Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After Betrayal
Episodes
Navigating Couples Therapy and Coaching After Infidelity with E.J. and Tarah Kerwin
01 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I sit down with E.J. and Tarah Kerwin to talk about what it really takes to heal and rebuild after infidelity. We explore the truth t...
Is There Actually a Snake?
24 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Fear can feel so real — so urgent — that it's easy to believe every emotional "rustle" is a threat. In this episode, I walk through how fear actua...
What's Living in the Corners
17 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I take you deeper into what it really means to tell your truth all the way out — especially the parts we keep hidden. I share what ...
Truth All the Way Out
10 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm sharing what led me to step back — and what I discovered when I finally slowed down and got honest with myself. After years of ...
Stay or Go? The Truth About Leaving a Marriage [Encore]
03 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
If you've ever felt stuck in the question of whether to stay or leave, this encore episode is for you. I'm sharing some of the most common concerns I ...
How to Trust Yourself After Infidelity [Encore]
27 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
What if the discomfort you feel isn't confusion… but clarity trying to break through? In this encore episode, I walk you through one of the most po...
Why Time Alone Won't Heal Infidelity Pain [Encore]
20 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Healing from infidelity isn't about waiting for time to pass — it's about what we choose to do with that time. In this encore episode, I walk throug...
Sustainable Healing: The Path Beyond Infidelity [Encore]
13 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this encore episode, I talk about a concept that can completely change the way you approach healing after infidelity: sustainability. Many of us t...
When the Truth Finally Comes Out: Lauren's Story of Reclaiming Life [Encore]
06 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this encore episode, I sit down with Lauren, a former client who bravely shares her journey through discovering decades of hidden infidelity and th...
Luke Shillings: A Man's Perspective on Betrayal and Healing [Encore]
27 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this encore episode, I sit down with relationship and infidelity coach Luke Schillings to talk openly about betrayal from a man's perspective. Luke...
Self-Trust After Infidelity: Ending People-Pleasing [Encore]
20 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this encore episode, I talk about something that is foundational to healing after infidelity: learning to trust yourself again by honoring what you...
From Spiral to Steady: Managing Intrusive Thoughts [Encore]
13 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Intrusive thoughts after infidelity can feel overwhelming, consuming, and impossible to control. In this encore episode, I walk through what intrusive...
Three Steps to Stop the Pain After Betrayal [Encore]
06 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
After infidelity, one of the most common questions I hear is, "Will it always hurt?" In this encore episode, I answer that question honestly and offer...
Letting Go After Betrayal - Learning to Loosen Your Grip [Encore]
30 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Letting go after betrayal sounds simple, but it's some of the hardest work we'll ever do. In this encore episode, I talk honestly about why letting go...
Healing Resentment When Trust Has Been Broken [Encore]
23 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Resentment is one of the heaviest emotions we carry after infidelity, and it can quietly destroy even the most well-intentioned attempts to heal. In t...
The Skill That Makes Emotional Healing Possible [Encore]
16 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this encore episode, I'm teaching one of the most foundational skills for healing after betrayal: how to feel your feelings instead of fighting the...
Infidelity, Self-Blame, and the Path to Healing [Encore]
09 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Infidelity can feel like one of the most devastating experiences a person can go through, and in this encore episode, I talk about why it cuts so deep...
How to Stop Repeating the Same Emotional Patterns [Encore]
02 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In this encore episode, I'm teaching you one of the most powerful tools I use in my coaching: the thought model. This framework helps you see, with cl...
How to Make Decisions When You're Afraid of Being Wrong [Encore]
26 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this encore episode, I'm teaching you how to make decisions with clarity, confidence, and self-trust — especially when the stakes feel high and t...
Why Healing Feels Impossible After Betrayal [Encore]
19 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Feeling stuck after infidelity doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. In this episode, I explain why feeling frozen, conflicted, or unable to ...
Are You Ready to Break the Pattern?
12 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I talk about the patterns so many of us find ourselves repeating after infidelity — the emotional loops, the unspoken agreements, a...
Reclaiming Strength After Betrayal: My Story [Encore]
05 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this very first episode of my podcast, I share my personal story and the experiences that shaped the work I do today. When this show originally lau...
Am I Co-Dependent? How to Know if You're Losing Yourself in the Relationship
28 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm diving into a topic that sits quietly underneath so many of the patterns that show up after infidelity: codependency. This isn't ...
Your Energetic Yes and No - Listening to Your Body in Real Time
21 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I dive deeper into a topic that has the power to change the way we move through our lives: our energetic yes and our energetic no. Af...
