The wikiHow article "How to End a Family Fight" provides ten tips for navigating and resolving conflicts within a family.The article suggests toremain calm during a family dispute. If you feel yourself becoming angry, take a break to calm down by doing something such as going for a walk, breathing deeply, or counting to ten.The article recommendscalling a family meeting to discuss issues. This allows everyone to speak and feel heard. If the problem involves extended family, consider a video call.When someone is speaking,listen to everyone. Allow each family member to share their perspective without interruption. Even if you disagree, let them finish, and then you can address your concerns when it's your turn.While listening,maintain neutral body language. Avoid actions like rolling your eyes, as this can escalate the situation. Keep a neutral facial expression and a calm tone of voice.Communicate your needs by explaining how you feel and what you want to change. Remind people to let you finish speaking, if needed. For example, explain how unequal treatment makes you feel.Use "I" language tofocus on your feelings rather than blaming others. Instead of saying "You never listen to me," say "When you talk over me, it makes me feel like I don’t have a say in what the family does".If you are not directly involved,try not to take sides. Offer unbiased advice and avoid picking sides, as this can worsen the conflict. If you are an adult and feel the situation requires it, suggest bringing in a mediator like a therapist.Work together tocome up with a resolution. Find a solution that everyone can agree on, even if it requires some compromise. If you’re not involved, encourage the others to find a resolution.If the discussion becomes too heated,leave the area. Let everyone know you can continue the discussion when they can be civil. If you are a child and feel in danger, talk to a trusted adult.If your family is struggling to resolve the issue,talk with a mental health professional. A therapist can help you navigate the issues and find a solution. You can also seek individual therapy to help you cope with family problems, particularly if your family is against therapy or you live far away from them.According to the article, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Dr. Jacob Christenson suggests that when family members create "triangles" by talking to someone other than the person they are upset with, the role of the person they confide in should be to encourage them to interact with the other person and help them identify the source of the conflict.

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