Heal Your Codependency with Marshall Burtcher

Your Internal Compass: The Source of Your Answers

04 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Marshall Burtcher, your expert in healing codependency, reveals the internal compass all codependents must develop to break out of th...

How Believing In Scarcity Keeps You Codependent

16 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

[How Believing In Scarcity Keeps You Codependent]In this episode, Marshall Burtcher, your expert in healing codependency, reveals how scarcity beliefs...

Persistence And The Foundation You Need

19 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Marshall discusses the importance of persistence, why it is necessary, and how having the proper foundation of emotional regulation, safety, self-trus...

Why You Chase Love...

21 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Why You Chase Love...In this episode, Marshall Burtcher, your expert in healing codependency, uncovers the core reason you chase love, tolerate better...

Why You Can't Keep Your Boundaries (And What To Do About It)

13 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Why You Can't Keep Your Boundaries (And What To Do About It)In this episode, Marshall Burtcher, your expert in healing codependency, reveals the ...

How To Heal Insecurity Correctly

25 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How To Heal Insecurity Correctly****In this powerful episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation mentor, reveals the true cause of in...

What If This Work Isn't About Healing Codependency?

21 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

It Isn't About Healing CodependencyIn this episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation expert, invites you to explore what heali...

Take Back The Authority Over Your Worth

18 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Take Back The Authority Over Your WorthIn this episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation expert, shares how essential it is to rest...

What's Attachment Got To Do With Codependency?

17 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What's Attachment Got To Do With Codependency?In this episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation expert, reveals how attachment...

Why You Fixate On Other People's Approval

15 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Why You Fixate On Other People's ApprovalIn this powerful episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation mentor, reveals a hidden n...

How To Correctly Prioritize Yourself

07 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How To Correctly Prioritize Yourself****In this powerful episode, Marshall Burtcher, your codependency transformation mentor, reveals the habit that l...

Breaking Misconceptions #1: What Codependency Isn't!

31 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Breaking Misconceptions #1: What Codependency Isn't!Healing your codependency depends on you having the correct knowledge, practices, support, an...

End People-pleasing With This Shift

23 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How To Stop People-pleasing: Taking Back Your WorthOne of the key entanglements that drives the people-pleasing impulse has to do with your worth. We...

How To Stop People-pleasing: Are You Making Their Feelings Too Important?

21 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

 How To Stop People-pleasing: Are You Making Their Feelings Too Important?People-pleasing drives us to over-prioritize and emphasize people's ne...

Are You Blended Up In Them?

15 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are You Blended Up In Them?Codependency and people-pleasing require a high level of vigilance and emotional enmeshment with others in order to feel so...

The 3 perils of doing it yourself healing

10 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

The 3 perils of doing it yourself healing...I have done a lot of DIY healing. Some of it was all I had available to me due to finances. Much of it was...

Do You Allow Yourself To Change?

08 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Changing our minds is an essential part of being our personal, sovereign authority.And I have changed my mind and made a change.FOUNDATION is reschedu...

What Purpose Is Driving Your Healing?

29 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What Purpose Is Driving Your Healing?We have motivators that drive what we do.The motivators that drive codependency are very, very different from tho...

Are You Surviving Or Thriving? My Focus For 2025

23 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

2025 brings you and I into a pivot in the work.  I will be focusing on leading you to the results that matter to you. This all starts with understan...

Getting Control of Uncertainty? Is That Possible?

06 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When you've gone through trauma, the brain tends to amplify it's negative bias, creating negative anticipation towards uncertain things.We f...

Is It Time To Be The Power And Authority Over Your Life?

25 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

 It will be essential, at some point, to admit to and embrace the authority and power you rightly, naturally possess to direct and govern your life.Y...

How I View Codependency And The Codependent - Important In Choosing Who You Work With

11 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How a therapist, coach, mentor, support community, or even yourself view codependency and codependents directly influences the outcomes, results, and ...

The Importance of Identifying And Integrating The Gains In Your Healing

04 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The Importance of Gains:What is a gain?  It is a positive outcome we receive through a choice we make or a choice we do not make.  An example:  I g...

Your Pain vs The Story You Tell

28 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Pain vs Your StoryTransformation of a person's pain-filled life to a joy-filled life is the journey of healing and becoming who you truly be.  I...

The Burden of Cause

21 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Burden of CauseWhat is the "burden of cause"?  It is a term I use to describe believing you cause other people to treat you the way they tr...

Feeling Lost In Other People's Lives, Feelings, Desires? Here's What To Do

24 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

De-centering others and centering yourself in your life is *necessary*, not selfish.It is about understanding what matters personally to you while set...

Knowledge Overwhelm Is Sabotaging Your Healing

20 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Knowledge overwhelm is a primary factor in experiencing freeze, procrastination, and loops of stagnation when you're trying to heal from trauma a...

