Freedom from Attachment

#630 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Allana Pratt

30 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Allana grew up with a co-dependent mom and drunk dad, leading her to become a people-pleasing “yes” person who was completely disconnected from he...

#629 Avoidants: Don’t Hurt Me

29 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I get a lot of questions about avoidants. People want to know if avoidant and anxious attachment styles can be happy together, and if there is any hop...

#628 The Choice To Have (Or Not Have) Love Is Yours

22 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you choose love, or are you waiting to be chosen? Maybe you believe love has forgotten about you, or it’s reserved for other, more “deserving”...

#627 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Gina DeVee

16 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Gina DeVee is a published author, speaker, podcast host, business coach and self-made multimillionaire who built the women’s empowerment and lifesty...

#626 Was Your Mom a Narcissist? How This Affects Your Relationships (REBROADCAST)

15 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Did you grow up with a narcissistic mom? Her behavior may have been unpredictable, and you never knew what was going to set her off. She might have be...

#625 Fear Of Intimacy (REBROADCAST)

08 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

While we may be aware of our distrust of love, we often identify our fears as negative (i.e. rejection or abandonment). But often it’s fear of posit...

#624 Being An Anxious Pursuer In Relationships (REBROADCAST)

01 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

“I attract avoidants” has almost become a mantra for anxious pursuers who are convinced they are only attracted to people who shun them. They beli...

#623 What Do You Mean I Look Happy? I’m Addicted to Feeling Bad! (REBROADCAST)

22 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Complainers are addicted to feeling bad. Those who constantly compare themselves to others, believing everyone else is better off, are addicted to fee...

#622 You Are the Prize! Winning on Being a Confident You

15 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you say to yourself (or others) that you are the prize, and your partner is lucky to have you? And do you actually believe it, or is it just false ...

#621 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Sarah Merrill

09 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Sarah Merrill is the woman behind “Big Kid Problems,” a wildly popular Twitter, Instagram, blog and podcast about the daily struggles growing up a...

#620 Love Doesn't Have To Be Painful (REBROADCAST)

08 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Many of us associate pain with love. We may not consciously think so, but it’s beneath the surface of our desire for love and all its glory in our l...

#619 How to Really Be a Badass at Receiving Love!

01 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you holding yourself back from receiving the love you want and being your badass self? Or does your need for control and “giving to get” keep ...

#618 Impostor Syndrome in Relationships (REBROADCAST)

25 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you know what impostor syndrome is? Perhaps you’re familiar with it in your professional life, it means the fear of being found out for being fak...

#617 Anxious Avoidant? Does This Look Familiar? Let’s Just Stop (REBROADCAST)

18 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you stuck in an anxious-avoidant loop? No matter how much you “think” you want a relationship, you find excuses not to date or in a relationsh...

#616 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Karen Fagan

12 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Karen Fagan struggled with insecurity, as many young women do, so when she was 13 years old she looked for a book on self-confidence. That led to 10 f...

#615 People Pleasing And Why You'll Never Win (REBROADCAST)

11 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Some of us people please to be liked or because we feel obligated. The problem with placing ourselves in this position is that it's not genuine giving...

#614 The Secret To Settling for Good Enough and Loving It!

04 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Settling, and the fear of missing out, is a reflection of not feeling good enough as you are right now. When you search for perfection—or even just ...

#613 Loneliness and Disconnection (REBROADCAST)

28 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You don’t have to be alone to feel lonely. Loneliness is a sense of internal isolation which serves as protection. Instead of opening up and sharing...

#612 Lack of Self-Love (REBROADCAST)

21 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

There are so many ways we don’t love and value ourselves—in work, relationships, etc. A lot of us don’t even know what it MEANS to love ourselve...

#611 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Mike Zeller

15 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Mike Zeller is a serial entrepreneur. But when three of his businesses EACH lost more than $100,000 in a single year, he knew he needed to recalibrate...

#610 All About Avoidants

14 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Early childhood is where avoidant seeds take root. If you fall into this category of insecurely attached Avoidants, you probably developed a pseudo-in...

#609 Self-Care + Self-Responsibility = Value (REBROADCAST)

07 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Self-responsibility and self-care are critical to increasing your value. What is self-responsibility? Being responsible for ALL of your words, actions...

#608 Dear Universe… Are You My Dad? And Other Weird Attachments

30 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You blame the Universe/God/whatever for what goes wrong in your life, believing you are constantly being punished for not doing things perfectly. Othe...

#607 Make-up Sex is B.S.

23 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Some people think the best place to solve relationship issues is in bed. It feels intimate—a way to connect—but afterwards, are you really any clo...

#606 How to Guarantee Nothing Ever Changes in Your Life

16 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

People always want to know if they should leave their job or their relationship or whatever situation they are unhappy with. Shouldn’t they cut thei...

