Dad Starting Over

When The Nice Guy Turns Into The "Alpha" Dude... And The Ensuing Drama

08 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Ralph examines the changes men undergo when shifting from "nice guys" to more confident "alpha males." He discusses how a personal cr...

Dear DSO: "It's Like When Your Boss Just Decides to Cut Your Pay!"

04 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In the latest episode of 'Dear DSO,' Ralph responds to a question from a participant called "Wordsmith." Wordsmith compares the decline of workplace w...

Dear DSO: "I Feel Like My Wife is Just Using Me in Bed! There's No Connection!"

30 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A follower reaches out and shares the typical "anxious man/avoidant wife" scenario we hear about so often, but this time with one twist: His wife does...

DSO Reacts - Sadia Khan Dropping Truth Bombs About Women and Cheating!

24 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A lot of people have been sending me the link to a video interview between Sadia Khan and Matthew Hussey. In this episode of DSO Reacts, I break down ...

Dear DSO: "Why Are Women So Mad When Men Relax?!"

18 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Dear DSO, Ralph discusses the topic of how men relax and how women perceive it. This subject was brought up by a contributor named ...

A Follow-Up To The "Scarcity" Video (from a live stream event)

14 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ralph examines the psychology behind men's perceived scarcity in the dating world and its effect on their interactions with women. He looks at how thi...

Porn... It Ain't Good For You (from a live stream event)

11 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ralph discusses pornography, sex work, and their psychological and social effects. He starts by examining the historical background of these industrie...

What About Just "Hooking Up" With Women After Divorce? (from a live stream event)

07 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ralph responds to a question from a YouTube viewer, Jason, about the dynamics of hooking up—not dating—after a divorce. Ralph explains the complex...

Dear DSO: "Cheating Ex-Wife Left... But is Now Contacting Me Again!"

04 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ralph addresses a letter from a listener named Dunk, dealing with the aftermath of his wife's infidelity. The episode explores the challenges of handl...

Dear DSO: "Wife Says She Wants Sex... Just Not With Me".

30 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ralph discusses a listener-submitted story from Thomas about relationship issues and maintaining intimacy in marriage. The episode, titled "Wife not w...

Gentlemen: Your Scarcity is Killing You!

27 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ralph discusses the widespread issue of scarcity mindset among men, especially in relationships. He explains the harmful effects of a scarcity mindset...

Lesbian Couples: High Rates of Dead Bedrooms and Divorce!

23 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Ralph delves into the controversial topic of "lesbian bed death" and the unusually high divorce rates among lesbian couples compared ...

The Paternity Testing Myth

20 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ralph delves deep into the emotional traumas many men face due to infidelity and broken relationships. He critically examines the burgeoning trend of ...

Seven Signs That Your Wife May Be Cheating on You

16 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ralph addresses the stigma surrounding infidelity and provides a nuanced perspective on why it might happen. He kicks off by debunking the myth that m...

"I'm Starting to Despise Women!"

13 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ralph delves into an intriguing message from a Facebook follower that serves as a perfect illustration of the typical challenges faced by men in today...

Why Did She Cheat?!

09 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ralph delves deep into the distressing world of infidelity, targeting the psychology behind why women cheat in relationships. Through a blend of data,...

Dear DSO: "We Are Not The Same Since My Wife's Emotional Affair"

06 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ralph addresses a poignant letter from Jay, a long-time listener seeking advice on how to revive the dwindling romance in his marriage. The letter, fi...

Dear DSO: "Wife Says She Enjoys Our Time... But Sometimes She Doesn't Orgasm"

30 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ralph dives into a unique and complex relationship concern that's been submitted by one of our listeners, who goes by the pseudonym "Could be worse." ...

Dear DSO: "Can My OCD Wife Change?"

23 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ralph addresses a deeply personal letter from a listener named Jay, who is grappling with significant intimacy issues in his ten-year marriage. The co...

Dear DSO: "I'm In An Abusive Relationship"

21 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Confused Husband seeks advice from Ralph on handling a toxic marriage where his wife despises his daughter and exhibits abusive behavior. He reveals d...

Dear DSO: "My Cheating Wife Wants Back"

19 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ralph addresses John’s heart-wrenching predicament: his wife’s affair led to their separation, and now she wants to come back. Ralph sheds light o...

Dear DSO: "I'm Divorced and Ready to Get Back Out There. Or Am I...?"

14 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A 50-year-old man, Mister In Between, seeks advice from Ralph on rebuilding his life post-divorce. Diagnosed with depression and mild bipolar disorder...

Dear DSO: "My Wife's Illness Is Impacting Our Relationship"

12 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ralph tackles a heartfelt query from a listener named "Help," who is grappling with the challenges posed by his wife's debilitating condition, POTS (P...

