If you’ve ever bent a decision around “not wanting to feel guilty,” this one’s for you. Today we separate guilt (outward, action/outcome-focused: “I did something wrong”) from shame (inward, identity-focused: “I am wrong”). Which matters because when you can spot authentic emotions that help you repair or realign—you can drop the inauthentic, habitual stuff that only fuels people-pleasing, FOPO, and misaligned decisions. Here’s where we go: The fast distinction: Guilt vs. Shame What’s usually going on when we feel “guilty” for a choice (hint: you’re probably shaming yourself) How authentic emotions guide useful repair vs. how shame paralyzes Questions to sort authentic vs. inauthentic shame/guilt (and act accordingly) A boundary example from real life 👉 Links! Grab it for free! 5 Things Clear-headed Decision Makers Get Right Book your VIP End-of-Year Session: Make the decisions you need to now to end 2025 strong! Join the waitlist for an exclusive discount to 2026's Decision Ease Program Find out the best way we can work together

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