Freedom from Attachment

Journey Of Attachment: Having two lovers at once isn’t all fun and games!

04 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Almost half of my clients come to me engaged in two intimate relationships, and they are in pain. Shame and attachment for the person who feels stuck ...

Are you being selfish or are you being true to yourself?

31 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of connection, having...

Journey Of Attachment: Secrets and How They Kill Relationships and Your Self-Esteem

28 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Are you living with secrets? Maybe you're hiding your shopping receipts from your husband, or maybe you're leaving out parts of your stories because y...

How to be Honest in your Friendships

24 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of marriage, setting ...

Journey Of Attachment: Cherishing Your Victimhood by Avoiding and How to Change it

21 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do you spend a lot of time wishing your relationships were different? Maybe you’ve been holding back your real feelings because you’re afraid of h...

How to Navigate a Hot and Cold Relationship

17 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of guilt, hot and col...

Journey Of Attachment: How Does Someone Become Codependent?

14 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Codependency can feel like an addiction. You surrender your own feelings to make another person happy, using them as a way to fulfill needs you should...

How to React When Your Insecurities are Triggered

10 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of when insecurities a...

Journey Of Attachment: Moving On When There Are Still Emotional Triggers!

07 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Are you still stuck on a relationship that ended months, maybe even years ago? You’re still carrying this longing inside of you, always wondering wh...

Shifting Your Dating Focus

03 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of shifting your dati...

Journey Of Attachment: 3 Tips to Sever Your Attachment Issues and Learn Your Value

31 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you never feel good enough for the people around you? You’re probably creating unreachable expectations for yourself. You can’t recognize your ...

How to Deal with Triggers

27 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of triggers, commitme...

Journey of Attachment: Escape the Prison of Attachment and Leave Your Breadcrumb Relationship Behind

24 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Healthy relationships are not built on fantasy, they are also not built on the hard work of trying to get your partner to change. You’re attached to...

Not Accepting Your Spouse's Behavior

20 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of spouse behaviors a...

Journey of Attachment: How to Turn Your Codependent Relationship into An Opportunity for Growth

17 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Codependency is a painful place to be, and it can manifest itself in many ways. Do you crave validation from your partner? Are you always placing thei...

How to Be Happy With What You Have

13 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics feeling like you don'...

Surviving to Thriving: Another Conversation with Guy Finley

11 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment” I have a second conversation with Guy Finley, bestselling author of more ...

3 Tips to Shift Your Dating Mindset and Open Yourself Up To Healthy Relationships

10 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Does this sound like you? After a series of boring dates and incompatible partners, you’re still single. It’s not you; you just haven’t found th...

Why Are Apologies Important?

06 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of apologies, dealing...

Journey of Attachment: Breadcrumb Relationships

03 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

You cannot cobble together enough breadcrumbs to create a satisfying meal, and yet many people accept breadcrumbs when it comes to relationships. When...

How To Deal With Manipulation

29 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of manipulation, fata...

Surviving to Thriving: Alton Pete

27 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment” I talk with Alton Pete, U.S. Army Veteran and Author. Listen in as he tak...

Journey of Attachment: Intimacy Is Not a Gender Thing; It’s a Human Thing

26 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Men and women are wired for intimacy at birth, but some are conditioned to reject it. If you are insecurely attached, you probably didn’t experience...

Deal With It! I'm A Hot Mess!

22 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of boundaries, trigge...

Journey of Attachment: Is Gaslighting Just a Difference of Opinion?

19 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic used to make you question your reality, but when you’re insecurely attached, you may not trust your own reality...

I Will No Longer Hide Who I Am To Make You Happy

15 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Depression sometimes results from pleasing others at the expense of yourself; by trying to be someone else in order to make others happy; by defining ...

Journey of Attachment: Swallowing Your Feelings So As Not To Upset Someone

12 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Are you afraid of expressing your true feelings because you might upset someone? Or do you think they will shut you down because they can’t handle t...

Preferring Pain to Pleasure Because It’s Not as Scary

08 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

What do you do to block pleasure? Do you create obstacles for yourself to jump over in order to earn pleasure and happiness? Do you look joy in the fa...

Journey of Attachment: My Narcissist Parent(s)

05 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

People who are beyond anxious and can also be characterized as ambivalent, avoidant, disordered, etc., may have been raised by a narcissist. These are...