#605 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Kirsten Ackerman

10 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Growing up, Kirsten struggled with disordered eating and body image. Although she didn't see the connection at the time, she later realized how much h...

#604 Fear of Happiness

09 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Some people equate numbness with happiness. As long as nothing is poking at you screaming for your attention, you think all is right with the world, a...

#603 How Do You Know You Really Care For Someone?

02 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Attachment and care are two different things, and mistaking one for the other can lead to chronic disappointment. When you have expectations about wha...

#602 You Want To Change? How To Tell if You Are Actually Ready!

26 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

For many people who are stuck, pain is what drives them to seek change. It could be a toxic relationship or yet another holiday spent alone. Maybe it’...

#601 When Life Appears To Be a Soul Sucking Vortex, What Do You Do?

19 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Most of us have periods in our lives where it feels like everything is a shit show. You feel like the universe is conspiring against you and no one is...

#600 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Majo Molfino

13 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Majo Molfino is the daughter of immigrants who grew up as a “good girl,” getting good grades and following the rules. After graduating from colleg...

#599 What Loyalty is so You Have Relationships You Love

12 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Loyalty. What does that mean to you? And where did you learn it? As a kid, if you were around adults (particularly your caregivers) who lied, cheated,...

#598 Freedom from Attachment: How to Communicate With a Space Alien and Other Avoidants!

05 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How do you communicate with an avoidant? And how do you determine if they are a narcissist, pathological liar, or have some other “malady”? I get ...

#597 Freedom from Attachment: You Can’t Take It Anymore… Yet You Stay

28 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You can’t take it anymore. You are stuck in a toxic relationship and you want the pain to stop. You want out. But instead of taking some sort of act...

#596 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Megan Huber

22 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Megan Huber grew up in a small, rural North Carolina town with a teacher for a mom. The classroom was what she knew, so when she graduated from colleg...

#595 Freedom from Attachment: Passive Aggressive. Who Me? How To Stop and Get What You Want!

21 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Passive aggressiveness is an indirect resistance to the demands of others, and an avoidance of direct confrontation (i.e., procrastinating, pouting, g...

#594 If You Only Contact Me When You Need Me, Find Someone Else To Fill the Need

14 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do you need to be needed by someone, believing you’re the only one who understands them? “Let me help! Call anytime… I’m always here for you.”...

#593 Freedom from Attachment: Ignoring Red Flags Because You See the Good

07 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Yes, there is good in all of us. But that doesn’t mean you should ignore red flags in a relationship because you want to see the good in people. And...

#592 Freedom from Attachment: Hiding How You Feel Among Judgmental People

31 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You wish you could be calm, cool and collected. Other people seem to do it—they can pull off being mysterious while your facial expressions always g...

#591 Problems, Complaints and Lack of Trust Will Never Get You the Pot of Gold!

24 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How much time do you spend complaining about problems and/or fixing them? You finally join the country club, but you can never get the tee-time you wa...

#590 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Scout Sobel

19 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

“Entrepreneurship and starting your own business is just one big personal development game.” Scout Sobel is a trailblazer in the media industry. ...

#589 Freedom from Attachment: The Gift of Gratitude

17 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

It’s hard to be grateful for misfortune, and the suffering that results. It’s much easier to wallow in “Why me? Poor me!” than to look for the...

#588 Freedom from Attachment: Receiving Is Not a Weakness

10 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You consider yourself a strong person. When a challenge presents itself, you tackle it head-on. People come to you for answers because you always seem...

#587 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! Laurie Gerber

04 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Born of a spiritual-seeking mother and knowledge-seeking father, Laurie Gerber grew up fascinated by the human experience and what makes people tick. ...

#586 Freedom from Attachment: Your Dreams Aren’t Dead, They Might Just Look Different

03 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What happened to your dreams? Did you give up on them? Or are you still waiting for them to happen, hoping that “someday” is right around the corn...

#585 Freedom from Attachment: I'm an Angry Buzzard When I Don't Get My Way. Can I Stop?

27 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do you get exceptionally angry when a restaurant server gets your order wrong, or when plans change at the last minute, or when customer service won’...

#584 Are My Thoughts Creating My Reality? If So, My Love Life Might Be Screwed!

20 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You have probably heard some version of “what you think, you create.” Meaning your thoughts create your reality. If your love life feels like a tr...

#583 Moving On with Kristina Mand-Lakhhiani

14 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Kristina Mand-Lakhiani was born in the Soviet Union where entrepreneurship was punishable by law and everyone was given the same “manual” for succ...

#582 Freedom from Attachment: I Have My Act Together, so Why Do I Feel Like Such a Mess?