Going Slow - It Is A Must

18 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Going Slow - It Is A MustTo heal, we must sloooooow down.To know ourselves, we must sloooooow down.To find direction in our lives, we must slooooooow ...

Becoming Your Own Protector To Nurture Secure Attachment

10 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Being neglected, being abused, being shoved into the world without guidance, care, shelter, or protection wired our attachment systems to be on high a...

Emotional Perfectionism: Making sure you feel the "right" things, not the real things

27 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Emotional Perfectionism, Part One:  Making sure you feel the "right" things, not the real thingsI define emotional perfectionism as the rig...

The Three Phases Of Exiting Codependency: Creation Phase - Where you create a life you enjoy

21 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Creation Phase is where you arrive with the ability to determine what kind of experiences you want to have, and then using your personal power, intuit...

The Three Phases Of Exiting Codependency: Healing Phase - Where you grow into your real self

19 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The Healing Phase is the deep work of unbecoming your codependency and discovering who you are beyond your pain, trauma, and survival self. This is w...

The Three Phases Of Exiting Codependency: Survival Phase - Where you start your journey

13 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Survival is the phase we all start in.  It is the phase where we realize our codependency and begin the big work of healing that codependency and bec...

Is It Time To Quit? The Uncanny Power of Quitting To Accelerate Your Healing

06 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Quitting - It is necessary in the healing journey.Quitting relationships.Quitting fixing.Quitting chasing fantasy outcomes.Quitting.It makes space for...

Why you only love yourself when things are going well

23 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Episode: Why you only love yourself when things are going wellWhen we live from a love equation that says "I'm only lovable when...", w...

Two Hidden Factors That Short Circuit Your Self-Love

15 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Two Hidden Factors That Short Circuit Your Self-LoveReally, actually loving yourself is a profound challenge when we come from codependency and love-i...

The ONE thing that absolutely prevents you from loving yourself

08 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Episode:  The ONE thing that absolutely prevents you from loving yourselfTransaction, earned love teaches us that we must - MUST - seek, chase, and p...

Why You Struggle To Really, Actually Love Yourself

02 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Why You Struggle To Really, Actually Love YourselfWhen you're rewarded with praise, attention, or affection for doing something, your body will s...

Codependency And Shame - What's Really Happening

19 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Codependency And Shame - What's Really HappeningYou cannot become free of your codependency until you break free of what I call "Your Root I...

3 Priorities For Satisfaction If You're Codependent

17 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

3 Priorities For Satisfaction If You're CodependentDo you often feel: - Empty, frustrated, or used? - Wonder why your life is not fulfilling or...

You're Not Emotionally Blocked - You're In Need Of Love

12 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You're Not Emotionally Blocked - You're In Need Of LoveThe term and concept called "blocks" is prevalent in the self-help and heal...

3 Things You Must Unblend From Others If You're To Thrive

10 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

3 Things You Must Unblend From Others If You're To ThriveCodependency has us blending ourselves with others.What is blending?It is confusing one&...

3 Things You Must Trust In Yourself If You're To Heal And Thrive

05 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

3 Things You Must Trust In Yourself If You're To Heal And ThriveAbuse and neglect conditioned you to naturally distrust yourself.  You learned t...

Navigating New or Foreign Experiences That Come From Your Growth And Healing

03 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Navigating New or Foreign Experiences That Come From Your Growth And HealingAdapting to new results because you're choosing different people who ...

What secrets does your emptiness hold?

15 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What secrets does your emptiness hold?Emptiness is often something we fear and can be really intense to confront if we're not sure why we're...

What does it mean to fulfill or nurture a need?

13 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What does it mean to fulfill or nurture a need?Needs are somatic - meaning they are experienced in the body, and their fulfillment is found in the bod...

The Anatomy Of Connection

08 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The 3 Sides Of Fulfilling ConnectionFeeling connection and a sense of belonging invovles the interaction of three distinct "movements" we ea...

Do You Have Internalized Loneliness?

06 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do You Have Internalized Loneliness?First of all, what is "Internalized Loneliness?"It is an enduring, profound sense of being emotionally i...

3 Tips That Take The Sting And Shame Out Of Disappointing Others

28 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

3 Tips That Take The Sting And Shame Out Of Disappointing OthersDisappointing others is a terrifying thing when we've been rejected, discarded, a...

Create Real Confidence By Doing These Two Practices

23 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A crucial and often not taught or discussed aspect of healing and growth is valuing, praising, and appreciating our efforts REGARDLESS of the outcome....

Is This Misconception Sabotaging Your Healing?

21 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Is This Misconception Sabotaging Your Healing?In the early days of my healing, I would try tools, concepts, approaches, and practices in hopes they wo...