If We Conducted Our Offline Lives The Way We Do Online…

01 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Everything you think about someone online is an assumption. Most people know this, and yet we use social media as a way of finding information to conf...

Journey of Attachment: Analyzing Your Feelings Will Not Get You Out of Your Situation

29 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

How much time do you spend analyzing the behavior of yourself and others to understand or figure things out? What about analyzing your feelings? Do yo...

Things Aren’t As You Think They Are

25 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

It’s easy to get stuck in your story, believing nothing will ever change. Maybe you curse the universe for working against you, saying nothing ever ...

Surviving to Thriving: Anthony Trucks

23 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment” I talk with Anthony Trucks, former NFL player turned serial entrepreneur....

Journey of Attachment: Unwillingness Is Your Issue

22 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

I hear people say they want to change all the time—whether it’s getting divorced, changing jobs, finding a partner or improving a parental relatio...

Are You In a Hurry To Label People So You Feel Better?

18 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

It’s easy to label someone as toxic, obnoxious, boring, etc. in order to dismiss them. Sometimes it even happens without knowing much about the pers...

Journey of Attachment: How 90 Seconds Can Change Your Life

15 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

How often do you find yourself in a situation where you just cannot take being there another minute longer? The appeal of running away, distracting an...

Why Do I Wake Up In a Panic?

11 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

How do you usually wake up feeling? Are you excited about the day ahead, or do you worry about what could go wrong? Maybe you awake in a panic. You do...

Journey of Attachment: When Someone is Mad, It Doesn’t Mean It’s Your Fault

08 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

How often do you try to avoid someone being mad at you? Do you attempt to do things perfectly for fear of being blamed, then berate yourself when you ...

Why Do I Attract Untrustworthy People?

04 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you believe you are a trustworthy person when it comes to love and relationships, yet have trouble trusting your partner (or potential partner)? Ma...

Journey of Attachment: Being a Love Addict (or Avoidant?)

01 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

You’re picky about who you date, looking for Mr. or Ms. Perfect (i.e. someone who won’t hurt or disappoint you). Then you find someone who likes y...

How Your Lack of Commitment Shows Up Everywhere

27 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

If “what if’s” rule your world because you’re always afraid of making the wrong choice, you live your life with one foot in and one foot out. ...

Surviving to Thriving: Neeta Bhushan

25 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment” I talk with Neeta Bhushan, an Emotional Health Educator and Executive Per...

Journey of Attachment: The Horror of Being Crazy

24 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever met someone where the chemistry was incredible, but it led you to act like a complete lunatic? Maybe this person canceled dinner plans, ...

Want to be Happy? Stop Doing These Things

20 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

A lot of people think happiness is like an amusement park ride with intense highs that must be chased. But happiness is subtler than that, and what yo...

Journey of Attachment: I Feel Sorry for Me; I’m With a Narcissist

17 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Most people have narcissistic tendencies, it is part of what keeps human beings alive. Without it, no one would be here. The problem with slapping tha...

Why Should I Share My Feelings When it Changes Nothing?

13 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do people ever do things that annoy you, but you keep it to yourself because you know they won’t change their behavior? Or have you broken up with s...

Journey of Attachment: Deciding to Be Okay Staying in a Dysfunctional Relationship

10 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

You’re in a dysfunctional relationship that isn’t making you happy. Your partner doesn’t treat you the way you want, so you’re always complain...

I Know I’m Dysfunctional. So Now What?

06 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Self-awareness is great—essential even—but what do you do with it? Maybe you notice your patterns and recognize when you go into victim mode, but ...

Journey of Attachment: From Go-With-The-Flow to GET ME OUT!

03 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel like you’re a go-with-the-flow person most of the time… until you hit a big roadblock? This often happens in situations where what you...

A Sense of Entitlement

30 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Many of us frown on the “entitled” without realizing we ourselves feel it, believing we are owed something in this life. It often stems from child...

Surviving to Thriving: Lucia Giovannini

28 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment” I talk with Lucia Giovannini, a former Italian supermodel turned best-sel...

Journey of Attachment: The Attachment to Obstacles

27 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Obstacles provide fantastic excuses for staying stuck: “He’ll leave his wife when his youngest graduates,” or “She will be ready to commit onc...