13 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You sure do have your act together. You look great, take care of yourself and project an air of confidence. Success has always been an important focus...

#581 Journey of Attachment: The Counterintuitive Secret to Being “Enough”

06 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do you surround yourself with cool, successful or impressive people to feel like you embody those qualities by association? How many of those friends ...

#580 Journey of Attachment: 3 Steps To Loving Yourself; You're Not a Project

29 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Did you grow up feeling you were too much, not enough, too nice, too cold, too sensitive, too shy, too annoying, too inquisitive or too ANYTHING? Basi...

#579 The Journey of Attachment: Attraction to Unavailable People

22 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You attract people exactly where you are. If you’re unavailable, you will attract someone who is unavailable. To attract open, you must BE open. Peo...

#578 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Guy Finley

16 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Guy Finley is a best-selling author of more than 45 books and audios on self-realization, including his newest release, “Relationship Magic: Waking ...

#577 Journey of Attachment: Selfish Is Not a Four-Letter Word (REBROADCAST)

15 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

People think “selfish” is a dirty word, so there’s a lot of fear around it. They’ve had it beat into them that being selfish is bad, which lea...

#576 Journey of Attachment: When You’re Attached, There’s Only Room In the Relationship For You

08 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If you can’t live without someone, and are knee-deep in soulmate territory where you need them to “complete” you, you are very likely stuck in a...

#575 Journey of Attachment: Why Does There Always Have To Be a Bad Guy?

01 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How often do you look for the enemy in your life? Whether it’s a partner who can’t commit, a condescending boss or an entitled rich person, labeli...

#574 Journey of Attachment: Setting Boundaries (REBROADCAST)

24 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You may think boundaries are set for the benefit of others, and get angry when they aren’t followed. But you probably go against your own boundaries...

#573 Journey of Attachment: You Are Not Worthless. How To Change Your Tune!

18 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Go ahead, buy that car. You’re worth it. Your well-earned promotion will finally show people you have arrived. How do you measure your worth? Is it ...

#572 Journey of Attachment: Instead of Trying to Fix People, Try This Instead

11 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Your partner is a narcissist or an avoidant or emotionally unavailable… or some other label you have assigned to him/her. You’ve read up about how...

#571 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Marilyn Alauria

05 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

“I’m like Bewitched with a lot of vodka!” Meet psychic medium Marilyn Alauria. From the age of three she had psychic experiences, but she didn’...

#570 Journey of Attachment: Feel Criticized? How To Let It Go and Be Happy

04 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Someone makes an off-handed remark and you bristle. Or they criticize you and you go into full-blown defensive mode before you dissolve into a million...

#569 Journey Of Attachment: Breaking the Toxic Anxious-Avoidant Relationship Cycle

27 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The same dance happens all the time in unhealthy relationships between an anxious and an avoidant. The anxious struggles with self-value so they perfo...

#568 Journey Of Attachment: Did I Say Something Stupid? Examining Your Communication Style.

20 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You just said something that pissed off your partner. But geez, you were only joking. Then your friend asked for your opinion about what they were wea...

#567 The Journey of Attachment: The Not So Rare Avoidant/Anxious Attachment Type (REBROADCAST)

13 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Insecure attachment issues are very painful. Some may be familiar with John Bowlby’s attachment theory on childhood development. I talked about thes...

#566 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Jill de Jong

07 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

From a small village in Holland to the international modeling scene, Jill de Jong led an adventurous but exhausting life. At 17 she moved to Milan, wo...

#565 Journey Of Attachment: The Search for Unicorns

06 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Are you a unicorn hunter, chasing some magical fantasy as the answer to your problems? When you find your perfect mate, when you write your best-selli...

#564 Journey Of Attachment: I Want To Have an Authentic Relationship With Someone

30 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In your sphere of relationships—partner, friend, colleague, family, acquaintance, etc.—how do you show up? Are you trying to fit in, be liked or b...

#563 Journey Of Attachment: The Comfort of Dysfunction (REBROADCAST)

23 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Attachment issues are big among my podcast listeners; there’s a reason I have an entire series devoted to it! But there is a difference between thos...

#562 Journey Of Attachment: What’s REALLY Going On?

16 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The people in your life have heard you complain about the same problem over and over. It’s your relationship or your job or your money issues—what...

#561 Journey Of Attachment: I Know What You’re Thinking, So Why Ask?

09 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Does this conversation sound familiar to you? “So-and-so is mad at me.” “Oh really, did she say she was mad at you?” “No, I can just tell.”...

#560 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Joel Primus

03 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Joel Primus is an author, speaker, filmmaker and serial entrepreneur. His first success, however, was as a runner, representing Canada at the World Yo...

