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Mrs DSO and I Talk About Date Nights and Getaways

31 Aug 2022

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Dear DSO: "What if your wife leaves you?"

26 Aug 2022

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A reader points out that I have married yet another Type-A woman... aren't I afraid she will leave me, too? What was I thinking getting married again?...

Dads Dating After Divorce: "Why Divorced Dads Are A Catch!"

12 Aug 2022

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Dear DSO: “I feel like I will never be good enough for my husband.”

04 Aug 2022

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Introducing Steve from Australia - The Newest Member of the DSO Team!

30 Jul 2022

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Are You Using Your Time and Money Wisely... or Are You Just Keeping Busy?

28 Jul 2022

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Dear DSO: “Why does my wife try to sabotage my efforts… but she enjoys the rewards?”

13 Jun 2022

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"Why can't I get a date?!"

06 Jun 2022

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Interview with William Branum of "Naked Warrior Recovery"

04 Jun 2022

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The Rebound Chick

28 May 2022

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The One That Got Away

23 May 2022

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DSO Reacts: Esther Perel and That God-Awful Couple Are Back!

21 May 2022

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If you haven't done so already, go back and listen to the previous "DSO Reacts" podcast episode titled: "You Want Me To Watch The Kids While You Go Ou...

What Can Women Learn From Porn?

20 May 2022

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Okay, porn is not a great thing for men. BUT... it sure is popular. Always has been. Always will be. WHY? What is so damn appealing about it? Is there...

Brofest 2022 - Austin, TX - Roundtable Chat

18 May 2022

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Let's talk about Brofest 2022 in Austin, TX! A few of us who attended the awesome event got together and talked about our thoughts and experiences fro...

Dear DSO: “If she has checked out, why is she trying to hang on and control me?”

16 May 2022

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A reader says that it is obvious that he and his wife have grown apart. She now has a life completely separate from him. Zero sex for years. Why does ...

Don’t Hang Out With Losers

13 May 2022

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Your social group dictates how you frame and process the world around you. Be VERY careful about who you hang out with.

Want An Over-The-Top Fun Sex Life? Here’s Your Prescription.

11 May 2022

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Alright guys, here it is. The plan you’ve been looking for. If you’re an adult male who wonders, “How can I give myself the best chance for livi...

Mrs. DSO and I Talk About Sex After the Baby

08 Apr 2022

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So, how has the new baby affected our sex life? Mrs. DSO and I tackle the subject along with other subjects like women's negative self-talk, the all-e...

The REAL Reason Your Husband Won’t “Open Up” To You

08 Apr 2022

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We've all heard it from women talking about their men: "I wish he would just OPEN UP to me more!" So WHY is it that men seem to be so closed off about...

How to be a Better Wife - Stop the Negative Self-Talk

06 Apr 2022

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Women: You REALLY need to stop with all this "Oh, I'm so fat and old" talk. What does it accomplish?

Accept REALITY and Not What SHOULD Be

30 Mar 2022

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Stop living by the fake book of rules that keep you stifled in life. Stop living in fear. It's time to live in reality and face it head-on.

Dear DSO: "What About Menopause?"

28 Mar 2022

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A reader dating an older woman wants to know if others struggle with a partner going through menopause.

Interview with Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten - "Dr. Psych Mom"

26 Mar 2022

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Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten is a clinical psychologist in private practice and the founder of drpsychmom.com. You can also listen to her podcast "The ...

Dear DSO: "I'm a Ladies Man"

25 Mar 2022

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A reader shares that he is the quintessential ladies man... and he cheated on his wife. Can he get her back?

The Paradigm Shift

23 Mar 2022

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That sudden shift in mindset. Everything looks different. Everything becomes clear. You have worth. That's a paradigm shift.

Dear DSO: “Can I Become The Lover To My Wife After Always Being a Provider?”

21 Mar 2022

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A man wakes up and recognizes that the foundation of his marriage has been based on his role as provider and his wife has no interest in him as a love...

Dear DSO: "Should I Call It Quits?"

18 Mar 2022

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A reader realizes that he is in an abusive relationship and the severity is escalating. Should he leave?

Dear DSO: "Is Fitness Really That Important?"

16 Mar 2022

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A reader points out that his friend is overweight and has a lot of luck with women. Doesn't this disprove the need for physical fitness to attract wom...

The Lure of the Crazy Woman

14 Mar 2022

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Ah, crazy women. They sure do make life... interesting. That is until they do all they can to blow up everything you know and love. Be careful.

Dear DSO: "I Caught My Wife Having an Emotional Affair"

11 Mar 2022

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A reader shares an unfortunately common story. He caught his wife in an emotional affair, and she refuses to stop pursuing the new affair... even afte...

You Can Be Whoever The Hell You Want to Be

09 Mar 2022

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Yes, it's simple... but it's going to take some work. You can do it. Trust me.

Dear DSO: "What's Up With You and Open Marriages?"

07 Mar 2022

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A reader wants to know why I appear to be so negative about open marriages.