Pain Not Healing? Try These 3 Things

16 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Pain Not Healing? Try These 3 ThingsHealing one's pain is a difficult, nebulous concept until we start to actually get *experience* with it.  Th...

The Important And Necessary Step Of Being Open And Available

15 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The Important And Necessary Step Of Being Open And AvailableBeing open and available enables your deepest healing and reconnection to yourself to emer...

Isn't It Time To Stop Fixing Yourself And Start Knowing Yourself Instead?

08 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Isn't It Time To Stop Fixing Yourself And Start Knowing Yourself Instead?I discuss the importance between fixing yourself (something is broken in...

How To Make Healing Easier On Yourself

31 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Healing happens in waves, stripping away layers of programming, bringing in deeper levels of sobriety.This can be intense.I'm going to share with...

Got Capacity?

19 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Got Capacity?This one element is central to your peace, healing, and freedomToday we discover the central element that determines how fast we heal, ho...

Your Sense Of Emotional Safety Depends On This...

17 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Your Sense Of Emotional Safety Depends On This...Feeling safe emotionally requires that we are able to access, acknowledge, and receive whatever is pr...

What Does It Mean To Belong?

12 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What Does It Mean To Belong?We need a sense of connection, inclusion, and belonging with others and ourselves.  When this is not present, we are vuln...

Self-Worth Sets You Free

10 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Self-Worth Sets You FreeCodependency has us sourcing our worth from outside ourselves.  We chase it through approval and by avoiding rejection.  We ...

Do You Have Emotional Safety?

05 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do You Have Emotional Safety?Our body needs to feel safe before it can advocate for itself.Specifically, it needs to feel safe enough to acknowledge a...

Why you are codependent and what to do about it

03 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Codependency is a reaction to unsafe, unreliable relationships.  It required us to give up ourselves to secure three specific needs. This episode di...

Do You Have A Mental Block or Is It Actually Something Else?

14 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

For 15 years, I was focused on resolving my "mental blocks".This idea that something in me was blocking my abundance, my relationships, my l...

Why Am I So Confused And Anxious When Someone Is Kind To Me?

08 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Ever feel confused, flustered, and then suddenly anxious after someone is nice, kind or caring towards you?Do you feel the tension of negative anticip...

If You're Not Healing, This May Be Why

30 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Codependency causes us to seek love, belonging, value, and safety outside ourselves.  This happens because we've experienced profound rejections...

What Does It Mean To Trust Myself?

22 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Let's talk about trust in the work of healing from rejection trauma and codependency, specifically trusting yourself.What does it mean to trust y...

Fear: Understand What It Is Doing For You How To Soothe It

16 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Fear drives much of our behaviors, keeps us stuck in loops of trying to escape it, and tends to cause us to believe that most of life is scary.This is...

5 Things I Do When Things Get Discouraging

01 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

5 Things I Do When Things Get DiscouragingDiscouragement is a real, valid part of the work of healing and growing towards things we value.It happens o...

Ask Marshall: How Do I Trust Myself and Believe Myself More?

25 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Ask Marshall: How Do I Trust Myself and Believe Myself More?Belief and trust in ourselves was our first natural state.  We were born naturally trusti...

Bluntcake: What Really Loving Yourself Means And How To Do It

18 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

***Tired of being stuck, lost, and hopeless in your efforts to actually heal and experience real peace, freedom, and progress in your life?  Join my ...

Essentials: Are You Blended Or Solid In Your Sense of Self?

13 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Essentials: Are You Blended Or Solid In Your Sense of Self?The fawn response focuses our mind and awareness outside ourselves.  In my work, I call th...

Essentials: Reclaim Yourself From Enmeshment Through Connecting To Your Innate Sovereignty

11 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Essentials: Reclaim Yourself From Enmeshment Through Connecting To Your Innate SovereigntyCodependency externalizes our sense of authority, personhood...

Why Do I Push People Away?

29 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Why Do I Push People Away?This is a potent question, and has many possible answers.It is one I explore myself.  "Why do I push away people that ...

Do I Matter? How To Cultivate A Sense Of Mattering

27 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do I Matter?  How To Cultivate A Sense Of MatteringHaving a sense of mattering to others and to yourself is crucial for well-being and belonging.It i...

Are You Knowing Your Pain, Or Ignoring Your Pain?

22 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are You Knowing Your Pain, Or Ignoring Your Pain?Pain is the most neglected, denied, and avoided aspect of our lived experience.  It is also the gate...

What Replaces Codependency As You Heal: The Inner Advocate

20 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What Replaces Codependency As You Heal?Codependency is a strategy the body creates in order to preserve a sense of safety, connection, and self-worth ...

Your Pain Tells The Story of Your Lived Reality

15 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Your Pain Tells The Story of Your Lived RealityMost of my life, emotional pain meant I was either sinning, in error, or expressing some kind of flaw i...

