Have you ever felt stuck behind someone who clearly shouldn't be leading? Or maybe you've been secretly wondering if you're supposed to be out front yourself? I've been thinking a lot about lead singers and band members lately — and what it really means to know your role. Most people never decide. They drift. And drifting costs years. Whether you're 25 or 55, figuring out whether you're meant to lead or support changes everything. I want to help you get clear on your answer today. Let's do this. Featured Story A few years back, I was playing in the band again. I needed to feed my family, so I took jobs that kept me in the background — reliable, dependable, useful. And honestly? The organizations loved it. But inside, something kept pulling at me. I knew I was supposed to be up front. That feeling never went away. I finally realized nobody was going to walk over and say, "Hey, you should step up and lead." I had to self-appoint. The moment I stopped waiting for permission and started going after what I wanted, everything shifted. People followed. They always do when you stop auditioning for your own life. Important Points * Most people don't struggle with ability — they struggle with role confusion, and it costs them years of their life. * Real lead singers don't audition for their own lives — they walk to the mic like they were absolutely born to be there. * Nobody's coming to pull you out of the background — the biggest door that opens is when you decide to self-appoint. Memorable Quotes * Confidence is not the same as calling, and confident people tend to step on those with calling. * Staying in the band too long starts to feel like a slow suffocation — you deserve something so much better than that. * The biggest door that will ever open is when you decide you're self-appointed and go after what you really want. Scott's Three-Step Approach * Decide right now if you're wired to lead or wired to support — drifting without that clarity will cost you years. * Stop waiting for permission and self-appoint — step boldly to the mic and own the role you know deep down is yours. * Accept the visibility, the responsibility, and the criticism — that's what separates leaders from band members. Chapters 0:00 - Back in the saddle after two rough weeks 0:50 - Notes From Scott — a hallway pep talk for you 1:58 - Why people quit: playing the wrong role 2:45 - Lead singers vs. band members — know the difference 5:49 - When great leaders get pushed to the back row 8:10 - The decision: lead singer or band member? 10:20 - Self-appoint and finally step to the mic Connect With Me Search for the Daily Boost on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify If you enjoy the Daily Boost, you might like Notes From Scott. A few mornings each week, I send a short note with something I've been thinking about or noticing lately. Sometimes those ideas turn into podcast episodes later. You can sign up at https://notesfromscott.com. • Email: [email protected] • Main Website: https://motivationtomove.com • YouTube: https://youtube.com/dailyboostpodcast • Instagram: https://instagram.com/heyscottsmith • Facebook Page: https://facebook.com/motivationtomove • Facebook Group: https://dailyboostpodcast.com/facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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