Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast

271. Dating Burnout and the Patterns Behind It ft. Jordanne Sculler

27 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Jordanne Sculler, licensed therapist, joins Ali to talk about dating burnout from the inside out. Rather than pointing to apps or circumstances as the...

270. The Relationship Advice You Inherited Might Be Wrong ft. Monica Tanner

20 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Marriage coach Monica Tanner joins Ali to challenge the unwritten rulebook most of us absorbed about relationships without ever questioning it. Monica...

269. Interdependence, Earned Security, and the Art of Being Unsingle ft. Amy Chan

13 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Amy Chan returns to the pod for an in-person recording with Ali, a conversation spurned from her own deep attachment work. The two chat about Amy’s ...

268. Listener Storytime: Building a Full Sex Life on Your Own Terms

06 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Ali sits down with Julia, a listener who shares her experience discovering that vaginal sex just doesn't work for her body. She walks t...

267. The Deeper Pattern Beneath Your Dating Life ft. Meg Tuohey

30 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Relationship coach and author Meg Tuohey joins Ali to introduce her concept of the HeartPrint, the idea that each of us is as unique as our fingerprin...

266. The NYT Tried to Give Us Dating Rules and We Have Notes ft. Darcy

23 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Returning guest and Ali’s good friend Darcy is back on the pod, and they’re diving straight into the New York Times' crowdsourced list of 35 d...

265. Dating Advice We Wish We'd Taken Sooner ft. Ilana Dunn

16 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Ali sits down with Ilana Dunn, host of Seeing Other People, for a conversation about the dating advice they both either ignored in the past or wish th...

264. Hot Topics #22: First Messages, Being Someone's "Type," and People-Pleasing in Progress

09 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve got some amazing listener questions this week, and the thread running through all of them is a concept introduced in this week's Media Men...

263. Listener Storytime: Holding Grief While Choosing What’s Next

02 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

TW: This episode includes discussion of grief, loss, and suicide. If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out. You can call or text 988...

262. Are We Watching Love (Is Blind) Stories or Unresolved Patterns? ft. Jackie Dorman

23 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Matchmaker Jackie Dorman joins Ali to break down the latest season of Love Is Blind through the lens of someone who has helped over 1,600 people get e...

261. How to Stop People-Pleasing Without Becoming Rigid ft. Dr. Paula Freedman-Diamond

16 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Paula Freedman-Diamond joins Ali to discuss people-pleasing and how it relates to control in dating and relationships. Paula, a therapist and auth...

260. Hot Topics #21: Attachment Patterns, Workplace Feedback, and Dating Dynamics

09 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Ali is back with another Hot Topics episode, starting with listener updates and reflections sparked by a recent listener storytime and a past Hot Topi...

259. Using Conflict to Build Trust ft. Anna Lecat

02 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Ali hosts Anna Lecat for a conversation that reframes conflict as a powerful tool for connection rather than something to avoid. Together, ...

258. Relatability Creates Chemistry: Feel a Real Connection on Dates ft. April Beyer

26 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Ali sits down with veteran matchmaker April Beyer (who has 25+ years in the industry!) to unpack why dating feels harder than ever and how ...

257. Listener Storytime: Designing a Relationship That Breaks All the Rules

19 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Ali sits down with FMH listener Allison for a storytime episode all about building a relationship that works for you, even if it breaks societal norms...

256. How To Make First Dates More Fun ft. Miriam Katz

12 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Did you ever think that improv could apply to dating? Repeat guest Miriam Katz is back this week, a fun, hands-on conversation about how to feel light...

255. New Year Reset: Foundation, Routines, and Intentional Living

05 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In this New Year episode, Ali shares her word for the year, foundation, and the theme guiding how she’s setting up the year ahead: less chaos, more ...

254. The 2025 Relationship Year In Review One ft. Skyline

29 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Ali is joined by Skyline for a continuation of last week’s year in review episode, this time focused on their relationship. Using a...

