Show notes
Fertility, motherhood, and grief are rarely experienced in isolation. They overlap, compound, and quietly reshape how a woman sees herself, her body, and her future.Many women move through loss while still being expected to function. They carry grief while building families. They navigate pregnancy, postpartum, and fertility decisions while holding careers, relationships, and public identities together. From the outside, it can look composed. Inside, it often feels fragile, confusing, and deeply human.This is not failure.This is not weakness.And it is not something that needs to be fixed.In this hol+ conversation, Dr. Taz sits down with Whitney Port for an honest, grounding conversation about motherhood without the myth, and finding peace after profound loss. Whitney shares what unfolded after The Hills, including the loss of her father, who was also her business partner, and how grief reshaped her identity, marriage, and mental health during a pivotal season of life.Together, they explore the realities that are often softened or skipped entirely. Pregnancy that does not feel joyful. Postpartum that feels disorienting. Breastfeeding struggles that take a real toll on mental health. And the invisible pressure women carry to do motherhood and fertility “the right way.”Whitney also opens up about her fertility journey, including recurrent miscarriage, IVF, surrogacy, and failed transfers. She speaks candidly about the emotional spiral that can happen when you are someone used to achieving goals, but suddenly face something you cannot control. Rather than centering the story on struggle alone, this conversation focuses on what helped her find steadier ground: learning to stop future-spiraling, returning to the present, and holding gratitude alongside grief.This episode is a reminder that healing does not mean bypassing pain. It means allowing space for it, while slowly reconnecting to meaning, relationships, and self-trust. It reframes fertility and motherhood not as tests of worth or discipline, but as deeply relational, emotional, and embodied experiences.Dr. Taz and Whitney Port discuss: • Life after The Hills and the identity shift that followed • Losing a parent and navigating grief while building a family • Motherhood without the myth of constant joy • Pregnancy, postpartum, and mental health honesty • Breastfeeding pressure, pumping, and maternal burnout • Fertility, IVF, surrogacy, and the emotional weight of uncertainty • Why high-achieving women struggle most with loss of control • How to stop future-spiraling and return to the present • Sharing your story publicly while protecting what is sacredAbout Whitney PortWhitney Port is a television personality, entrepreneur, podcast host, and creative consultant. Known for starring on The Hills and The City, she now uses her platform to speak openly about grief, anxiety, fertility, body image, and modern motherhood, helping women feel less alone in experiences that are often hidden.Stay Connected:Connect further to Hol+ at https://holplus.co/- Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell to stay updated on future episodes of hol+.Follow Whitney Port:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whitneyeveportTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@whitneyportWebsite: https://whitneyport.com/Podcast: With WhitFollow Dr. Taz on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtazmd/https://www.instagram.com/liveholplus/Subscribe to the audio podcast: https://holplus.transistor.fm/subscribeSubscribe to the video podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@DrTazMD/podcastsGet your copy of The Hormone Shift: Balance Your Body and Thrive Through Midlife and MenopauseHost & Production TeamHost: Dr. Taz; Produced by ClipGrowth.com (Producer: Pat Gostek)
(00:00) - Grief after dad’s diagnosis and loss
(00:30) - Dr. Taz introduces Whitney Port
(01:30) - Pregnancy was not “the best time”
(02:00) - Fertility pressure, self-blame, finding the right team
(02:30) - Dr. Taz fan-girl moment and why Whitney’s story matters
(04:30) - Reality TV then vs now
(06:30) - Who Whitney is beyond the show
(08:00) - Losing control of your narrative (editing + portrayal)
(10:15) - The gifts of the show and creative platform
(11:30) - Dad’s illness, grief, identity shift
(13:30) - “I Love My Baby, But…” and being vulnerable on YouTube
(16:00) - Marriage, grief fog, and coping
(18:00) - Breastfeeding, pumping, mastitis, mental health
(21:00) - What we’re not telling new moms (trust + noise)
(23:00) - Body image, female bodies, and acceptance
(27:30) - Fertility journey begins: miscarriage cycle
(29:30) - Surrogacy conversation and failed transfers
(32:00) - Age, hope, and continuing the journey
(33:30) - Shame, grief, staying sane, gratitude shift
(37:30) - Finding the right doctor and the lab factor
(42:30) - Preparing physically and emotionally this time
(44:00) - Privacy boundaries in public life
(46:00) - Advice: purpose, staying in your lane
(50:30) - Businesses, creative consulting, entrepreneurship
(56:30) - What makes you hol + where to follow