Energetic Boundaries - Protecting Your Peace Without Building Walls
14 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm diving into a topic I've been learning on a much deeper level: energetic boundaries. After betrayal, it's common to feel like you...
A Message for When You're Really Hurting
07 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
There are moments when the pain feels too deep to describe — when every step forward feels impossible and healing seems out of reach. In this episod...
The Truth About Emotional Affairs and What They're Really About
31 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Emotional affairs can be one of the most confusing and painful experiences in a relationship. In this episode, I'm breaking down what they really are ...
The Hidden Weight of Internalized Shame
24 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Shame is one of the most isolating and painful emotions we can experience—especially after betrayal. In this episode, I dive deep into how internali...
Anchoring into Safety When You Don't Have the Answers Yet
17 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm talking about something that so many of us struggle with: uncertainty. When answers haven't arrived yet, or when we know what's t...
Vulnerability and Surrender: The Courage to Lean in After Betrayal
10 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
After betrayal, every instinct tells you to armor up—to stay guarded and in control. But what if the true path to healing lies in doing the opposite...
How to Get More Sleep After Infidelity with Yana Vriesinga
03 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Sleep struggles are one of the most common and painful side effects after betrayal. I know firsthand how exhausting it can feel to lie awake night aft...
She Rises - Honoring Desire and Finding Strength with Molly Claire
26 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I sit down with my dear friend and mentor, Molly Claire, to talk about courage, resilience, and what it really means to rise from lif...
When Reaching for Power Pushes Love Away
19 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm diving into a common but hidden struggle: the ways we reach for power when we feel powerless—and how those very actions often p...
Peace in Difficult Decisions: How to Choose Alignment Over Perfection
12 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I talk about what it really means to find peace when facing tough decisions. Recently, I was torn between attending my sister's miles...
When the Results Don't Match the Effort: Staying Strong When Change Feels Too Slow
05 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I open up about one of the most frustrating parts of the healing process—when the results don't seem to match the effort you're put...
What Team are You On? Choosing Growth After Infidelity
29 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Heal From Infidelity, I dive into one of the most powerful analogies I've used with clients: asking the question, What team are you...
What You're Not Saying and Why
22 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I open up about the hidden cost of unspoken truths and what happens when we hold back from sharing how we really feel. I talk about w...
A Painful Lesson in Avoiding Facing the Truth | Ep #203
15 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I open up about how avoiding uncomfortable truths in relationships can create even deeper pain over time. I talk about the emotional ...
When to Let the Old Stories Go | Ep #202
08 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore how storytelling can be a powerful tool for healing after betrayal. I explain the difference between revisiting a story to ...
How to Bring Up the Infidelity Again Without Starting Another War | Ep #201
02 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we're going to talk about the complexities of conversations about infidelity. I know that sometimes it's important to revisit painful ...
Keep Watering - What My Flowers Taught Me About Healing After Infidelity | Ep #200
25 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
It's the 200th episode of Heal from Infidelity! I'm going to share a personal story about planting flowers - and the importance of continuing to care...
When They're Unhappy with You: Staying True without Shutting Down | Ep #199
18 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Let's talk about the challenges of navigating disapproval and emotional reactions in relationships. You'll learn about differentiation — maintaining...
When Forgiving Doesn't Mean Forgetting | Ep #198
11 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today we take a look at the complex relationship between forgiveness and forgetting, emphasizing that true forgiveness does not require the erasure of...
The Hidden Pain of Betrayal - Yours, Theirs, Ours | Ep #197
04 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we look at the hidden pain of betrayal, emphasizing that both the betrayed and the betrayer experience deep emotional turmoil. We exp...
The Mask of Avoidance: When Protection Becomes Disconnection | Ep #196
27 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we discuss the pervasive issue of avoidance in relationships. We explore how avoidance manifests as a lack of communication and emotio...
Reclaiming Your Life After Abuse with Alysha Lee | Ep #195
20 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this powerful episode, we welcome Alysha Lee, who shares her intense journey of leaving an abusive relationship. Alysha opens up about her experien...
What It Means to Be All in on the Relationship | Ep #194
13 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I explore the concept of being 'all in' on a relationship and talk about the importance of commitment, understanding deal breakers, a...
Relational Bypassing - The Hidden Ways We Bypass Real Healing | Ep #193
06 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we'll discuss the concept of relational bypassing, a pattern where individuals avoid emotional pain in relationships, particularly aft...