253. The 2025 Year In Review One

22 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this solo Year in Review episode, Ali shares an honest recap of 2025, including the wins, the messy parts, and why this year felt more like a quiet...

252. The Family Holidays One ft. Mama J

15 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ali is joined by her mom (aka Mama J) from their girls trip to Costa Rica for a real, funny, and super practical convo about holiday logistics when yo...

251. Listener Storytime: Entering Menopause at 36

08 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Content note for this episode: we talk in detail about menopause, infertility and IVF, chronic pain, medical dismissal, and depression.This week, Ali ...

250. The Seventh Dating Diaries One ft. Katy & Tony

01 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Katy & Tony are back this week to share their updates from the dating trenches. First, Tony tells us about the guy he’s surprisingly started dat...

249. The Unspoken Etiquette One ft. Miriam Tinberg

24 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Ali welcomes the brilliant and endlessly curious Miriam Tinberg, a content creator who describes herself (rightly so!) as a conversation st...

248. The Somatic Sex Coach One ft. Rachel Overvoll

17 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Ali sits down with somatic sex coach and author Rachel Overvoll for an honest, expansive conversation about divorce, desire, and lear...

247. The Twentieth Hot Topics One

10 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ali is solo this week answering questions submitted by you, the listeners! Our question round up includes: navigating comfort vs spark chasing in a ne...

246. The Self-Trust One ft. Stacey Sherrell of Detangling Divorce

03 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Therapist and creator of Detangling Divorce, Stacey Sherrell, joins Ali to talk about the role of self-trust in finding a strong partnership, her own ...

245. The Third Profile Review One ft. Katy & Tony

27 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Katy & Tony are back on the pod for a deep dive into their dating app profiles (plus a sneak peek at some upcoming updates). In this Dating Diarie...

244. The Hot Chef One ft. Katherine Wela Bogen

20 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you haven’t come across the Hot Chef saga on Threads…first of all, how?! Second of all, you’re truly missing out. But not to worry - this wee...

243. The Crimes of the Heart One ft. Rory Uphold

13 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ali is collaborating in the studio with Rory Uphold, host of the Crimes of the Heart podcast! The two set out to chat about their most and least favor...

242.5 Comparing Notes Pt 3: The Truth About Relationships at 1 Year w/ Talia Koren

10 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

It’s the final part of our three-part series on new relationships! Ali is joined by Talia Koren, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, to dive i...

242. The Sixth Dating Diaries One: Introducing Katy & Tony

06 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’re meeting two new Dating Diaries participants this week…and they’re recording together! Real-life friends Katy & Tony introduce themselv...

241. The Perimenopause & ADHD One ft. Mandi Dixon, LPC

29 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Did you know that perimenopause can start in your 30s and last up to 10 years?? Many people (your host included, until recently) do not and Mandi Dixo...

240. The Nineteenth Hot Topics One

22 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

It’s a Hot Topics episode answering listener questions!! Ali is diving into three listener topics: navigating dating in small cities when friends ma...

239. The Ex Appeal One ft. Miriam Katz

15 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when you interview every single person you’ve ever dated (or even kissed?!)? Miriam Katz joins Ali to talk about her bold new podcast T...

238.5 Comparing Notes Pt 2: Milestones at 6 Months in a New Relationship w/ Talia Koren

12 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

It’s part two of our three-part series on new relationships! Ali is joined by Talia Koren, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, to dive into na...

238. Listener Storytime: When Parenthood Isn’t What You Expected

08 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this raw and deeply honest episode, Ali speaks to listener Sarah as she shares her story of loving her children while still questioning whether she...

237. The Detached Dating One ft. Sabrina Bendory

01 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Ali is joined by Sabrina Bendory - author, creator, and voice behind some of the internet’s most-shared advice on healing, self-wor...