#559 Journey Of Attachment: I Need To Keep My Anxiety a Secret From My Mate

02 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Anxiety is painful enough, but hiding it from your mate makes it even worse. Maybe you worry about where they are, or when they’re going to call, or...

#558 Journey Of Attachment: Are We in a Relationship… or Just Dating?

23 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You are hanging on by a thread. On the one hand, you have this amazing connection to someone. It feels almost unreal sometimes. On the other hand, you...

#557 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Jessica Zweig

17 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

At 33 years old, Jessica Zweig had to ask her parents for $200 to pay her phone bill. Only a few years earlier she was living her “Sex in the City”...

#556 Journey Of Attachment: Communication Isn’t About Winning

16 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Someone says something to piss you off. In your head you think, “What a jerk!” In that moment, when you’re triggered, you can’t see how you’...

#555 Journey Of Attachment: I’m an Ogre! Creating What You Focus On

09 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You create whatever you focus on. If someone says, “Think about anything but a pink elephant,” what comes to mind? A pink elephant, of course. So ...

#554 What is a Toxic Relationship?

05 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of healing, toxic rel...

#553 Journey Of Attachment: Feeling Good Is a Choice

02 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What do you think you need to finally feel good? Do you believe you haven’t earned it yet? Haven’t suffered enough? Waiting for permission or a si...

#552 Emotional Hunger Vs. Love

29 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of emotional hunger, ...

#551 Journey Of Attachment: Your Sense of Lack is What Keeps You Struggling

26 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

People who have attachment issues aren’t just attached to other people… they are also attached to ideas. They are attached to how they are seen by...

#550 How Do I Get Out of a Yo-Yo Relationship?

22 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of yo-yo relationship...

#549 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Tracy Litt

20 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Have you designed a conditional happiness model for yourself? Tracy Litt was 24 when she lost her mom, and 28 when she became an unemployed single mo...

#548 Journey Of Attachment: Why Do We Believe We Are Meant To Be Rescued?

19 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You’re always hoping your next partner will be different; better. But what does that boil down to? What are you truly looking for? If you’re hones...

#547 How Can I Let Go of My Fantasy Situation?

15 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of long friendships e...

#546 Journey Of Attachment: I’m Tired of Being Single, but I Don’t Want To Settle

12 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You want to meet someone, but it feels like it’s never gonna happen. Where IS he/she already? When will my person finally show up? When is it my tur...

#545 How Does Attachment Relate to Childhood Emotional Neglect?

08 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of childhood emotiona...

#544 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Laurel Hill

06 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

“Human Design is basically a map of who we came here to be; a blueprint of who we are.” --Laurel Hill Laurel Hill built a successful jewelry busi...

#543 Journey Of Attachment: I Know My Issues, So Why Am I’m Still Stuck?

05 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You’re a smart cookie and have developed a level of self-awareness from books, podcasts, courses, therapy, etc. Maybe you even share these discoveri...

#542 What Questions Should I Ask to Get in Touch With My Feelings?

01 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of someone cutting yo...

#541 Journey of Attachment: I’m the Black Sheep of My Family, Afraid of Being Kicked Out

29 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Family relationships are tricky—especially with parents. And those primary relationships set the foundation for future relationships. So what happen...

#540 I’m Figuring Out What Makes Me Happy, but I’m Scared of What Other People Might Think

25 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of telling who’s mo...

#539 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Sue Hay

23 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Sue was on a trajectory familiar to many of us—go to school and get a corporate job. She worked her way up in the design and branding field, ultimat...

#538 Journey Of Attachment: Going Down the Rabbit Hole

22 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Life was feeling ok until the floor fell out from under you. Your mom called you selfish on the phone yesterday and your friend thought you were rude ...

#537 I'm Being Triggered by My Partner... Am I Wrong?

18 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of wanting to six a r...

#536 Journey Of Attachment: I want it so badly! Or do I?

15 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We create vision boards, write letters, throw pennies in a fountain, set goals, pray and ask the Universe for what we want. Through hard work and dete...

#535 How Do I Stop Recreating My Childhood

11 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of recreating your ch...

#534 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Lindsey Wilson

09 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

“Wellness is a constant evolution; that constant connecting and turning inward and listening to ourselves.” –Lindsey Wilson Lindsey Wilson is t...

#533 Journey Of Attachment: Put Down Your Phone!

08 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

No matter how digitally connected we are, loneliness is rampant. Our phones (and computers, tablets, TVs, etc.) are master distraction devices. How of...

#532 How Can I Tell When to Stay or When to Go

04 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of choosing yourself,...

#531 Journey Of Attachment: Is Your Love Life a Conspiracy Theory?

01 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

You think it’s fate. The “meant-to-be-together” signs are there, and you can’t wait to live happily ever after. But then the relationship you ...