Connected Divergents
Episodes
79. Coming back to center after travel and an update on ADHD meds re: creative process
23 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Sharing in this episode about how I'm coming back to center after a season of travel & routine disruptions, and how I'm noticing ADHD medication i...
78. When “I don’t want to” really means “I don’t know how”
06 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is about the experience of Demand Avoidance + how it connects not only to our experience of autonomy-loss, but ALSO our experience of unc...
77. A Capacity-Aligned Approach to Credit Card Debt
31 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Quick Vyvanse ADHD med update from me on this episode, and then jumping into the main topic for today: Nervous System Regulation vs Nervous System Cap...
76. ADHD Meds Update: How will I know when I've found the right dose?
23 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
**THIS EPISODE IS NOT MEDICAL ADVICE!!** I'm only sharing my personal experiences and reflections! Talk to your doctor!In this episode I share about w...
75. Self-Sabotage or Self-Protection? Stepping away from the Writers Summit
02 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I needed to step away from the ADHD Writer’s Summit. In this episode I share about what led me to this decision: the wall I hit around capacity, uns...
74. 1 week on Vyvanse: Update!
25 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
**DISCLAIMER** This is not medical advice! Please talk to a doctor before making any important medical decisions that would affect your health!! Repea...
73. Back on meds!?! First time on ADHD meds since 2022!
18 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
DISCLAIMER: This episode is not medical advice!! I'm only sharing my personal thoughts and experiences.Link to work with me 1:1 in coaching!
72. Demands, overwhelm, perfectionism, & 'the big scary project' :}
11 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Writer's Summit October 10-12This episode is a case study on a 'big scary project' where I've been feeling a lot of overwhelm, fear, demands, and perf...
71. back in the house!! + a different way of thinking about routines
21 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
WE ARE BACK IN THE HOUSE!!! This feels like a whole new chapter of the Connected Divergents pod, and certainly of my life!Excited to chat with you abo...
70. Lived Experience Template: self-coaching through a rumination spiral :)
27 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Visit my Substack. Wanted to hop on and share this in real-time—today, I'm going through a *RUMINATION SPIRAL* on my day off! Related to not very fu...
69. "Where did that fiery little girl go?"
17 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I read a personal essay about growing up as an undiagnosed PDA-profile autistic child. It’s a story about control, shame, and the m...
68. Outcome-based vs Process-based Goals
05 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The start of this episode features Biscuit's purring! :D Quick lil dive on how if you're neurodivergent, you might be better-off setting process-based...
67. Breaking away from rumination spirals
22 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm sharing a recent discovery about a "program" that runs in my brain when I'm feeling unsafe: the belief that I need to do MORE to ...
66. Did an allergy spray fix my burnout?!?
28 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I think I might actually be coming out of burnout—and the turning point was... an allergy spray? In this episode, I'm sharing my experiences navigat...
65. CBT vs DBT vs ACT for AuDHD? My personal experiences
08 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Disclaimer: This episode is not medical advice. It reflects my personal, highly subjective experiences with ACT, CBT, and DBT. Please talk to a qualif...
64. Creative Persistence: Why Sticking with the Problem Leads to Solutions
11 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode I'm sharing a tool for reflection and curiosity that I am LOVING for building intimacy around the things you want/love to do (but a...
63. Why I don't use transactional rewards systems
26 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I chat through my thoughts on why I don’t use transactional rewards systems. This is more of an exploratory, verbally-processing ki...
62. An Introspective on Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman
21 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
An introspective exploration after reading Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman! Thoughts about what I enjoyed from this book, what didn't hit for m...
61. Why I *dislike* reading books about ADHD??
30 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I've felt this way for a long time... Why do I feel such a strong dislike towards reading books about ADHD? I'm an ADHD coach! Should I enjoy them??? ...
60. When systems/tools/apps meet Demand Avoidance
23 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I've had a REALIZATION hit me the last few days on why I'm no longer using apps/services like Flow Club (Ep 57) or even the Capacity Compass I talked ...
59. Capacity Compass for High/Med/Low Brain Days
21 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Look, some days you're ready to conquer the world and some days putting on matching socks feels like a win. In this episode, we're diving into a chill...
58. Dreams for 2025
01 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The difference between setting "goals" and setting "intentions" and sharing my dreams for 2025! Do you have some for this year? Share with me @comfort...
57. Am I not supposed to be shiny?
18 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I love feeling shiny. But sometimes, I'm my sparkly, warm self and it ends up getting me hurt. Is this just masking? Is this a trauma response—fawni...
56. 'Flow Club' for body doubling!!??
29 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever tried the platform 'Flow Club' for body doubling?! I actually am so surprised, but I really have been enjoying it this week!! Breaking d...
55. Hurricane Helene Update
22 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Just a quick little ep to break the seal for me when it comes to podcast recording again—Updating you on my life after Hurricane Helene, the challen...
54. How to Build Intrinsic Motivation with AuDHD
18 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I dive into the difference between intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation, especially for those of us with ADHD. Learn how to build and n...
