Grow Yourself Up
Episodes
Ep 69: Attachment, Regulation, Emotional Neglect and Feeling States
09 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Cath delves into the impacts of emotional neglect, how it can be so hard to live with these, why this is and the relationship between emotional neglec...
Ep 68: Matrescence and Growing Up in Motherhood with Lucy Jones
02 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath is joined by author and journalist Lucy Jones. Cath and Lucy discussed Lucy's matrescence journey, her most recent book (Matresce...
Ep 67: Estrangement, Having a Narcissistic Mother and Growing Up in Motherhood with Harriet Shearsmith
25 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath is joined by Harriet Shearsmith. Harriet is a coach, podcaster, Mum of 3 and the content creator behind @tobyandroo. In this epis...
Ep 66: Emotional Neglect and Narcissistic Families
18 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath starts to look in more detail at what emotional neglect actually is and why it matters. She explains how widespread emotional neg...
Ep 65: Childhood Trauma, The Nervous System and Mothering
11 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath was interviewed by Nikki McCahon for her Seasons of Matresence Podcast. We had a gentle, compassionate and open hearted conversat...
Ep 64: Shifting Generational Trauma and Thoughts on Food
04 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is an interview with Cath and Crystal Karges which was originally released on Crystal’s podcast ‘Lift the Shame’. Cath and Crystal ...
Ep 63: When Our Needs Feel Illegitimate (Re-release)
28 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The way we come into relationships with our needs when we are babies and young children, has a huge influence on the way we learn to tend to our needs...
Ep 62: Self Mothering: Putting it into Practise (Re-release)
21 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath discusses the concept of self mothering, explaining why this is such a crucial part of all our healing journey.She explains what ...
Ep 61: The Importance of Good Enough Parenting and Rupture and Repair for all Ages
14 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The term ‘rupture and repair’ is widely used across social media to explain the process of repairing with your child after a break in connection (...
Ep 60: The Family Nervous System, Transitions and Stress Responses
07 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath discusses some nervous system science (Polyvagal Theory and Stephen Porges and Deb Dana's work) and invites us into considering h...
Ep 59: Birth Trauma, Dissociation and Growing Up in Motherhood with Sophie Burch
31 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Cath was joined by coach, trainer and hypno-CBT therapist Sophie Burch this week. We talked about Sophie's journey to motherhood, her passion and miss...
Ep 58: Words of Encouragement for Holidays (Re-release)
24 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath discusses what shift we need to make as parents around the holidays.Cath discusses some of the emotional adjustments we need to m...
Ep 57: Process, Self Care and Growing up in Motherhood with Suzy Reading
17 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath is joined by author and coach Suzy Reading. Suzy shares about how she has grown herself up in motherhood, how grief impacted her ...
Ep 56: The Messy Imperfection of Rupture and Repair
10 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath speaks about the process of rupture and repair with our children. We may imagine that this is a neat, easy process (and sometimes...
Ep 55: Intrusions, Control and Growing Up in Motherhood with Anna Butcher
03 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath is joined by Anna Butcher. We talked about Anna's journey to motherhood, how she experiences mothering and how the act of becomin...
Ep 54: Ways to Support and Resource Ourselves
26 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Cath is a psychotherapist and so is obviously a big fan of therapy and the positive benefits arising from therapy. She also recognises that sometimes ...
Ep 53: Neediness, Choice and Growing Up in Motherhood with Mara Glatzel
19 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In episode 53 Cath is joined by author, coach and podcast host Mara Glatzel.This is a rich conversation centered on needs and how we can make space fo...
Ep 52: The Complex Journey of Meeting Needs
12 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In episode 52 Cath focuses on our needs and why starting to meet/meeting them can be so complex (building on earlier episodes on this topic, listen to...
Ep 51: Partner Rage, Postpartum Health and Healing in Motherhood with Molly Caro May
05 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In episode 51 Cath was joined by author Molly Caro May. This rich and beautiful conversation covered so much ground. They touched on Molly’s memoir ...
Ep 50: Shame, Perfectionism and Holidays
29 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this half century episode Cath talks about how our own shame and perfectionism (and what happens when our shame gets touched) can impact our holida...
Ep 49: Burnout and Parenting When Our Kids Struggle with Kendra Wilde
22 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Cath was joined by Kendra Wilde this week. They talked all about how to keep our sanity intact in parenting when our children are struggling in some w...
Ep 48: Understanding our Jealousy and Envy
15 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath talks about two feelings - jealousy and envy - that are often seen as ‘bad’ feelings or feelings we should not admit to (beca...