What It Means to Be All In | Ep #192
30 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What does it mean to be "all in" on yourself, especially in the context of healing from infidelity? We'll talk about the importance of self-commitment...
Full Body Healing with Majo Torreli | Ep #191
23 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Majo Torreli, a somatic coach who helps women break unhealthy relationship patterns and cultivate self-love, shares her personal jour...
Manipulation or Influence - How to Tell the Difference After Infidelity | Ep #190
16 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we'll explore the critical distinction between manipulation and influence, particularly in the context of relationships affected by in...
Unbecoming Who I Never Was - Releasing Old Stories and Reclaiming What's True | Ep #189
09 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today we're exploring unbecoming and self-discovery. We'll look at the importance of stripping away old identities and beliefs that no longer serve us...
More Than Actions - What We Really Need After Betrayal | Ep #188
02 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Actions alone are insufficient for healing after betrayal. Today we're talking about the importance of genuine connection, the impact of childhood exp...
Making Room for It All - Lessons from a Wedding | Ep #187
25 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today I'm going to share a personal experience of navigating some complex emotions during my daughter's wedding. Let's talk about the importance of ma...
Focusing on the Wrong Things After Infidelity | Ep #186
18 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we talk about how important it is to focus on personal growth after infidelity rather than fixating on the actions of the partner. We ...
Stop Learning and Start Letting In: The Power of Integration After Infidelity | Ep #185
11 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we cover the critical concept of integration after infidelity. It's so important to move beyond mere education and understanding and ...
The Hidden Cost of Happy Wife, Happy Life | Ep #184
04 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today, let's explore the phrase 'happy wife, happy life' and its implications on relationships. We'll discuss the dangers of suppressing emotions, the...
Honesty - Your True North in Healing and Relationships | Ep #183
28 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we're delving into the importance of honesty and truth-telling in the healing process after betrayal. We'll talk about the courage req...
Releasing the Leeches - Letting Go of What Was Never Yours | Ep #182
21 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today we're talking about the concept of emotional leeches — people or beliefs that drain our energy without giving anything in return. It's so impo...
Truth - the Doorway to Freedom | Ep #181
14 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we discuss the transformative power of truth in the healing journey after infidelity. There is emphasis on the importance of facing ha...
Loss, Grief and Rebirth with Julie Cluff | Ep #180
07 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today's guest is Julie Cluff, a hope and grief coach, who shares her profound journey of loss and transformation after the tragic death of her two chi...
Stop Reacting and Start Leading | Ep #179
28 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today we're going to stop reacting and start leading. Let's talk about the importance of moving from a reactive state to a proactive one in relationsh...
Self-Repair After Betrayal | Ep #178
21 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today we discuss the essential process of self-repair after experiencing betrayal with an emphasis on the importance of focusing on your relationship ...
Why Those Who Invest in Themselves Heal Faster | Ep #177
14 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today we explore the critical importance of investing in oneself for healing and personal growth after infidelity. Those who commit financially and em...
Turning Intense Moments into Growth | Ep #176
07 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we discuss the journey of healing from infidelity through personal growth and empowerment. Using a skiing experience as a metaphor, I...
Is It Healthy Love or Love Addiction? | Ep #175
31 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we explore the critical differences between healthy love and love addiction. We discuss the emotional dependencies that characterize ...
Influence Through Self-Leadership | Ep #174
24 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we discuss the importance of self-leadership in the healing process after infidelity. Self-leadership involves taking responsibility ...
Transactional Versus Generous Giving | Ep #173
17 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we look at the concepts of transactional versus generous giving in relationships, particularly in the context of healing after infide...
Navigating Change After Infidelity | Ep #172
10 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we discuss the challenges of navigating personal change and grief after infidelity. I share my own experiences of emotional upheaval a...
False Confidence | Ep #171
03 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we discuss the concept of false confidence, particularly in the context of healing from infidelity. We explore the difference between...
Recognizing Narcissism with Kendra Last | Ep #170
27 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Kendra Last and I delve into the complexities of narcissism in relationships, particularly in the context of betrayal and infidelity....
What True Remorse Looks Like | Ep #169
20 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we discuss the critical role of remorse in healing from infidelity. I'll emphasize the importance of genuine apologies, the character...
The Free Fall of Commitment | Ep #168
13 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today let's delve into the complexities of commitment, especially in the wake of infidelity. We'll discover how committing can feel like a terrifying ...
One Choice at a Time | Ep #167
06 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Join Andrea in episode 167 of the Heal From Infidelity podcast as she explores the power of making choices, one at a time. Discover how each decision,...