236. The Gen Z Dating One ft. The Cerca Dating App Team

25 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are you burned out on dating apps? Or not even interested in swiping left and right on a bunch of strangers in the first place? The founders of the ne...

235. The Moving In One ft. Skyline

18 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ali is joined by Skyline this week on what is soon to be their shared couch! The move-in date is fast approaching, and they’ve both come with a list...

234.5 Comparing Notes Pt 1: The First 3 Months Of A New Relationship w/ Talia Koren

15 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

New relationships come with so much to navigate! In this three-part series, Ali is joined by Talia Koren, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, to...

234. The Choosing A Therapist One ft. Nancy Walters, LICSW

11 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We hear about the benefits of therapy SO often, but how does one even go about finding a therapist? There’s no how-to guide…until now! Ali chats w...

233. The Pre-Divorce One ft. Sarah Intelligator, Esq.

04 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Sarah Intelligator runs her family law practice like she runs her yoga studio - with a holistic approach that looks to make people feel stronger leavi...

232. The Navigating Feedback One

28 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Last week on our Patreon live, Ali shared about navigating feedback - both constructive and otherwise - in such a public sphere. This week, she’s br...

231. The Kids Or Childfree One ft. Keltie Maguire

21 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are you struggling with the decision to have children or not? Or worried about making that decision in the future? Clarity coach Keltie Maguire is her...

230. The Fifth Dating Diaries One ft. Caeli & Elyse

14 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Caeli & Elyse are back on the pod this week with updates for us and a whole lot of relatable discussion on dating burnout.First, we hear from Elys...

229. The Love Isn’t Blind One ft. Alli Goldberg & Sascha Mombartz

07 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ali went to one of the best shows she’s seen in a LONG time - Love Isn’t Blind, a comedy dating show where the men can’t speak - and she’s on ...

228. The Fourth AITA One ft. Skyline

30 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’re bringing back Am I The Asshole discussion episodes, this time featuring Skyline going back and forth with Ali on 5 different AITA submissions!...

227. The Co-Regulating One

23 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’re talking about co-regulating this week: where two people help each other navigate their emotions. It’s a solo episode with Ali featuring a de...

226. The Swipe With Me One ft. Caeli & Elyse

16 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Our two Diary Daters are officially meeting for the first time! In this week’s Dating Diaries episode, Ali brings Caeli & Elyse together to shar...

225. The Human Design One ft. Erin Claire Jones

09 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

TW: Grief/Death discussion from around minute 4 to 16.Have you heard of Human Design, a framework that can help you navigate your unique, innate way o...

224. The Fourth Dating Diaries One ft. Caeli

02 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Our Diary Dater Caeli re-joins us on the pod after a whirlwind couple of weeks in her life, from a big interview to a new job. Ali & Caeli revisit...

223. The Third Dating Diaries One ft. Elyse

26 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Elyse, one of our Diary Daters, is back on the pod and full of updates to share! First, she goes on a first date that hits a snag when the dude won’...

222. The Relationship “Rules” one ft. Skyline

19 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Skyline joins Ali on the pod this week to chat about relationship “rules” (aka agreements) coming out of the Vacation Rules ep a few weeks ago. Th...

221. The Eighteenth Hot Topics One

12 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ali is answering listener questions in a dedicated Hot Topics episode this week! First, a listener receives a no ghosting script after a fourth date a...

220. The Second Profile Review One ft. Elyse

05 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’re hearing from both of our Dating Diaries ladies this week!! First, Caeli joins to update Ali & the listeners on Executive Chef, plus a new ...

219. The Vacation Rules One

28 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ali is fresh off her one-year anniversary trip with Skyline and dishing about her favorite parts (and not so favorite parts) of the trip. She shares t...

218. The Introducing Skyline One

21 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ali and Skyline are on their first anniversary vacation and he’s just been introduced on social media…no better time to introduce him to the podca...