Ep 47: Anxiety, Control, Letting Go and Perfectionism in our Mothering with Azalia Suhaimi
08 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's episode Cath is joined by artist and illustrator Azalia Suhaimi. Azalia shares her motherhood journey and how perfectionism, anxiety an...
Ep 46: Making Space For Grief
02 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Grief is an emotion that arises in response to loss and it applies to many things apart from death. We often need to learn how to make space for ...
Ep 45: Productivity, Always Being Busy and Starting to Stop (part re-release)
24 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Productivity is revered in our society and for many of us this constant drive to produce, to be busy, to be viewed as always efficient is wired into u...
Ep 44: Perfectionism, Baby Sleep, Breastfeeding and Rage with Hannah Clapham
17 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath is joined by Hannah Clapham who runs a sleep consultancy service called Little Nest Sleep. Hannah shares about how she has grown ...
Ep 43: The Complexity of Shifting and Breaking Cycles
10 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Those who are working to shift toxic cycles in their own lives and in their families are called 'cycle breakers' on social media.This is a powerful po...
Ep 42: Blame, Responsibility and Co-regulation
03 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath looks at the concept of blame. Blame is often something that happens a lot in dysfunctional families and, as adults, it can feel ...
Ep 41: Healing and Breaking Cycles in Parenting with Maggie Viers
27 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath is joined by Occupational Therapist and Conscious Parent Coach Maggie Viers. Maggie shares her own growth and awakening in mother...
Ep 40: Self Mothering: Putting it into Practise
21 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath discusses the concept of self mothering, explaining why this is such a crucial part of all our healing journey.She explains what ...
Ep 39: A Mother's Journey to Conscious Parenting and Parenting Teens with Yvonne Smyth
14 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath is joined by Yvonne Smyth. Yvonne is a Conscious Parent Coach and a Child Advocate. She's a single mum who co...
Ep 38: The Scourge of Shame and Why it Matters
07 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Shame is present in all dysfunctional families and yet it is something we don’t talk about that much.Cath has mentioned it in multiple episodes and ...
Ep 37: What Drives Anxiety and A Key Tool to Help
28 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath delves into anxiety more, following on from Episode 34. She uses neuroscience to explain why those of us with a stressful/traumat...
Ep 36: Growing Ourselves Up in Friendship and Work with Tamu Thomas (re-release)
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath and Tamu Thomas talk about growing ourselves up in our adult friendships and what this can look like.Together they reflect on how...
Ep 35: Being a Good Enough Parent
14 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath speaks about how good enough parenting is rooted in relationship. When we tend to ourselves, begin to meet our own needs and deep...
Ep 34: Uncertainty, Anxiety and Control
07 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath speaks to how we are much more likely to struggle with managing uncertainty and to experience anxiety when we have not had our ne...
Ep 33: Mental Health and Personal Growth in our Mothering with Emily Adler Mosqueda
31 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath is joined by Emily Adler Mosqueda. We discuss Emily's mothering experience. Emily shares how her postpartum time after the birth ...
Ep 32: Practical Tips To Make Change
24 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is a continuation of Episode 30. In episode 30 Cath talked about being in our own power, being aware of our agency and using these to cre...
Ep 31: Being a Good Enough Mother with Ali Pember
17 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath chats to coach and psychotherapist Ali Pember about what it means to be a good enough mother. This episode is full of insight and...
Ep 30: A Different Way to Approach a New Year (and why it is important)
10 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
New Year's resolutions can be so seductive for many of us, convincing us that we need a new version of ourselves (and that this is even possible in a ...
Ep 29: A Loving Message To Support You and Your Values
25 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this special bonus episode released on Christmas Day, Cath talks about what can sometimes derail us over the holidays. She makes suggestions around...
Ep 28: Words for When Things Feel Like Shit
20 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Ironically Christmas is often a time when many of us struggle with our mental health and with staying in a regulated enough place.Cath addresses why t...
Ep 27: Christmas and Self Compassion
13 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There are some reflections on Christmas and how this may feel like a mixed time for many listeners (for multiple different reasons).Cath reflects on h...
Ep 26: When Our Needs Feel Illegitimate
06 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The way we come into relationships with our needs when we are babies and young children, has a huge influence on the way we learn to tend to our needs...
Ep 25: Boundaries and Why Healing People Pleasing in Parenting is Important
29 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath digs into the detail of people pleasing more, explaining why this is a sub-optimal parenting strategy and scenarios that can aris...
Ep 24: Managing the Challenge of Holiday Times to Thrive and Maximise Joy
22 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this deeply heartfelt and personal episode, Cath speaks to the complexity of managing family relationships around the holidays and high days (parti...
