Decoding Attachment Styles
Episodes
Healing and Understanding Avoidant Attachment
22 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
One of the most sought after answers in our time right now is how to manage a relationship with an Avoidant Attached person and, what is really going ...
FA Came In Strong and Started To Back- Peddle - Prerecorded Session
11 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Many anxious and secure attached persons have dated avoidant attached persons who seemed really ready for a long term committed relationships until......
How To Hold Avoidants Accountable
08 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Many of us believe that holding an avoidant accountable means talking to them like they are an idiot and we are their parent. How many of us liked it ...
Physical Intimacy After Breakup But They Still Work Together- Prerecorded Session
04 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
At first, he was open to communicating about their needs. He seemed keen on trying to be better. They were great together - both feeling safe to be vu...
Why Holidays Are Overwhelming for Avoidants and What to Do
24 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feels like your avoidant partner never wants to do anything during the holidays? Avoidant attached persons can have a love/hate relationship wit...
Stuck in a Situationship? How Your Attachment Style Makes Breakups So Hard
20 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
She thought everything was fine. Then, he dropped a bombshell/ “I'm not sure I'm in love with you anymore.”Trying to be understanding, s...
3 Steps to Winning an Avoidant Ex Bach
17 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Is your heart aching for an avoidant ex? This episode is your essential guide to navigating this incredibly painful and confusing situation. We cut th...
Into the Mind of An Avoidant
06 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today we dive into the mind of an avoidant- - what makes them shut down? - what are the thinking when they shut down? - what are the feeling when t...
How To Respond To Avoidants
28 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You’re doing “the talk wrong and I’ll help you fix it.First, think - an avoidant brain is not a secure brain. You can’t talk to it like it’s...
Magic & Mayhem- When Two Avoidants Date
23 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
It can be intoxicating when two avoidants meet. There is chemistry and calm. But what happens when there is too much chemistry and calm for two people...
Love Bombed, Disregarded and Discarded By An Avoidant
17 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Sarah felt seen and validated until things turned for the worse with her avoidant attached partner. He then got up and left. You will see yourself in...
Avoidant to Secure Navigating a Relationship with an Avoidant
10 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
It wasn’t easy for her , but Sarah felt like she had no choice but to shut herself away or withdraw from the demands and overwhelm - even if that ...
Blindsided, Betrayed but Not Broken
03 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Very little is more devasting than the condition of being blindsided and betrayed by an avoidant attached persons. Sure they have their reasons but ...
Why It’s Hard To Walk Away From Someone With Different Attachment Style
30 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You know that you should walk away yet it is so difficult for you to pull the plug on this Relationship. You might’ve even tried to leave in the pas...
Why Your Avoidant Partner Wants the Relationship But Hates the Label
25 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Imagine craving the warmth of a campfire. You love the light, the comfort, the shared stories. You want to be close enough to feel its heat. But the m...
Fearful Avoidant Talks About Self-Sabotaging
19 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Sarah (name changed) has been a relationship with a fearful avoidant for almost a year. All was going well until it got rocky. She now wants to try ag...
Why Your Ex May Or May Not Respond To Your Text
15 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You hit send. You see the “Delivered” tick turn to “Read.” And then... nothing. The silence is louder than any notification. Your mind starts ...
The Push-Pull and Navigating Second Chances
11 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When you're in a relationship shaped by attachment insecurities, the questions are complex, urgent, and deeply personal. In this episode of Deco...
Is Space Without Contact Okay?
18 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Is it okay for your partner to take space and drop off the face of the earth without responding to your texts or calls? Not if you’re in a serious c...
How Long Does Rebound Relationships Last
11 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode shares the time line in which the avoidant show interested in the rebound, starts to withdraws and goes back to their ex. The episode ...
Why Avoidant Get Into Rebounds
07 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is what we are talking about today-Why avoidants rush into reboundsThe negative consequences of rebound relationshipsWhether avoidants come back ...
How to Set Boudaries When Giving Another Chance
30 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Setting buddies after giving someone a second chance can feel tricky. We want to let them back into our lives but how do we do it with light lagging t...
Don’t Feel Like The Priority? Listen to this
25 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We all want to feel like the priority in the relationship but this is often not felt when in a relationship with an avoidant attached person. But is t...
Simple Way To Know Your Attachment Style
20 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
It can be confusing spotting your attachment style or knowing exactly which is your partners attachment style. This podcast simplifies the attachment ...
How Co-Dependency Ruins Your Relationship But Doesn’t Have To
16 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find you’re in a co-dependent relationship that is affecting your relationship? Maybe you need them too much, or perhaps you don’t want t...
Should You Stay Single and Wait For Secure Attached Partner
29 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Should you leave early Relationship and heal or stay single until you find someone who is securely attached? Is it that simple? Better yet, would it b...
Understanding and Healing Avoidant Attachment.