217. The First Profile Review One ft. Caeli

14 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Caeli from our Dating Diaries segment is back on the podcast this week and we’re diving into her Bumble profile! We walk through her bio, prompts, a...

216. The Second Dating Diaries One: Introducing Elyse

07 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

It’s time to meet our second Dating Diaries participant…Elyse! A 26-year-old living in a major east coast city, Elyse is ready to dive back into d...

215. The Bored of Dating Apps One ft. Jessica Hope

31 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Feeling burned out by dating apps? Jessica Hope, founder of Bored of Dating Apps, has BEEN THERE - and she created an entire company to deal with it! ...

214. The First Dating Diaries One: Introducing Caeli

24 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

It’s our very first Dating Diaries episode, a new segment following listeners along their dating journeys. We’re kicking things off with two liste...

213. The Second Re-Introducing Ali One

17 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve got part 2 of my re-introduction this week - both for newer listeners and even our OG crowd as I pick up where we left off last week and dive ...

212. The First Re-Introducing Ali One

10 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

TW: Grief and SA (see below for more). It’s my (Ali’s) first official solo episode and we’re starting things off with a re-introduction to my ba...

211. The Farewell to Erica One

03 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’re saying goodbye to Erica as a Finding Mr. Height co-host on this week’s episode of the podcast, and it’s definitely an emotional one! After...

210. The Third AITA One

24 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

For Erica’s second to last episode on the pod, we’re doing one of our favorite formats one last time together…Am I The Asshole featuring submiss...

209. The Thirteenth Grab Bag One

17 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We had so many grab bag questions from you that we’re back to answer more this week! Tune in for our thoughts on: choosing bridesmaids & navigat...

208. Storytime: Dating After Divorce

10 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

TW: Mention of verbal abuse & body shaming. We’re joined by an FMH listener this week for a Storytime about his journey through a bad marriage a...

207. The How To Be Dateable One ft. Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu

03 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week we are joined by Julie & Yue, cohosts of the amazing Dateable podcast and authors of the new book, ‘How To Be Dateable!’ Julie &...

206. The Twelfth Grab Bag One

27 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Erica are answering your rapid-fire questions in another grab bag episode! Including: filtering out ghosters, dating in other cities besides...

205. The Second AITA One

20 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Erica & Ali have a major podcast update at the top of the episode. It’s an emotional one, and we thank you all for being here for it.We then tra...

204. The Conflict Styles One

13 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve all been in conflict before, but have you ever thought about how your conflict style affects the outcome? And how that style might shift over ...

203. The Men’s Dating Coach One ft. Blaine Anderson

06 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever wondered what men are thinking as they’re out there dating, Ali & Erica have got your back: this week, we chat with Blaine Ande...

202. The Best Of 2024 One

30 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It’s our last episode of 2024 and we’ve got a roundup of the year coming at you! We polled our audience for your best superlative categories plus ...

201. The First AITA One

23 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We’re doing a full episode debating Am I The Asshole submissions from Reddit! Ali & Erica discuss the following scenarios: a couple quarrels ove...

200. The Queer Matchmaking One ft. Dr. Frankie Bashan

16 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Erica welcome an OG of queer dating coaching & matchmaking onto the pod this week - Dr. Frankie Bashan! You may know her from the sexual...

199. The Seventeenth Hot Topics One

09 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Erica are answering listener questions on the pod this week! But first, we start out with a listener update from a prior Hot Topics episode ...

198. The First Uncensored One ft. Abigail Jensen

02 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It’s our first ever public Uncensored episode, featuring Abigail Jensen of the Rat Girls podcast! Abigail was such a popular Patreon Uncensored gues...

197. The Myers Briggs One

25 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Erica are breaking down one of their favorite personality tests this week: Myers Briggs! The episode starts with a break down of Myers Brigg...

196. The Flirting One ft. Benjamin Camras

18 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It feels like flirting just comes naturally to some people, but is it possible to learn to be a better flirt? Benjamin Camras, aka The Flirt Coach, sa...

