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Why does success feel so empty when you've built everything you said you wanted?
You're running an impressive business. You've got the team, the revenue, the systems, the proof. From the outside, you've made it. But somewhere underneath all of it, you're exhausted, you're holding everything yourself, and you're quietly wondering how much longer you can keep this up.
In this solo episode, Lisa pulls back the curtain on a recent conference she attended in Burlington with 55 of the most accomplished women entrepreneurs she's ever shared space with. Six and seven-figure businesses. Sophisticated systems. Real strategy. And underneath all of it, the exact same patterns Lisa works with her clients to dismantle every single day.
This is what it actually looks like to do this work in real time, not as a theory, but as a lived practice.
What happens when high-achieving women get in a room together?
Lisa was there for two reasons. First, to sharpen her own CEO skills, because being world-class at your craft and being world-class at running a business are not the same thing. Second, she was on a panel speaking about the cost of not making decisions, specifically the cost of not making decisions about your own physical and emotional well-being, and how that quietly bleeds into your business, your family, and your life.
What she walked away with was a front row seat to the Success Paradox playing out in a room full of brilliant, capable, exhausted women who are very, very good at achievement, and very rarely have stopped long enough to ask whether the life they're building is the one they actually want.
What we talk about in this episode:
Why being in rooms above your perceived skill level is the actual work. That story you're telling yourself about needing to know more, accomplish more, or have more before you belong in certain rooms? That's the Prover archetype talking, and you dismantle it by stepping into the room, not by waiting until you feel ready.
The cost of not making decisions about yourself. We love to calculate the cost of investing in our businesses. We rarely calculate the cost of not investing in our health, our energy, and our nervous system. Lisa breaks down what that quietly costs you, and why it eventually costs your business too.
Why over-commitment is actually under-commitment. When you say yes to everything, you're committed to nothing. You cannot be 99% committed and expect to see 100% results, and the willingness to commit to less is what allows you to actually move the needle on what matters.
What the Machine archetype looks like in a room full of CEOs. Holding everything yourself because letting go feels like losing control. Clearing space, then immediately filling it back up. Productivity as identity. Lisa names exactly how this shows up and what it costs.
Why hoarding money keeps the Prover stuck in scarcity. Safety doesn't come from money. Safety comes from knowing you have your own back. When money becomes the thing you're using to feel safe, you'll never have enough of it.
The difference between excellence and procrastination disguised as preparation. The Polisher convinces herself that endless refining is a high standard. It's actually just another way to never finish, never launch, and never have to be seen.
Why the Giver runs her business on the scraps. You pour everything into your team, your clients, and your family, then you take what's left for yourself. Lisa names what you actually love and value, you take care of, and asks the question that stops most high achievers cold: "Does that list include you?"
The real difference between high achievement and high performance. High achievers are chasing. High performers are choosing. One is unconscious motion driven by needing to prove something. The other is intentional movement toward what you actually want. Lisa breaks down how to make the shift.
How to dismantle a pattern in real time. Lisa shares exactly what was happening in her body as she walked up to the panel mic, the stories her own archetypes were running, and the choice she made to stay grounded instead of looking for external validation when she stepped off.
This episode is for you if you've ever:
Built an impressive business and quietly wondered if you actually want any of it
Felt like you have to know more, accomplish more, or be more before you belong in certain rooms
Held everything yourself in your business because handing it off feels like losing control
Cleared space on your calendar and immediately filled it back up with more to do
Said yes to so many things you've ended up committed to nothing
Hoarded money or opportunities trying to feel safe, and noticed the safety never quite arrives
Been everyone's rock at work and at home while crumbling quietly underneath
Caught yourself looking for external validation after a win, and realized your own pride wasn't enough
Been told your standards are excellent when really, you just can't bring yourself to finish
Wondered how much longer you can keep doing it the way you've been doing it
How to stop running patterns that are quietly running you
The work is not deciding which one of these archetypes is yours and labeling yourself. The work is recognizing which patterns are running you, naming what they're costing you, and choosing differently in the moments that matter. That's the difference between high achievement and high performance. One is reactive. The other is intentional.
You can have all the systems and strategies in the world, and they will only ever be as good as the person running them. If you're not getting the results you want in your business, your relationships, or your life, it might not be a strategy problem. It might be a you problem. And both of those are solvable, but only one of them is the one most high achievers are willing to look at.
Ready to find out which archetype is running you?
If anything in this episode landed, if you saw yourself in the Machine, the Prover, the Polisher, or the Giver, the next step is finding out exactly which pattern is running you and what it's costing you.
Lisa's free Success Paradox Quiz is the fastest way to identify your dominant archetype, understand the specific beliefs and behaviors driving you, and start to see why success keeps feeling like it isn't enough no matter how much you achieve. After you take the quiz, you'll get access to a private podcast where Lisa goes even deeper into your specific archetype, plus all four, so you can finally see yourself clearly and start making different choices.
This is where awareness becomes action, and action becomes a different way of living.
Take the Success Paradox Quiz: lisacarpenter.ca/quiz
If you're ready to go deeper into the gap between the success you've built on the outside and what you're actually feeling on the inside, you can also book a free Congruency Audit at lisacarpenter.ca/audit. We'll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck, the wounds driving the over-functioning, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.
Connect with Lisa:
Website: lisacarpenter.ca Instagram: @lisacarpenterinc
Take the Success Paradox Quiz: lisacarpenter.ca/quiz
Book a Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit
Success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.
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