The “Village” We Romanticize vs. the Village We Actually Build

Your 20s are basically one ongoing identity crisis — dating feels confusing, friendships feel different than they used to, and everyone seems to be overwhelmed, healing, or “protecting their peace.” In this episode, Amelia and Lilly talk about one of the most underrated parts of dating in your 20s: the people around you matter just as much as the person you’re dating.This is a conversation about friendship, emotional labor, reciprocity, and what it actually means to build a village — not just want one. Because the truth is, friendships in your 20s don’t happen by accident. They take intention, vulnerability, and a willingness to show up even on the days you’d rather hide under a blanket.If dating is about who you’re becoming, then friendship is the support system that gets you there.TakeawaysWhy friendships feel harder to maintain in your 20sThe pressure to “protect your peace” and how it impacts connectionEmotional labor as an investment, not a burdenReciprocity vs. scorekeepingWhy crisis moments don’t build friendship — consistency doesLosing friends, outgrowing friends, and navigating changing dynamicsBeing a “villager”: how to actually show up for your peopleThe small, mundane moments that make friendships feel safeUnderstanding when someone can’t show up (and when it’s a pattern)Related Episodes:Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing?Looking Back, Moving Forward: How Our Podcast Changed Our Relationships With Oren MattesonDating In Your 20s Anonymous CornerWe’d love to hear from you! Check out the anonymous DIY20s Form. It’s a safe, judgment-free space to share what’s going on in your love life.Connect:Lilly Wehman: Millennium | LinkedInAmelia Abernathy: Millennium | LinkedInThis podcast is powered by Millennium Counseling Center in Chicago, IL. To learn more visit: millenniumhope.com

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