Here a Belief, There a Belief… Everywhere a Belief!

23 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Many people have issues around three key areas in life: love, money, and health. And if you’ve done some work on yourself, you realize much of what ...

Journey of Attachment: Change Your Story, Change Your Life

20 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Every time you say, “My husband is a narcissist and I’m stuck here,” or “I’m never going to make more than $X because I have always earned a...

Believing Your Kids Won’t Love You… Because You Don’t Love You

16 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Are you insecure about your parenting—wondering if you’re doing a not so great job? If you grew up insecurely attached without a lot of self-love,...

Journey of Attachment: Trying to Stay in Your Numb Bubble

13 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you avoid negative emotions like the plague? Maybe you only believe in being positive, so when negativity sneaks up, you don’t want to deal with ...

Catch Yourself A Happy Fish

09 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

When it comes to partners, do you pick ones who are generally happy or generally miserable? Do they walk around with a dark cloud overhead, complainin...

Journey of Attachment: Were You a Sensitive Kid?

06 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Did things affect you deeply as a kid, feeling overly sensitive to everything around you? I used to feel my doll’s pain, my stuffed animals’ pain,...

Focus On You — You Beautiful Thing!

02 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

You have spent your life doing for others, worried that if you don’t put them first, they’ll leave… or at the very least they’ll be mad at you...

Surviving to Thriving: Josh Spencer

31 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment”, I talk with Josh Spencer, paraplegic of 23 years and owner of the Last B...

Journey of Attachment: I Left My Controlling Mate and Now I’m Attached to Another One

30 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

You finally called it quits with your partner who always told you what to do and when to do it. You complained about how he/she controlled you or mani...

Letting Go Of Who You Think You’re Supposed To Be

26 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you have an image in your head of who you are supposed to be? And does that image contradict who you actually are? These images often stem from a n...

Journey of Attachment: Liars, Cheaters and Lack of Trust

23 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

You don’t trust your partner. He/she is lying and cheating… or you’re afraid they are. Maybe you have an ex who cheated on you so you are hyper-...

Stop Chasing Happiness

19 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you believe happiness exists outside of you? That once your partner FINALLY gets a clue, or you lose 10 pounds, or you get that promotion, or you b...

Journey of Attachment: Staying Too Long And Making Excuses

16 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Your relationship isn’t going well. Perhaps your partner is verbally or emotionally abusive, threatening to leave or causing you harm. But there are...

I Look Like the Jerk

12 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Most of us act like a jerk at times—that’s just life. Some work really hard to prove they are not a jerk by overcompensating while others double-d...

Journey of Attachment: I’ve Been Working on Myself Forever and Still Attract Jerks

09 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

You’ve done some work on yourself and have achieved a certain level of self-awareness, yet your relationship status doesn’t reflect that. Each tim...

I Don’t Like That! How Not to be a Hater

05 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Ever notice how quick you are to say, “I don’t like X” or “I can’t stand it when people…”? Whether the subject is food or a person’s b...

Journey of Attachment: Letting Others In

02 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This podcast was inspired by an email from a listener. After getting out of a toxic relationship, she noticed her knee-jerk reaction of throwing up em...

I Don't Want to be in Trouble

28 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

If you stopped for a moment and asked yourself about the unrest you feel about a mistake. What would you hear in your head? Could it be something like...

Journey of Attachment: Stop Fighting Your Attachment

25 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

When insecurely attached to someone, you probably react to them in one of three ways (depending on your mood or day of the week): wanting to run away ...

It's All About Me, Me, Me

21 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

You may walk around with the fear of being called out or criticized. You want to be seen how you think you are, it's a lot of work to try and control ...

Journey of Attachment Identity Crisis: Can't Be Alone or Only Want To Be

18 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Most insecurely attached people have an identity crisis going on that either they are aware of or completely checked out of. Many identify as introver...

Please Go F**k Up Your Life

14 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Some kind of advice, right? Having permission to do what it is you fear will f**k up your life is usually what will actually give you the life you wan...

Surviving to Thriving: Andy J. Pizza

12 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment” I talk with Andy J. Pizza, an American illustrator from Columbus, OH and ...

Journey of Attachment: Love Your Anxiety

11 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Anxiety isn’t the enemy—it’s just trying to do its job. It sounds the alarm when fear comes up, stepping in to take care of things. It provides ...