The Gifts of Uncertainty | Ep #166
29 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Andrea shares personal experiences and insights that show how letting go of the need for certainty can lead to profound personal grow...
Escapism and Infidelity | Ep #165
22 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Andrea delves into the complex relationship between escapism and infidelity. Discover why individuals turn to escapism, how it manife...
The Price of Judgment | Ep #164
15 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Andrea explores the profound impact of judgment on relationships, especially in the aftermath of infidelity. Discover how judgment can hinder healing ...
ANNOUNCEMENT: Trigger-Proof Your Holidays: Reclaim the Season After Infidelity
12 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
FREE CLASS! Friday, November 15, 2024 10:00 am MT / 12:00 pm ET Join us for a special class on navigating and trigger-proofing your holidays, hosted...
Technology and Infidelity | Ep #163
08 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Andrea delves into the intricate relationship between technology and infidelity. Discover how the digital age has transformed the lan...
What Healing Really Looks Like | Ep #162
01 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Andrea delves into the profound journey of healing from betrayal. Through personal anecdotes and insightful reflections, she explores...
Betrayal and New Trust | Ep #161
25 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Join Andrea as she delves into the complex journey from betrayal to rebuilding trust. This episode offers tactical insights and real-life examples to ...
What's Possible After Infidelity | Ep #160
18 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Join Andrea as she explores the transformative possibilities that await after infidelity. Through real-life client stories, Andrea sheds light on the ...
Is Anger Holding You Back? | Ep #159
11 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Andrea delves into the complex emotion of anger and its impact on personal growth. Discover how anger can serve as both a warning signal and a barrier...
Changing Your Mind | Ep #158
04 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Andrea explores the concept of changing your mind, its challenges, and benefits. She shares a story about Terry Real, a well-known th...
Your Bottom Line | Ep #157
27 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Andrea explores the concept of "your bottom line" and how it plays a crucial role in the healing process after experiencing infidelit...
Your Relationship to Trauma | Ep #156
20 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this empowering episode, Andrea delves into the complex topic of your relationship to trauma. Andrea shares personal stories and professional insig...
The Boomerang Effect | Ep #155
13 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Andrea delves into the concept she calls "The Boomerang Effect." Inspired by a coaching session with a client, Andrea explores how st...
A New Look at Forgiveness with Dara McKinley | Ep #154
06 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Andrea welcomes forgiveness expert Dara McKinley to explore the profound and transformative power of forgiveness. Dara shares her per...
Spiritual Bypassing | Ep #153
30 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today, Andrea dives into the complex issue of spiritual bypassing. She discusses how individuals often use spiritual practices as a way to avoid facin...
Remembering Your Value | Ep #152
23 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's episode, Andrea takes us on a heartfelt walk in the country to discuss the importance of recognizing and remembering your value. Learn ...
Boundaries and Self-Sovereignty with Lindsay Poelman | Ep #151
16 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are boundaries hard for you? Do you struggle to know when to be firm and when to let up? In this episode, I interview expert Linsday Poelman about bo...
How to Reclaim Your Life After Infidelity | Ep #150
09 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you wonder what will actually work for you in moving forward after the infidelity? With so much conflicting information, it can be quite confusing....
The Three Phases of Recovery | Ep #149
02 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever wonder what you should be focusing on after infidelity? This episode details the three areas that couples need to dive into in order to h...
Your Ten Year View | Ep #148
26 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
One of the biggest struggles in the aftermath of infidelity is not knowing what to do. Do I just wait on him to see what he does? How can I ever let ...
My Ten Year View | Ep #147
19 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I go deep and personal with my journey since the ten year anniversary death of my first husband on July 9th. Many struggle in the aft...
Mature Relationships | Ep #146
12 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
After infidelity, you may believe your relationship is forever damaged. While you can never go back and undo it, there is an opportunity to build a wi...
Winning Strategies | Ep #145
28 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
As a follow-up to episode #138, "Losing Strategies," this episode will cover "Winning Strategies." There are five skills that, when used (and practic...
Types of Affairs | Ep #144
14 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
For most people, any kind of infidelity or affair is quite a life-changing blow, but the reality is that not all affairs are the same. In this episod...
Lessons from a Renovation | Ep #143
31 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Join me this week as I share a personal experience of taking on a major project. You'll hear some of the obstacles that made me want to quit, and the ...
Who Should I Tell? | Ep #142
17 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
A question I get asked a lot is, "Who should I tell?" After infidelity discovery, you may want to shout it to the rooftops, or tell absolutely no one...