Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: How To Decode Behavior And Instantly Understand People with Intelligence Behavior Expert Chase Hughes
29 Apr 2025
Who is Chase Hughes and what is his background?
He might still have a voice, but his voice is going to get quieter and quieter because we're looking for evidence and proof before we act confident, which is never going to come.
This is just so interesting to me because how you just described it, I've never heard confidence described that way. I agree 100% with everything that you're saying. And I mean, the fear and I mean, it can be visceral and feeling and I mean, everything that you're explaining is so spot on. How did this become visible?
applicable in the military for you when you were just initially researching and learning about this when it's starting with girls? I don't understand how that ended up taking you into the highest levels of government and military.
It started with a mentor I had. It was a 72 year old intelligence guy, a military intelligence guy. And I had bought this book. I won't say the name of it because I'm going to talk poorly about it. But it was on like these tactics to meet women. I was 20 years old. I was a naive kind of a douchebag. And I tell this guy, we're having lunch together. And I'm a kid. He's agreed to mentor me.
And I bring the book. I've got it in a bag. I'm telling him about this book. I'm excited about it. And he goes, do you have it with you? I said, yeah. He said, put it on the table. So I brought it up there. It's got a girl on the cover. And he said, I want you to flip through there and find one technique that isn't a way to fake or pretend like you have your shit together. Ooh.
And I couldn't do it. And at that point, I was done. But I still understood that all of those things in that book were, if you have your stuff together and you work at a certain level, you are confident. All those fake things are just byproducts of a good person. So once you level up, those things are just a byproduct of your personality or your character.
So I started working in the correctional part of the military in detention facilities. And I initially got on as a counselor and just talking to people and started seeing that this stuff is working. I'm seeing interrogators come in and out. And it got to a point where that stuff became just for this one little facility, it became something that people started to use.
And I thought, wow, I'm going to just figure out a way to package this up and I can replicate it to other people because it started doing a lot of good. And that's kind of how it came into the military side of it.
And that was you transferring confidence to them?
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