Ep 23: Patterns That Can Lead to People Pleasing and Starting to Stop
15 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath colours in more of the people pleasing picture.How and why does this arise in our family of origin? How were we set up to act as ...
Ep 22: People Pleasing Patterns In Our Lives and Careers with Tamu Thomas
08 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath is joined by her first guest, Tamu Thomas (Live Three Sixty). Cath and Tamu talk about Tamu's experience of motherhood, how she h...
Ep 21: People Pleasing and Parenting
01 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The beginning of this episode focuses on how, when we are perfectionists, we often don't stop and appreciate what we have done/completed/achieved. We ...
Ep 20: Why are Boundaries so Integral to Needs? (Re-release)
24 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In episode 20 we look at why learning to put down boundaries is an essential part of actually getting our needs met. This episode (which is a re-relea...
Ep 19: Balancing Our Own Healing with Raising Kids
17 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Cath looks at how we can balance our own healing with raising children. She shares an analogy which might help you tend to your needs...
Ep 18: The Most Important Ingredient in Post Traumatic Growth
10 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath reflects on how, when we are on a healing journey, the most important thing in the present moment is to develop a warm, supportiv...
Ep 17: Part 3: Making Decisions in Our Adult Love Relationships
03 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath talks about decision making in our adult love relationships.She talks about friendship, the important role of mentalisation (Pete...
Ep 16: Unwinding from Overdoing and Rest
26 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath discusses how overdoing, overworking and being constantly busy are ways in which many of us have learnt to manage life. We operat...
Ep 15: Resilience, Joy, Processing and Witnessing
19 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath encourages listeners to develop resources for themselves to assist them on their own healing journey.She discusses how tempting i...
Ep 14: Trauma, Understanding the Impact of Childhood Trauma and Research
13 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this psychoeducational episode Cath talks about trauma, what it is, the way it has been conceptualised and changed over time. And why it is importa...
Ep 13: Part 1: Post Traumatic Growth, Decisions and Careers
05 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath talks about a simple assessment framework we can use when making decisions (about careers) and everything else in life.Cath talks...
Ep 12: How Do I Start to Meet My Needs? (Re-release)
29 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Coming into relationship with our needs is a process, an ongoing investigative journey. In this episode we look at:Some of the blockers to this.How be...
Ep 11: Part 2: Maintaining Our Love Relationships in Early Parenthood
22 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this honest and personal episode Cath looks on a more granular level at some of the challenges of being present in our own adult love relationships...
Ep 10: Part 1: Maintaining and Nourishing Our Love Relationships in Early Parenthood
15 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this searingly honest and personal episode Cath looks at the challenges of being present in our own adult love relationships after having children....
Ep 9: Why Is My Window of Tolerance Narrow (Experience Dysregulation) And How Can I Help Myself?
08 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 9 is a continuation of the psycho education from episode 8.Everyone needs to know about their windows of tolerance and get to know their own n...
Ep 8: Window of Tolerance, Co-Regulation
01 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 8 is focused on psycho education to assist you in understanding yourself and your responses. In this episode Cath explains our windows of tole...
Ep 7: Shifting Patterns in our Families: Things to Hold in Mind
25 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Those who are working to shift toxic cycles in their own lives and in their families are called 'cycle breakers' on social media.This is a powerful po...
Ep 6: Words of Encouragement for the School Holidays and Holidays
18 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Cath discusses what a shift we need to make as parents around holidays. Episode 6 is a continuation of some of the themes from Episode...
Ep 5: Words of Encouragement for the Hard Days
11 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we discuss hard days in parenting and how often our coping mechanisms from childhood can make these days harder.We discuss the develop...
Ep 4: Needs, Boundaries and Consequences of Not Meeting Needs
04 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In episode 4 we continue with the theme of needs and this episode is packed with suggestions, tips and ways to support yourself around boundaries and ...
Ep 3: Joy, Our Window of Tolerance And Re-Patterning Our Nervous Systems
27 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Cultivating joy is a really important aspect of healing and recovery. As well as working to change dysfunctional patterns in our lives it is also impo...
Ep 2: Coming Into A Relationship With Our Needs
27 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Coming into relationship with our needs is a process, an ongoing investigative journey. In this episode we look at:1.Some of the blockers to this.2.Ho...
Ep 1: Why Is Meeting Our Own Needs Important And Why Is It So Hard?
27 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we cover:Why meeting our needs is the gateway to personal agency and being in our own power in our lives.A discussion of how we first ...
Trailer
20 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Grow Yourself Up is a podcast to support all of us in our adult lives. Many of us did not get our needs adequately met in childhood. The devastating l...