53. When you hate exercise & have a negative relationship with moving your body
04 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
DISCLAIMER: I am not a personal trainer or a medical professional!! This is not medical advice! These are just my thoughts, opinions, and experiences ...
52. My lifelong medication journey as a late-diagnosed ADHD'er
15 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
DISCLAIMER: This is not medical advice! In this ep I am diving way back to my early childhood, adolescence, young adulthood, college, and working life...
51. showing up authentically + unmasking journey thoughts
02 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I say a big thank you for 10,000 downloads and share what it means to me to be able to show up authentically without masking, and with...
50. ADHD/AuDHD Journaling Tips + Keeping a "Lab Notebook"
17 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Talking about ADHD+AuDHD-affirming tips for journaling and why it can be helpful to keep a "lab notebook" style journal instead of a diary to help you...
49. Entering Autonomy & Agency as a Resource State
10 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What does it feel like to be free from the heavy, sticky state of "DEMAND," and enter the lighter and freer space of autonomy and personal agency, awa...
48: "Comfort Zones" Framework: Breaking Away from the All-or-Nothing
03 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What are "comfort zones" when you're AuDHD and how do we "get out of our comfort zone" when we're neurodivergent??? In this episode, I take a neurodiv...
47. Radically Self-Accepting a Meltdown & Post-Meltdown Breakdown
07 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I had a meltdown this week…. And I actually embraced it? Listen in to hear some post-meltdown reflections and analysis, and my key takeaways from wh...
46. Why “should” we be breaking up with neurotypical social scripts?
24 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
So many of our cultural scripts tell us that there’s a “right” way to do things. If you’re going to write, you have to use a real computer wit...
45. When to *Pause* (instead of desperately searching outwards for answers)
16 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
On "the fertile void" and the spirit of being willing and open to receive, instead of chasing after the answers.
44. Why you need a Close Why *AND* a Far Away Why
09 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You PROBABLY have a "far away why" for the things you want & need to do. But do you have a "close why"? Is it close enough? Listen to learn more a...
43. When "tricking yourself" to do it stops working.
01 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
"I just don't wanna" and The Power of a Visit
42. The (MULTIPLE!) Stages of Making A Change
18 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you have something pop into your head about yourself or your life that you want to make a change in, **action is not step one**. Action is actually...
41. When body doubling feels like MASKING???
04 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
If you've ever used body doubling in the past to great success, but have found that the shininess of this tool has worn off for you, and now you're at...
40. Post-Meltdown Reflections 1.5, an Update
20 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Just wanted to share an update post-post-meltdown now that I'm feeling better & my head is feeling less fuzzy/cloudy. Grateful for the support of ...
39. Post-Meltdown Reflections
16 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week I had an autistic meltdown. IT WAS NOT FUN! I wanted to share my insights and reflections on it, in case it helps anyone feel less alone in ...
38. When you feel like your needs are an inconvenience to others
07 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you carrying an old wound like me, where you feel like your needs are an inconvenience to others, even though all of the evidence you have suggest...
37. How to feel proud & self-celebrate—on purpose!
22 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I talk about neuroplasticity frameworks for feeling proud & celebrating ourselves when we have a disconnect between the cognitive ...
36. Why we NEED to be "F*cking around and faffing about"
15 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
"Your brain will do it when it's ready to do it," is a profound truth for me. BUT, sometimes, we can't always wait! Sometimes we have hard deadlines a...
35. "What if it's meant to feel easy?"
01 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
WHAT IF IT'S ACTUALLY MEANT TO BE EASY??? In this episode we dive into resource states and neuroplasticity frameworks for creative problem solving whe...
34. Masking & Unmasking with Guest Peter Harrison
26 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I explore with the pod's first guest, Peter Harrison about autism assessments, masking & unmasking, and what it feels like to mask...
33. When every week is a sh*t week & on blowing up your life
18 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Okay, cool, let's normalize shit weeks, yes... But what do we do when every week feels like a shit week? How do we know what requires radical self-acc...
32. When your New Year isn't feeling very *Sparkly*
04 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
New Year's got you feeling down? Me too, friend. Me too. If you're not feeling very "woo" or sparkly and shiny at the start of 2024, this message of c...
31. All About Uncommon(ly) Talked About Hyperfixations!
22 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I talk about uncommonly talked about hyperfixations!! It's not all sunshines and rainbows and crochet amigurumi on this ship! We dive ...
30. Hobbies aren't meant to stress you out!
05 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Editor's note: Hobbies aren't meant to stress you out *without your own enthusiastic consent*. Like, skydiving? Probably stressful. But if it's what y...
29. Building "Intimacy" with The Things We Want to Do!
29 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Intimacy is important for human relationships—and it's *also* important for the things we want to do!! These are a reflection of the human relations...
28. How To Do "To Do's": Common Pitfalls of the To Do List
22 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I lay out common pitfalls of the dreaded "to do list" and explore ideas on how to approach task initiation executive dysfunction in wa...