Dear DSO: "My Husband Doesn't Want Me!"

08 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ralph addresses a poignant message from Lana, a 42-year-old woman facing a significant marital dilemma. Despite being attractive, fit, and highly sexu...

"You Only Do This Because I Told You To! It Doesn't Count!" (from a live stream)

22 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ralph addresses Adnor's dilemma about seeking counseling for relationship issues without making it feel like an ultimatum. Drawing from real-life exam...

Staying Sexy in Long-Term Monogamy.... is it Possible? (from live stream)

18 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Can a couple's sex life be sustainable over a the life of strict long-term monogamy? In this episode, Ralph explores the challenges of maintaining a f...

"Men shouldn't get in shape... it makes the wife insecure. It's bad for the relationship!"

15 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A follower on Facebook reached out to me with his point of view about getting in shape. In his mind, it is NOT a good idea! His wife, after all, feels...

The Dating Game for Young Adults (from a live event)

12 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Ralph responds to a question from a listener named Candice about the modern dating scene, which veers dramatically from what many par...

Why Does Female Libido Go Down in Monogamy?! Won't That Scare The Man Away?! (from a DSO Live Stream)

21 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Sexual desire within monogamous relationships has long been a highly nuanced and widely debated subject. A myriad of psychological and anthropological...

Dear DSO: "My Wife Has Suddenly Changed!"

17 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Harry asks his wife to return to work post-pregnancy, which results in her filing for divorce. Their marriage struggles due to frequent disputes, trou...

Dear DSO: "Wife Has Become Withdrawn, Angry, and Has More Mental Breakdowns"

10 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

"Mister Niceguy No More" has written to Ralph about difficulties in his eleven-year marriage, describing his wife's distant and transactional approach...

Dear DSO: "I’m a New Father... And I Was Really Tempted to Cheat (But I Didn’t). Is There Hope for Our Marriage?"

07 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A reader reaches out to share his stress over being a new father and being tempted to almost cheat on his spouse...  What does this mean for him and ...

Dear DSO: Should I Tell My Wife/Roommate About My Cancer Diagnosis?

03 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A reader has a great deal of resentment towards his spouse of 13-15 years of a dead bedroom marriage... but he's recently been diagnosed with cancer. ...

Dad Starting over Is Now Part of the Help for Men Network!

02 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We are proud to introduce our new brand: Help For Men! You can learn more at helpformen.com.The DSO Fraternity, our private group for men only, will n...

How Often Should The Responsive Desire Person Initiate? (with Dr. Psych Mom - from a Live Event)

28 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Psych Mom and Ralph answer a question from a follower: How often should the responsive desire partner actually initiate sex?

From Brofest 2024 - Ralph Talks About Monogamy and Cheating

15 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

"How do I stay positive during a long-term dead bedroom marriage?" (From livestream)

13 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Dear DSO: "Is paying a cosplayer on Only Fans considered cheating?"

09 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Ralph addresses a listener's question about whether subscribing to OnlyFans is considered cheating. Ralph emphasizes that it's not ab...

Dear DSO: "Should I fill out mental health forms for my ex?"

05 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of Dear DSO, Jimmy from Scotland seeks advice on whether he should help his ex-wife with her mental health diagnosis. While he's hesit...

DSO and Dr. Pysch Mom Talk About Dead Bedrooms (from a livestream event)

03 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Dr. Psych Mom and DSO discuss the psychology behind pressuring a spouse about a dead bedroom versus ignoring the issue. They explore ...

Dear DSO: "I Feel Abandoned."

18 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Luke writes in to ask how to overcome feelings of abandonment from his ex-wife. He feels stuck, resentful, and alone after building his life around he...

Dear DSO: "I Feel Like I'm Stuck in a Dead Bedroom!"

15 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

DSO addresses a listener's struggle with a low-sex relationship. DSO explains the dynamics of anxious and avoidant attachment styles and offers insigh...

Dear DSO: "Why Won't He Propose?!"

13 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Vanessa has been engaged for seven years but can't seem to get her partner to commit to marriage. Despite being together for 18 years and having two c...

Should You Continue Doing Family Things with Your Ex? (from a DSO Live Event)

11 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jared, a divorced father, seeks advice on whether to continue doing activities as a family with his ex-wife and kids. The host suggests setting bounda...

Dear DSO: "My Wife is Indifferent About Us."

08 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, DSO explores the common scenario of one partner being anxious and the other avoidant in a relationship. He offers advice on finding a...

Can You Go From Avoidant to Secure? (from a DSO Live event)

06 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, DSO explores the possibility of moving from an avoidant to a secure attachment style in relationships. He emphasizes that both anxiou...

Interview With Coach J

04 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jason, or "Coach J" as he is known by our group, is one of the founding members of the DSO Fraternity and acts as the director for our DSO coaches. J ...