Dear DSO: How Can I Date Casually But Still Be A Nice Guy?

04 Mar 2022

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A reader wants to play the part of Mr. Playboy, but he doesn't want to hurt any feelings and leave broken women in his wake.

Mrs. DSO and I Talk About Money

21 Feb 2022

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There are a handful of major issues that can bring down a marriage. Sex is probably number one, but close behind it is MONEY. Mrs. DSO and I talk abou...

How to be a Better Wife - Stop Nagging

16 Feb 2022

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Nagging... we all know it. We all hate it. Ladies, you have to cut it out.

People Don't Want to See How the Sausage is Made

13 Feb 2022

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Some men really like to overshare. They want to involve their wife/partner in all of their hardships, struggles and wins along the way. I tend to err ...

DSO Reacts: From the Show "Loose Women" - Saira Khan Opens Up About Avoiding Sex With Her Husband

28 Jan 2022

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This is the first time I've heard of the show "Loose Women" on UK television... and oh boy, it doesn't disappoint! In this episode, we listen to one o...

Mansplaining and Overperception Bias... Yes Men Can Be Annoying Too

26 Jan 2022

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It's okay to admit our shortcomings and poke fun at ourselves. We're human. We can do better sometimes. For example... let's look at "mansplaining" an...

DSO Reacts: "You Want Me To Watch The Kids While You Go Out With Another Guy?"

24 Jan 2022

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In this episode, I breakdown an episode from Esther Perel's "Where Should We Begin?" podcast. As the title implies, Esther talks to a couple that is s...

DSO Reacts: Joe Rogan and Dr. Jordan Peterson Talk About "Enforced Monogamy" and Incels

14 Jan 2022

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This is my first stab at my version of a "reaction" video (this is audio from a video on Youtube). In this clip, Joe Rogan and Jordan Peterson talk ab...

Dear DSO: “I don’t have sexual desire… but that’s no reason to leave me.”

11 Jan 2022

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A good example of "entitlement". A female reader says that she has zero libido, has endured sex with her husband for years, finally admitted to him sh...

Mrs DSO and I Talk About Female Entitlement

07 Jan 2022

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Women, specifically American women, sure do seem to have a sense of unearned entitlement. Where does that come from? What can you do about it?

Dear DSO: ""The Dead Bedroom Fix works... but only if I continuously put in work."

29 Dec 2021

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A reader emails me about his dilemma: Sure, the stuff outlined in The Dead Bedroom Fix worked for him... but he always has to put in some kind of work...

MGTOW - "Men Going Their Own Way"

27 Dec 2021

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Let's chat about an internet buzzword that you may have come across: MGTOW. Who or what is it? Why are men "going their own way"?

Testosterone - Coach Vance & DSO Chat About the Popular Topic

22 Dec 2021

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As men age, our testosterone values naturally plummet... and many are taking to Testosterone Replacement Therapy (TRT) to dial back the hands of time...

Count Your Blessings

15 Dec 2021

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Let's take a quick trip through recent history to put things into perspective. We don't know how lucky we are. We owe it to those who came before us t...

Hypergamy

09 Dec 2021

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Let's talk about a popular internet buzzword: Hypergamy. What is it, exactly, and why is it such a hot-button topic for so many men?

Interview with GS Youngblood - Author of "The Masculine in Relationship"

06 Dec 2021

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Interview with Jay - An Old Internet Friend from Pre-DSO Days

01 Dec 2021

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Neuroticism

29 Nov 2021

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Let's talk about Neuroticism, one of the "big five" personality traits. From what I can tell, this is the most troublesome trait for men. If you are a...

From the Archives: Seven Signs That Your Wife is Cheating

17 Nov 2021

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Introducing Coach Vance! Let's Chat About Supplements

15 Nov 2021

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Interview with Faisal Khokhar

10 Nov 2021

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Faisal Khokhar, of masculine.co, was kind enough to chat and tell us his story of going from self-professed computer geek, to a divorced father of two...

The Three Types of Married Men

08 Nov 2021

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If you are a people-watching nerd like me, you just love to get to know people and their stories... and then promptly start to categorize them like la...

So... I Got Fired From My Day Job

04 Nov 2021

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Yep... the boss beat me to the punch. I was "let go" from my biggest source of income. Well, now things are going to get real!

Interview with "Jude the Divorced Dadvocate"

01 Nov 2021

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Jude has been there and done that and has the scars to prove. He is a divorced father of three who has devoted his time and effort to helping out Divo...

Interview with Ben and Nikki from "Our Happy Divorce"

25 Oct 2021

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Interview with "Hank" - A Reader and DSO Fraternity Member Who is Going Through a Divorce

19 Oct 2021

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Hank's story will be familiar to many of you. He was way too quick jumping into a new relationship and five years later realizes that no matter what h...

Interview With Michael - Reader and DSO Fraternity Member Who Transformed Himself in Five Months

14 Oct 2021

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Michael is a reader of The Dead Bedroom Fix and DSO Fraternity member who is admittedly still a work in progress but he has made HUGE strides in just ...