27. Why transition time is NOT procrastination (Honoring your needs, Meetings Edition)
17 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Transition time, decompression time, and time to recharge—this is NOT procrastination!!!! Transition time is ESSENTIAL for neurodivergent brains. Le...
26. Frameworks for *Hyperfixation* Spending + Impulsive Spending $$$
09 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you experience hyperfixation spending or impulsive spending (or have an interesting relationship with grief, BECAUSE, Y'KNOW, MY ADHD BRAIN SPAGHET...
25. How to reconnect with identifying YOUR needs
27 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I talk about why it's so freaking hard to know what your needs are when you're late-diagnosed neurodivergent, and a strategy for conne...
24. Touchstone Libraries: A Hack for Understimulation
19 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Here is one of my FAVORITE support tools for when I'm understimulated, or even for when I'm just wanting to follow my dopamine but I have no idea what...
23. NORMALIZE HAVING SH*T WEEKS
04 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This is my love letter, my mission statement, for NORMALIZING having absolute garbage weeks. Have you been having a rough day, a rough week, a rough y...
22. What to do when you think: "Ahhh, I have no time! I've wasted my entire day!"
27 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you frequently find yourself looking at the clock and saying, "AHHH!! I have no time!! I've wasted my entire day!!!" If this is you, this is the ep...
21. Exploring the idea of a "bare maximum"
21 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Okay, so we've heard of bare minimums, but what about bare maximums??? Do we even need bare maximums? When is it a good idea to use them? And is hyper...
20. Defining *YOUR* Version of Rest
13 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever feel guilty for not "resting enough" on the weekends? Or have you tried to make sure you're getting enough rest by taking naps, chilling o...
19. How to Come Back to "Doing the Thing" After Time Away
08 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you have a hard time coming back into your routines after they've been disrupted? Maybe you went on vacation or traveled for work, maybe you had an...
18. Hobby Rewiring
23 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Why I think it's important for our brains to have experiences (through things like hobbies!) that reflect our values back at us. Not "shoulds," but tr...
17. Two Tools for Negative Self-Talk
16 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Lately I've had a lot of people tell me, "Wow! You are so nice to your brain!!" But I have not always been so nice to my brain. My go-to default was b...
16. Why I *LOVE* (Yes, Love!!!) When Clients Cancel On Me
03 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I have clients with chronic pain, chronic illness. I have clients who are in burnout, or just on the cusp of coming out of burnout. I have autistic cl...
15. Intuitive Eating, Anti-Dieting & ADHD!
27 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I talk about my journey with disordered eating & finding my way to intuitive eating / anti-dieting... all before I ever even knew...
14. Mindset Downloads Around Your To-Do List
20 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you hear panting in the background, it's my dog Melody! :D Join me today for this episode about mindset downloads for your to-do list and how to us...
13. A Tool for "Following Your Dopamine" with Decision Overwhelm
13 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you heard me talk about "following your dopamine" but struggle to feel what your intuitive pulls/calls/longings are? If following your dopamine f...
12. Insights on Demand Avoidance
06 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is all about demand avoidance, my experiences around it and how I approach it in ways that are helpful for my brain (instead of harmful)....
11. The Nominalization of Procrastination
29 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Procrastination is a nominalization—which means, it's a verb that we conventionally use as a noun. Taking back the "verb" of procrastination allows ...
10. How to Deconstruct Old (Neurotypical) Mindsets & Values
22 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Hi friends!! On this episode, I talk about how I approach deconstructing old mindsets & values that we learned from our parents/culture/society, b...
9. Storm Journaling & Emotional Dysregulation
15 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I share a tool I like to call "Storm Journaling" as an act of radical self-acceptance & unshaming when we experience intense emot...
8. Are you a Verbal Processor?
09 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What does it mean to be someone who is a "verbal processor?" And how can we lean into this to help ourselves understand our feelings, challenges, wins...
7. Two Structural Approaches for Time Blindness
02 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
There are two structural facets when it comes to "time blindness," or, the non-linear perception of time that ADHD'ers experience. The first is extern...
6. Ping Pong Brain
17 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How to embrace your ping-pong spaghetti brain AND get the things done that you care to get done—we embrace our ping-pong spaghetti nature, because t...
5. The 3 Steps to Unshaming
28 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Unshaming is a critical skill in any self-acceptance journey, and especially an ADHD acceptance journey. In this episode I walk you through 3 steps to...
4. All About Body Doubling
20 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is all about body doubling!! Here's how to make your body doubling sessions more effective by using co-regulation, and strategies to body...
3. Intentional Novelty: Adding Sparkle to Your Systems
12 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Here's what to do BEFORE you dive into using traditional ADHD coaching tools: Investigating harm-reductive and de-shaming mindsets for when the novelt...
2. Perfectionism: Do it Badly. On Purpose.
06 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today I'm talking about my top "mindset downloads" for overcoming perfectionism and how to break away from your all-or-nothing thinking. (And a cute s...
1. Sustainable Habits
29 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Hi friends! Welcome to the Connected Divergents Podcast. On this episode, I'm talking about the mindsets & perspectives that are essential in orde...