What Is Freeze And How Do I Work With It?

13 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What Is Freeze And How Do I Work With It?The freeze response involves a state of physiological and psychological immobilization, where the person may ...

Anatomy of Codependency Series: Fawning - How To Start Healing It

08 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Anatomy of Codependency Series: Fawning - How To Start Healing ItFawning happens because your body does not feel safe enough to advocate for itself. ...

Anatomy of Codependency Series: Fawning - What It Is And How It Causes Codependency Revisited

06 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Therapists and self-help will often tell you that codependency is the problem and is what requires healing, but here's why that is wrong:  Codep...

How To Empathize and Keep Your Boundaries In Three Steps

01 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How To Empathize and Keep Your Boundaries In Three StepsEmpathy in codependency often causes a person to violate their own boundaries or allow unhealt...

What If Triggers Are An Ally, Not An Enemy?

25 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What If Triggers Are An Ally, Not An Enemy?Triggers speak for the trapped parts of ourselves that are reliving a terror in the past. They give us mom...

Blunt Cake: Are You Trying To Heal By Getting Rid Of Your Emotions?

16 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Blunt Cake: Are You Trying To Heal By Getting Rid Of Your Emotions?I touch on this topic frequently, as it is that important to healing and well-being...

To Stop Pleasing & Appeasing Others, Focus On These 3 Things

09 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

To Stop Pleasing & Appeasing Others, Focus On These 3 ThingsWonder why you automatically people-please, rush to fix things when there's a pro...

Achieving Success In Your Healing: How To Stop Sabotaging Your Healing Work

31 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Achieving Success In Your Healing: Are You Stuck In The "Start-Stop" Loop of Healing?Does this sound familiar?- You buy a course, feel a bur...

Bluntcake Episode: Are You Putting People On Pedestals?

28 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It's been called "idealizing others" or "putting them on a pedastal". This is where a person perceives another to be much bet...

3-Minute Insight: The Two Commitments

26 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

 These two commitments assist you in staying free of codependency impulses and help you orient back to your well-being. *** Workshop link: https://...

How I Nurture Emotional Safety And You Can, Too

25 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How I Nurture Emotional Safety And You Can, TooEmotional safety is an essential factor in creating and sustaining your ability to heal and thrive in y...

Not Sure What To Do? Use These 4 Questions To Get Direction

21 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Not Sure What To Do? Use These 4 Questions To Get Direction.Four questions for codependents to ask themselves when encountering situations in their li...

Do You See Yourself As A Real Person?

19 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do You See Yourself As A Real Person? Essentials: Taking Back Your PersonhoodAbuse and neglect rob us of being a person - a being that is recognized ...

3-Minute Insight: Why Is It So Hard To Love Myself?

17 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Loving yourself is difficult because you've been trained to believe love is transactional, earned, and conditional.In my work, real worth and lov...

3-minute Insight: What The Layers Are In The Onion of Healing

13 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today a student had a question about healing in today's Homework Hours (a live call I offer my students in the Heal Your Codependency Membership)...

Why Can't I Just Accept Myself?

12 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Why Can't I Just Accept Myself?Have you struggled to "just accept yourself?"Do you feel a resistance, a judgment, or sense of "but...

This One Practice Unlocks Your Actual Healing

07 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This One Practice Unlocks Your Actual HealingOften we respond to our pain with judgment, with force, with denial.In fixing, we take on the pain as a t...

Why Mindset Is Not Healing Your Pain

05 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Why Mindset Is Not Healing Your PainFrom 2003 through 2009 I was a mindset junkie. I was constantly working on changing how I thought, how I perceived...

Are You Emotionally Auditing Yourself?

30 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are You Emotionally Auditing Yourself?Are you trying to choose the "right" emotional response to what you're experiencing?When you expe...

Four Signals That Show You're Healing

29 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How Do I Know I Am Actually Healing?Real healing has signals and milestones.  These show up through the changes the mind and body have towards past, ...

Are You Doing The Spaghetti Approach To Healing?

28 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are You Doing The Spaghetti Approach To Healing?I call it: the spaghetti-healing approachThis is where you try out a series of random tools in hopes s...

Bluntcake: You Are Not Entitled To Anyone's Acceptance

23 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

#bluntcake This is one that took me a good while to embrace.  Go gently.You are not entitled to anyone's acceptance.  And you are not entitled...

Isn't it healthy to have certain expectations?

21 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Isn't it healthy to have certain expectations?In healing your codependency, your understanding of what expectations really are and how we use the...

"How Do You Manage Escapism, Marshall?"

13 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

"How Do You Manage Escapism, Marshall?"Firstly, what is escapism?It is the tendency to seek distraction and releif from painful realities.  ...