24 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
One of the most taught after answers in our time now is how to manage a relationship with an Avoidant Attached person and, what is really going on in ...
What Are The Signs That An Avoidant Ex Is Forever Gone?
21 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is a recording of the regular Wednesday live Instagram. On today’s episode we answered these questions 👇…and more…What are the signs tha...
Taking Back Your Power When Forgiving Someone For Betraying You
15 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I forgive you’ doesn’t mean ‘I trust you yet.’ Why true forgiveness demands time, boundaries, and self-grace. A raw look at healing after betr...
Why It Hurts To Leave Even When You Know You Should
13 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
It’s easy for someone to look at your relationship and think that it should not be lasting as long as it does. You may even know that the relationsh...
How to Bring Back An Ex - Wednesday Live 7th May
09 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Every Wednesday, I have a Live on Instagram where I answer questions sent in by followers on that platform. Here is a recorded copy of it. The questi...
The Anxious Avoidant Trap And How to Get Out
07 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Here’s a story you’ve lived before, even if you don’t realize it yet.You meet someone. The connection is immediate, intoxicating—like a chemic...
Discarded, Ghosted- What To Do? Wed Live
28 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
About 10 questions were answered on my usual Wednesday morning Instagram live, which has been uploaded here for your benefit. Some of the questions a...
The Difference Between Dismissive and Fearful Avoidant
09 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
today we switched it up a little and decided to share my Instagram Wednesday live answers with you here on this podcast.Feel free to send me your ques...
Why Is My Ex Suddenly Posting So Much? A Sign They Want Attention?
07 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Is My Ex Posting More on Social Media to Get My Attention?It’s hard to ignore when your ex suddenly becomes extra active online—posting more selfi...
Normal Behaviors That Hurt Your Relationship
31 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You value your independence, need plenty of space, and rarely rely on others—it’s just how you’re wired. But what if your ‘normal’ way of ha...
What Does Healthy Attachment Look Like
18 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re worried that you’ll never have a secure attachment to be in a relationship, you’re not alone. However, it’s a lie as it’s possible...
Lessons I’ve Learned For Better Relationships
07 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find that it’s confusing to know exactly what your partner wants? If your answer is yes, then this is the episode for you. Welcome to Decodi...
Avoidant Pulls Away When You Ask For Validation
27 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Why and Avoidant Attached pulls away when you ask for validation and what you can do. This Podcast addresses that.Grab your pen and paper because this...
Boundaries After Breakup
21 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we dive into the complexities of navigating boundaries and expectations after a breakup between an anxious and avoidant attachment st...
Why Boundaries Aren’t Working
19 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You’ve probably been trying to set boundaries with your Avoidant Attached partner for a while now, but feel like you’re not getting anywhere. Or p...
Signs of Avoidant Attachment
31 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Learning about the avoidance attachment, to be one of the hottest topics. This episode helps us to uncover everything we need to know about our Av...
Actions For Boundaries- Not Words
17 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Many times we think that we have to set our boundaries by speaking up. What I find is that by showing our boundaries we get more results. In this I...
My Avoidant Attached Partner Shuts Me Out With Sex
30 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It can be heartbreaking when we are rejected when making an attempt to be physically close to a partner. In this episode, I answer one of your questio...
Is Avoidant Attached Responsible For Showing Up? Can Premature Birth Account For Anxious Attachment Style
29 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It is frustrating when our partner knows what we need, and they are still unable, sometimes unwilling, to provide that for us. Are they responsible fo...
When Avoidant Attached Gets Overwhelmed With Work-Life Balance
27 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We may be adding pressure to the relationship without even realizing it. Sometimes it’s difficult for us to balance our work and our relationship, a...
How To Heal Insecurities
24 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Healing, our insecurities, can go a very far away and helping our relationships to flourish. Insecurities can add a burden on the relationship and can...
Narcissism and Avoidant Attachment Style
22 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It can be confusing when you’re with someone who’s got to avoid attachment style and they’re acting like what we believe a narcissist would act ...
Avoidant Attached Broke Up Suddenly
23 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This is a common phenomenon that most people with an anxious attachment style will experience if they dated someone with an avoidant attachment style....
Avoidant Overwhelm With Texting. Why?
18 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This episode helps you to appreciate why and Avoidant Attached person may feel overwhelmed with text messaging and what it means when they don’t res...
When TO reach Out After 3 Months Of No Contact
11 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It’s tricky to know when to reach out to an avoidant attached partner. This episode. helps you to make that decision, but also talks about white...
WHY AVOIDANT ATTACHED CHEATS
15 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Avoidance styles play significant role in shaping our behaviors and interactions in relationships. Individuals with an avoidant attachment style, may ...
7 REASONS AVOIDANT ATTACHED AVOID CONFLICTS
27 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You’re probably trying to understand why it is your partner does not engage in conflict or worse, they walk away when a conflict begins. What can ev...
