Somebody sent me a message the other day saying I seem like such a positive guy — and then something clicks, and I go negative and ruin their day. I've heard it before, and it tells me something about how people think about positivity. I am positive. Absolutely. But I've spent enough years doing this to know that positivity by itself doesn't get you where you want to go. Sometimes it just makes you feel better about staying put. Today I'm talking about what happens when you pair positivity with truth — and why that's where peace actually lives. Featured Story I worked with a woman a few years back who everyone loved being around. She had one of those smiles — you just wanted to be her. She walked into a room and took it over. But underneath, she was miserable. She'd trained herself to reframe everything so fast that she never actually dealt with anything. Bad quarter at work? All part of the process. Marriage falling apart? Just growing in different directions. Her positivity had become a shield, and behind it, nothing was getting better. I asked her one question: "What would happen if you just admitted this isn't working?" She immediately broke down in tears. Nobody had ever given her permission to be honest. Important Points Positivity isn't the problem — positivity without truth is. Stay upbeat, but don't pretend the hard stuff isn't there. When being positive becomes the goal instead of the tool, it stops working and keeps you smiling in the same spot. Peace doesn't come from avoiding hard feelings — it comes from looking at them clearly and moving through them. Memorable Quotes "Positivity by itself doesn't get you everywhere — sometimes it just makes you feel better about staying where you are." "All the years I spent trying to be the most positive guy in the room, smiling through everything — that exhausted me." "A positive person says things will work out — a practical person says the same and looks at the ugly stuff in the way." Scott's Three-Step Approach Pick one area of your life where you've been staying positive but avoiding something that needs your honest attention. Look at it directly without reframing or rushing past it — just name what's true, even if it feels uncomfortable. Stay positive while you fix it — real peace comes from facing the hard parts, not from pretending they don't exist. Chapters 0:02 - Happy Friday, and a note about meeting listeners 1:52 - That message about positivity going sideways 4:19 - The woman whose smile hid something deeper 5:52 - When positivity becomes the goal, not the tool 8:30 - The tyranny of positivity and emotional agility 10:26 - How to be positive and practical at the same time 12:23 - The most positive thing I ever stopped doing Connect With Me Search for the Daily Boost on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify Want more motivation from me? Sign up for Notes From Scott at https://notesfromscott.com and get short emails a few mornings each week with my latest thoughts—often before they become podcasts. Email: [email protected] Main Website: https://motivationtomove.com YouTube: https://youtube.com/dailyboostpodcast Instagram: https://instagram.com/heyscottsmith Facebook Page: https://facebook.com/motivationtomove Facebook Group: https://dailyboostpodcast.com/facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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