195. The Facebook Groups One

11 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve heard more and more in the dating space about Facebook groups like Are We Dating The Same Guy lately - so we sent a survey out to our listener...

194. The Jewish Matchmaker One ft. Aleeza Ben-Shalom

04 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jewish Matchmaking remains one of Erica and Ali’s favorite dating shows, and this week we welcome its host: Aleeza Ben-Shalom! We get into her viral...

193. The Nobody Wants This One

28 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Did you binge Nobody Wants This on Netflix as quickly as we did? Ali & Erica are diving into the show that took over our social media feeds (and f...

192. The International Long Distance One ft. Kacie Rose

21 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever dreamed of travelling abroad and meeting the love of your life? Kacie Rose (@kacierose_ on IG) just did that and she’s here to tell us...

191. The Sixteenth Hot Topics One

14 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have a question? Erica & Ali are here to answer it! This week, we answer three listener questions. First, a woman has been setting her friend up o...

190. The You Love & You Learn One Ft. Sarah Yudkin

07 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you experience anxiety in dating and relationships? Worrying that you’ll say the wrong thing, be in the wrong relationship, or ruin things with t...

189. The Second SATC Theories One

30 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Erica & Ali are back with another hilarious (at least to us) Sex And The City episode, where we dissect its theories while acting out scenes from ...

188. The Quiet the Clock One ft. Beth Gulotta

23 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We always hear, “it will happen when you least expect it,” but letting go of societal timelines and expectations isn’t as easy as a catchy phras...

187. The Eleventh Grab Bag One

16 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Ali & Erica are answering short-form listener questions, rapid fire style. We take turns asking each other things like: is it ever okay...

186. The Sixth Ask A Man One ft. Charles McBee

09 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It’s our first time doing Ask A 40-Something Man, featuring Erica’s good friend and standup comedian Charles McBee. We asked our listeners: “Wha...

185. The First SATC Theories One

02 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Erica switch it up this week with a new episode format: discussing scenes from Sex And The City and how they apply to life today (complete w...

184. The ShrinkChicks One ft. Jennifer Chaiken & Emmalee Bierly

26 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Erica & Ali could not HELP but let this interview with ShrinkChicks (aka Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT & Emmalee Bierly, LMFT) run a bit long because...

183. The Fifteenth Hot Topics One

19 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Erica & Ali are back answering your questions in a Hot Topics episode this week! We counsel a listener who is nervous about having sex for the fir...

182. The Second Debate Team One

12 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We’re back with another debate team episode, where Ali & Erica debate topics submitted by our listeners! We’ve got four topics up for debate t...

181. The Emotionally Online One ft. Maddie Dragsbaek

05 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Straight from your guest suggestions, we have Maddie Dragsbaek, host of the Emotionally Online podcast, in an amazing episode this week! Maddie has be...

180. The First Updates One

29 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Erica & Ali have so many updates to share this week that we did an episode full of them (plus a lot of girl talk in between)! Erica is fresh off h...

179. The Attachment Solution One ft. Charisse Cooke

22 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Psychotherapist Charisse Cooke is back on the pod this week and Erica & Ali could have talked to her for hours! Our conversation focuses on attach...

178. The Cheating One ft. Chloe Radcliffe

15 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We hear about cheating a lot, but it’s rarely from the perspective of the person who does the cheating. This week, standup comedian Chloe Radcliffe ...

177. The Second Past Beliefs One

08 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We had so much fun talking about our past beliefs the other week that we’re bringing it back for a series including your submissions! We discuss sub...

176. Storytime: Dating With Depression

01 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ali & Erica are joined this week by Kelly, a listener who wrote in to share her story about dating with depression & anxiety. Kelly shares her...

175. The First Past Beliefs One

24 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We asked for your submissions about dating philosophies or “rules” you used to believe, but don’t anymore, and WOW did you deliver! So much so t...