Post-Nashville DSO Fraternity Roundtable Discussion

23 Sep 2021

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Mrs. DSO and I Talk About What Women Think of My Book, "The Dead Bedroom Fix"

21 Sep 2021

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Sex/Life - Mrs. DSO and I Talk About the Popular Netflix Series

20 Sep 2021

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Jack London Interviews His Sister, Kristi Vaccaro, of F.I.T. LV. They Discuss the "Type A" Woman

18 Sep 2021

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Kim Anami and I Talk About Sex and Relationships

09 Sep 2021

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My Interview on the DadTough Podcast - We Discuss The Dead Bedroom Fix and Other Fun Topics

07 Sep 2021

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From "Vulnerability" to "Ew... what kind of man are you?"

30 Aug 2021

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Some men will tell you that you need to "suck it up" and never show emotion. Some men tell you to emote freely as much as you want. There's truth in b...

Interview with Scott and Gail - A Dead Bedroom Fix couple talks about Scott's transformation and the effect on their marriage.

24 Aug 2021

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The "Grey Rock" Method

19 Aug 2021

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When you are dealing with a toxic person, you DO NOT engage with their emotional behavior. This is a typical manipulative tactic to reel you over to t...

"What's up with women and mental health issues?" - with Mrs. DSO

17 Aug 2021

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"Why do guys hang on in toxic relationships?" - with Mrs. DSO

15 Aug 2021

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This chat with Mrs. DSO goes all over the place for an hour. We talk about men and their sense of value, what "real love" means, when to call it quits...

Mrs. DSO and I Talk About The New Baby

09 Aug 2021

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The New Baby is Here!

27 Jul 2021

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Newness and The "Coolidge Effect"

28 Jun 2021

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Gaslighting

01 Jun 2021

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Let's talk about the all-too-familiar manipulation technique known as "gaslighting".... making the victim question their reality.

Mrs DSO and I Chat About Dating, Kids, Baggage and Obstacles

28 May 2021

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Interview With Danny - Reader and Fraternity Member Who Just Discovered That His Long-term Partner Has Been Cheating

18 May 2021

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Danny's story may sound familiar to some of you. He's your typical "lady's man". He has never really had a problem getting women. In his mid 40's now,...

Interview With Dr. Scott - Reader and DSO Fraternity Member Who Came Back from Depression and Suicidal Ideation... to Now the Best His Marriage Has Ever Been

18 May 2021

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What a great story! From rock-bottom to a marriage straight out of a Hollywood movie. We can all learn from Dr. Scott's story.

Chat with Thomas, DSO Fraternity Meeting Host and Coach, About His Marriage and Upcoming Divorce

11 May 2021

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Thomas, a longtime member of the DSO Fraternity and also DSO coach, open up about his second marriage coming to an end. Good chat about what got him t...

Ultimate Responsibility

10 May 2021

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Interview - Suzanne Venker

05 May 2021

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Relationship NEEDS

30 Apr 2021

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The needs for a man and the needs for a woman... TOTALLY different.

Mommy's Coping Skills

29 Apr 2021

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Drinking a bottle of wine every night is not cute... it's called alcoholism.

Baggage

28 Apr 2021

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Let's talk about baggage... all that negative stuff from your past that still has an impact on you today.

Shit Tests vs. Toxic Behavior

27 Apr 2021

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My Review of "Untrue" by Wednesday Martin

25 Apr 2021

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My review of the book, "Untrue" by Wednesday Martin... an interesting book from a feminist perspective that questions all there is we think we know ab...

Nice Guys and Vulnerability - With Jack London and Austin

22 Apr 2021

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"My Wife Wouldn't Do That."

15 Apr 2021

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So many men just can't believe that their wives would be capable of such awful behavior. Why is that? Let's discuss the phenomenon of putting a woman ...

My Story - Part 3

14 Apr 2021

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Lovers vs. Providers... Alphas vs. Betas

13 Apr 2021

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Let's talk about the difference between the typical Lover and Provider... a.k.a. the Alpha and Beta man.

My Story - Part 2

11 Apr 2021

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My Story - Part 1

07 Apr 2021

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MGTOW, Incels and Red Pill... Oh My!

05 Apr 2021

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Were There Dead Bedrooms in the Good Ol' Days?

25 Mar 2021

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Top 10 Things I Hear in Coaching Sessions

23 Mar 2021

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My Review of Emily Nagoski's "Come As You Are"

22 Mar 2021

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Dear DSO: "Isn't It Easier to Just Start Over?"

16 Mar 2021

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Boundaries

16 Mar 2021

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Lesbian Bed Death

16 Mar 2021

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Responsibility and Peter Pan Syndrome

03 Mar 2021

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Readers often send me Jordan Peterson videos. He has some great stuff... but is he missing something crucial when he props up the family as the pinnac...

Austin and Shannon - A Reader and His Wife Discuss The Dead Bedroom Fix and The Impact on Their Marriage

09 Feb 2021

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