About The "Forgotten Father" Tweet I Posted

28 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, DSO explores the sensitive topic of men feeling forgotten after having children. He shares the negative response he received from wom...

Dear DSO: "Am I Being Weird... Or Should I Be Concerned?"

26 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, DSO addresses a listener's concerns about their wife's suspicious behavior. From late-night phone use to financial infidelity, the si...

Dear DSO: Do I Tell New Gals About My Crazy Ex?

19 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, DSO addresses a common concern: how to explain a difficult divorce without resorting to labeling an ex as "crazy." He advises being o...

Retroactive Jealousy (from a DSO Live Stream event)

19 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, DSO delves into the topic of retroactive jealousy, addressing the insecurities and discomfort that can arise when a partner has had p...

Dear DSO: "I'm in Excellent Shape... But it's Still Not Enough For Her Libido!"

13 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

DSO comes face to face with a conundrum that plagues many married individuals – the struggle for consistent, fulfilling intimacy. The host addresses...

Dear DSO: "I Still Need MORE From My Wife!"

29 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

DSO tackles a sensitive and commonly encountered issue in many marriages: the dynamics of sexual desire and satisfaction. Delve into Daniel's story, a...

Interview With Carla Crivaro - "The Forgotten Man"

26 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I had the pleasure of sitting down for a nice chat with Carla Crivaro from the UK. From her website at carlacrivaro.com:"I started out as a sexually r...

Dear DSO: "Is It Menopause.... Or Something Else?"

22 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

DSO addresses a message from a listener who is experiencing a disparity in libido with his postmenopausal wife. The listener explains that his wife's ...

Dear DSO: I'm A Winner And My Wife Is A Loser!

19 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, DSO responds to a letter from Nate, who is feeling drained and frustrated in his marriage. After a long military career, Nate has com...

Married People Have MORE Sex Than Single People?!

15 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

DSO discusses the statistic that married people have more sex than single people, and whether this means that single individuals should get married to...

Dear DSO: "My Wife Wants To Go To A Bachelorette Party"

12 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, DSO responds to a question from a listener named John Rambo, who is feeling anxious about his wife attending a bachelorette party in ...

Interview With Karen and Catherine From My Divorce Solution

10 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Karen and Catherine offer a service that they call "My Divorce Solution". It's an excellent method for gathering all pertinent information and uncover...

Dear DSO: "Ever Since The Kids, I Feel Like I've Been Put On The Backburner"

08 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

DSO addresses a common issue faced by many men in long-term relationships: feeling neglected and pushed to the back burner after having children. He e...

Dear DSO: "My Wife Is Lazy... Or Depressed?"

04 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

DSO responds to a question from a man named Nick who is frustrated with his wife's lack of contribution to household chores and responsibilities. Nick...

Dear DSO: "What About Scheduling Sex With My Avoidant Wife?"

13 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Lloyd is obviously not too happy with his love life to his wife of twenty years. He labels her as "avoidant", and their scheduled once-per-week intima...

Dear DSO: "My Wife Copes By Having Affairs"

11 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

A follower, JD, reaches out and shares a story that is, unfortunately, pretty common. His wife seems to have flipped out after enduring a pretty norma...

Dear DSO: "I've Been In A Dead Bedroom For Years... And Now I've Fallen For This Younger Gal"

07 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

A follower shares the story of being stuck in a long-term dead bedroom relationship. He has worked on himself and tried like hell to repair the relati...

Dear DSO: "My Wife Cheated Eight Years Ago"

20 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When The Man Discovers His Wife's Secret Sexy Past

17 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Dear DSO: "I've just been told my wife doesn't love me anymore..."

15 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

A follower reaches out and tells the story of his wife who wants nothing more to do with him. It's time that he listens and stops hanging on...You can...

Dear DSO: Have You Ever Heard About An Affair SAVING A Marriage?

11 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

A follower asks if I have ever heard about an affair saving a marriage. "John" says that he has been in a dead bedroom relationship for a while, tried...

Interview With Daniel Priestley: Entrepreneurship And Life

25 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Something a little different for the Dad Starting Over world! I had the pleasure of chatting with one of my favorite business people, Daniel Priestley...

DSO Reacts: That Dead Bedroom Couple Video Everyone Keeps Sending Me

24 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It seems that everyone and their cousin has sent me the link to this video! This is a clip from a UK television show where a therapist sits down with ...

"My Wife Was A Totally Different Person After We Got Married!"

13 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

As they often say, stereotypes don't just fall from the sky. The whole notion of "my wife changed as soon as we got married" is not the NORM, but it's...

Does "Body Count" Really Matter?

11 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

With the loosening of social mores and a broader acceptance of casual physical intimacy, especially in younger adults, it's not a surprise that these ...