The Human Behind The Avoidant
04 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We’re all very interested in what happens in the mind of a person who’s got an avoidant attachment style. This podcast may be for you if you’re ...
BLACK CAT- GOLDEN RETRIEVER & ATTACHMENT STYLES
28 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The goal is not to mimic the energy of a golden retriever or a black cat, but embrace our authentic self and build secure attachments that allow us to...
Does The Attraction Return - Avoidant Attachment
06 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The question is does the attraction return after an avoidant ex partner leaves the relationship. And how long does it take for that attraction to retu...
TAKE CONTROL IN HOW YOU DATE
26 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Consistency is incredibly important when we’re trying to build a healthy foundation for a healthy relationship. However, the way we react and respon...
WHY AVOIDANT ATTACHED PERSON NEED SPACE AND WHAT YOU CAN DO TO HELP
02 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You might be confused as to why your avoidant attached partner needs as much space or perhaps why they detach and disappear for days. This episode may...
GHOSTING- Why They Do That
27 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ghosting is a phenomenon where one person abruptly cuts off all communication with another without any explanation or warning. This can leave the pers...
Secure and Anxious Attachment Styles
15 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Relationships can be complex, especially when individuals with different attachment styles come together. The dynamic between someone with a secure at...
Impact of Unhealed Trauma Avoidant Attachment
12 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Individuals with an avoidant attachment style often struggle with forming and maintaining close connections. If left unhealed, this attachment style c...
The Repetition of Attracting Similar Partners - Change the Patter
14 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wondered why you seem to attract the same kind of partner repeatedly? It's a common phenomenon many individuals experience and ofte...
AVOIDANT ATTACHED REVEAL TIMELINE
09 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In the realm of relationships, understanding attachment styles can shed light on the complexities of human behavior. One such attachment style is avoi...
Becoming securely attached insight
07 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This is a small insight on the power of truly loving ourselves.Subscribe to receive updates on everything on attachment, styles and healing, yours, as...
WHY AN AVOIDANT ATTACHED FEEL OBLIGATED IN RELATIONSHIP
06 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Quick insight into why someone with an avoidant attachment style may feel like a relationship is an obligation.Subscribe for more insight into attachm...
PUSH AND PULL BETWEEN ANXIOUS AND AVOIDANT
27 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode focuses on navigating the push and pull between anxious and avoidant attachment styles. Join me as we unravel the complexities of these ...
DATING SOMEONE WITH AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE
20 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
While it can be a challenge to date someone with an avoidant attachment style, understanding why they want to be with you, but are often afraid, can h...
INSIDE ANXIOUS ATTACHED MINDS
27 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to "Inside Anxious Minds," where we delve into the intricate labyrinth of thoughts within the mind of an anxiously attached individu...
WHAT ARE THEY THINKING? - THE MINDS OF ANXIOUS AND AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE
10 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Understanding someone with a different attachment style is similar to learning a new language because it requires us to learn new ways of expressing a...
DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ANXIOUS ATTACHED AND HAVING ANXIETY
21 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we dive into the fascinating topic of attachment styles and distinguish between being anxiety-prone due to an anxious attachment styl...
5 THINGS TO HEAL ATTACHMENT STYLE
09 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we will be discussing 5 important steps to begin your healing journey.✅ Step 1: Recognize Your Attachment Style - The first step to...
HEALING ATTACHMENT STYLE WHILE IN A RELATIONSHIP
05 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to this episode on Healing Attachment Style While in a Relationship! This podcast focuses on how to heal your attachment style and build a mo...
HOW TO MANAGE ATTACHMENT STYLES
12 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It is difficult to manage attachment styles because they tend to be deeply ingrained in our personalities and are often formed during our early childh...
SETTING BOUNDARIES WITH ATTACHMENT STYLES
05 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Setting boundaries is different for every attachment style because each attachment style has different needs, fears, and beliefs around relationships....
BUILDING STRONGER BONDS WITH AN AVOIDANT ATTACHED PARTNER
26 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Having a strong, healthy relationship with a partner who has an avoidant attachment style can be a challenging task. However, building strong bonds wi...
HAPPY RELATIONSHIPS WITH ANXIOUS ATTACHED
17 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Having a happy and healthy relationship with someone who has an anxious attachment style can take some work, but it is definitely possible! Here are a...
EASIER RELATIONSHIPS WITH AVOIDANT ATTACHED PARTNERS
06 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If we want a successful and happy relationship, that is also fun, with a person who has an avoidant attachment style, we have to start with empathy an...
WHAT IS YOUR ATTACHMENT SYLE?
30 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Your attachment style is like a blueprint for a house you want to build. You need to know what materials, expectations, etc., you need to make sure th...
WHAT ARE ATTACHMENT STYLES?
28 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Some people break up and jump into another relationship while some sit around waiting for their partner to come back. Attachment styles matter👇👉...