system underneath your surface symptoms This is what it sounds like to work with a coach who doesn't address what you think the problem is. I go after the beliefs and identity driving the behavior. If you've been telling yourself it's just imposter syndrome when it's actually about worthiness, tune in. Ready to explore your own patterns? What pattern are you repeating that you watched growing up? What are you getting from over-giving, from tying your worth to productivity, from staying exhausted, that you won't admit? Emma came in thinking we'd coach on imposter syndrome. But the real work was uncovering the operating system underneath that was running her life. And I'm willing to bet there's an operating system running yours too. If you're done perpetuating the suffering, if you're ready to stop recreating what you watched and start becoming the conscious creator of your own life, book a free Congruency Audit with my team at lisacarpenter.ca/audit. We'll identify what's working, what's out of sync, and the single biggest opportunity to bring your life, work, and self back into congruence. What pattern are you ready to stop repeating? Connect with Lisa: Website: lisacarpenter.ca Podcast: lisacarpenter.ca/podcast Coaching + Retreats: lisacarpenter.ca/coachingretreat If you listen on Spotify: Open the Spotify app on your phone. Search for Lisa Carpenter and open her podcast page. Tap the three dots under the podcast description. Choose Rate show from the menu. Select your star rating and tap Submit.

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