Live From Facebook/Youtube/Twitter With Dr. Psych Mom!

09 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Psych Mom and I do an impromptu live chat for our social media followers on October 5, 2023. We had a great discussion and lots of great questions...

My Interview With Heather Ray, The Licensed Sexologist

06 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Heather Ray is a licensed Sexologist based in Texas, but she is able to help clients from all fifty states. Click here to learn more about Heather Ray...

DSO Fraternity Live Meeting (recorded 10/4/23)

04 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This is a recording of a live DSO Fraternity meeting that was held on October 4, 2023. We opened this meeting to the public and had some great convers...

DSO & Austin Talk About Sex After Kids - From Facebook/Youtube Live

18 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

My Interview With Youtuber Schahrzad Morgan

29 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

From Scharzad's website: "After 25 years of marriage, Schahrzad Morgan, mother of three, files for divorce and embarks on a powerful journey of desire...

DSO & Dr. Psych Mom - Do Women Need An Emotional Connection to Experience Sexual Desire?

28 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

"Women need an emotional connection" -- How many times have we heard this? Is it true? Do women absolutely NEED that deeper emotional connection in or...

Time Moves On

27 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I pontificate about how time carries on with or without us, how change is inevitable, and my recent trip to Germany.

DSO & Dr. Psych Mom - Do Women Experience Lower Libido After Marriage?

05 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

DSO and DPM tackle a popular topic: What happens to the average woman's libido after marriage?IMPORTANT LINKS:https://www.liinks.co/dadstartingoverFOL...

DSO & Dr. Psych Mom Go Live on Facebook and Youtube

18 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Here is the recording from the live chat DSO and Dr. Psych Mom did for Facebook and Youtube on 6/16/23. Enjoy!Dad Starting OverThe DSO FraternityDr. P...

DSO & Dr. Psych Mom Go Live on TikTok

30 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Here is a recording of the TikTok Live that I (DSO) and Dr. Psych Mom did on May 19. We chat about a variety of different topics that we hear about fr...

Coach Scott G. Interviews DSO Fraternity Member Andrew And His Wife Sabrina

05 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Coach Scott G. sits down with Andrew (DSO Fraternity member) and his wife Sabrina to talk about how they turned their marriage around.Click here to jo...

My Mom Drives Me Nuts

02 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Interview With Lauren - "The Dadvocate"

28 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

If you follow Dad Starting Over or other male-related relationship talk accounts on social media, you've undoubtedly seen Lauren "The Dadvocate". Laur...

Coach Scott G. Interviews Coach Gustavo

30 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What a great chat! Our own coach Scottie G and Coach Gus get together and talk about Gus' story and what brought him to the world of Dad Starting Over...

Mrs. DSO is Back! Let's talk about sex and marriage, women and accountability/entitlement, and whatever else comes to mind.

09 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Mrs. DSO is back on the podcast and she and I sit to talk about all kinds of good stuff. Video of our conversation is available to our DSO Fraternity ...

The Devouring Mother

07 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What do I often hear from men? "Ever since we had kids, my wife has become SUPER anxious. She seems way too involved in the kids' lives. She is consta...

Public DSO Fraternity Meeting - February 2023

20 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Once again, we conducted an open meeting for the public to come in and learn more about our private group we call the DSO Fraternity. 

Working Out! - A Chat With Coach Vance

30 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I had another opportunity to chat with our very own Coach Vance - the PhD fitness and health expert and member of the DSO Fraternity coaching team. In...

Interview with Dr. Robert Glover - Author of "No More Mr. Nice Guy"

11 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

If you're familiar with the world of "relationship talk for men," then you know Dr. Robert Glover. Considered by many to be the Godfather of the self-...

No, I Am Not Anti-Marriage

08 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

My increased exposure online (Tiktok and Facebook Reels) has led to more people coming out of the woodwork to accuse me of being anti-marriage. Here a...

Dads Dating After Divorce: Interview with Dr. Shawn T. Smith

05 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

From the Dads Dating After Divorce podcast. In this episode, Ralph and Jude sit down to chat with popular author Dr. Shawn T. Smith. Great conversatio...

From TikTok: When the MAN doesn't want s-e-x

14 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

From TikTok: "Why do I keep finding such broken women?"

09 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I've been blowing up on TikTok recently. Millions of new people are discovering DSO on the platform. It's dwarfing all of my other social media platfo...

Interview with Rudy A from TikTok

04 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Dad Starting OverThe DSO FraternityThe Dead Bedroom Fix

Interview with Noor - Our Newest DSO Coach

24 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Interview with "Ray" - Reader and DSO Fraternity Member

27 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The DSO Fraternity

"The Healthy Version of THE TALK"

18 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The DSO Fraternity

New Book! "REAL TALK: No Bullsh*t Life Advice for Young Men"

12 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas