It’s one thing to pick up a paddle sport on a whim. It’s another thing entirely to realize (somewhere between a rec game and an invite-only underground games scene) that this “casual hobby” has started organizing your calendar, your social life, and, subtly, your sense of self. This week, Casie and Lauren sit down with Clare Frank, former Chief of Fire Protection for the state of California, longtime leader in wildfire response, and now author of Just One More Game. What begins as a conversation about a pickleball obsession quickly turns into something more revealing: what happens when a life built on urgency, mission, and high stakes suddenly slows down… and a game steps in to fill the space. Clare didn’t set out to join the pickleball community. She showed up in flip-flops to watch. What followed was a familiar but rarely examined progression: rec game, better players, underground games, pickleball camp, tournament play, all orbiting a single, slightly uncomfortable question: why does this pickleball game get such a hold on people? The answer, it turns out, has very little to do with the game itself. We talk about: The exact moment Clare realized her pickleball obsession had crossed a line—and why that thought felt more revealing than concerning The subtle escalation from casual rec game to underground games (and what those hidden hierarchies say about status and belonging) Why adults replace “play” with productivity, and how pickleball disrupts that pattern The psychology of partnership, and why finding the right doubles partner feels suspiciously close to dating How a career in high-stakes firefighting reshapes perspective on competition, pressure, and what actually matters in tournament play The role of a pickleball mentor, and why improvement isn’t always about skill as much as identity What tournament play reveals about people that rec game culture politely hides Somewhere in this conversation is a realization most players recognize but rarely articulate: the game is just the entry point. What keeps people coming back is harder to name, and much harder to walk away from. Pour a spicy marg and press play. This one’s for anyone who’s ever wondered why this game gets such a hold on people. Cheers, Casie and Lauren Dinks on Tap You can purchase Just One More Game by Clare Frank here. Other ways to connect with Clare Frank: Website Instagram Tiktok Youtube Let’s keep the conversation going! Connect with us: Instagram: @dinksontap Facebook: @DinksonTap Website: dinksontap.com For those wanting to fortify their mental game on the court, check out Lauren’s Mental Caddie offerings on her website or book a Chemistry Call.

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