Rules in Relationships: WTF is Compromise?

07 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you think other people should bend to what you want? To satisfy your way of doing things or perform the way you want? You may have this expectation...

Journey of Attachment: Being An Anxious Pursuer In Relationships

04 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

**See freebie link at the bottom. “I attract avoidants” has almost become a mantra for anxious pursuers who are convinced they are only attracted ...

The Grey Area of Emotional Change

31 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

As much as we want life to be black and white so we can keep things neat and tidy, it’s not. That is your intellect trying to run the show. Everythi...

Journey of Attachment: Emotional Unavailability--What’s the Cure?

28 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Your relationship with yourself is reflected in your relationships with others. If you didn’t receive much unconditional love as a kid, you do not k...

I Need To Understand, Then I Can Keep ‘Em!

24 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

BUT WHY? You think if you can just understand what happened in your relationship, you can manage your emotions and put things back together. You won’...

Journey of Attachment: I Can’t Let Go! My “Best Friend” Connection to My Ex.

21 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

**Freebie at the bottom. Having trouble detaching from a toxic relationship that is over because you swear he or she was your best friend? You try “...

I Am Not Getting My Way! I Am Going To…

17 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you want people to act a certain way, treat you a certain way or do things the way you want them done? Do you expect them to live up to your standa...

Surviving to Thriving: Alyssa Aubrey

15 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment” I talk with Alyssa Aubrey, Founder and Director of Medicine Horse Ranch, ...

Journey of Attachment: Making a Decision? Fear is Not the Place to Start

14 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

For many people, fear motivates their decision-making; particularly the fear of loss. They think choosing this way will somehow circumvent struggle, b...

The Struggle is Real

10 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

We all have stories we tell ourselves about who we are and how life should be, even if those stories are subconscious. To keep those stories alive, yo...

Journey of Attachment: Unspoken Rules, Agreements and Promises

07 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you live your life based on rules, promises and agreements you made as a kid? Maybe you think things need to be a certain way, but you’re not sur...

Validating vs. Invalidating Conversations

03 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

How do you react when someone says they have upset you? Perhaps they took something personally that you didn’t intend. Do you get defensive or accus...

True Feelings vs. Reactions

30 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

It’s hard to speak your true feelings. When asked, you may talk about what is happening externally: you’re stressed from work, worried about your ...

Ruminating vs. Feeling Your Feelings- What’s the Difference?

26 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

People tend to confuse feeling your feelings with ruminating. Rehashing the same story over and over is not processing your feelings—that’s rumina...

Journey of Attachment: Why Do You Allow Yourself to be Treated Badly?

23 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you constantly feel disrespected by your partner, friends, colleagues, etc.? Do you think they are the mean ones and you are the poor one who is ma...

How Rules Rob You of Happiness

19 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Rules are important for safety and for functioning in society, but you probably have a laundry list of rules you aren’t even aware of; ones that don...

Surviving to Thriving : Jen Rozenbaum

17 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment” I talk with author, podcaster and intimate photographer Jen Rozenbaum. Af...

Journey of Attachment: The “It’s Complicated” Relationship Status

16 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you put up with complicated relationships? “It’s Complicated” as a relationship status is a bit of a cultural joke because it rings true so o...

Why Is It So Hard To Accept Where You Are?

12 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you struggle with where you are in life, wishing you were somewhere else? Maybe you think there is something wrong with where you are and you want ...

Journey of Attachment: It’s Easier to Ignore My Feelings

09 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Feelings are messy. They cause disagreements, fights, problems, etc. You think it’s easier to just compartmentalize, ignore or numb them… but can ...

The Meaninglessness of “I’m Sorry”

05 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

When people give lip service to “I’m sorry,” it loses its meaning. In fact, some people put a lot of weight on it. For the words to mean somethi...

Surviving to Thriving: Sarah Prout

03 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment” I talk with Sarah Prout, co-founder of the Manifesting Academy and host o...

Journey of Attachment: No One Will Validate My Pain

02 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

When you’re in pain, do you feel like no one cares? If you didn’t receive emotional support as a kid, you probably grew up believing your feelings...

Being Wrongly Blamed or Accused

29 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Blaming others is a way of avoiding responsibility, but what if YOU are the one who is blamed? And what if you’re blamed for something you didn’t ...