7 Days, 7 Online Dating Openers: What to Write on the Apps Every Day of the Week
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How can a playful mindset solve the “what do I say” problem in online dating?
Maybe the most universal problem in dating is what the hell do I say? What do I write? How do you talk to women? And the answer, my answer is you play. That's what flirting is. Flirting is about play.
Welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I'm your host, dating coach and author, Conal Barrett, helping you flirt with authentic confidence, know what to say, get dates and get a great girlfriend, all by being the true, real, authentic you. Mom was right. Women like you for you. I met my incredible girlfriend, Jess, on a dating app. And you have a love-hate relationship with dating apps. Let me rephrase that. You have a hate, hate, hate, hate, hate relationship with dating apps, probably, if you're like most guys. If you don't get matches, if you don't get dates, it's all hate. If you get some leads, if you get some online dating options, then it's like love, hate, hate, hate, but it's so frustrating.
Maybe the hardest thing about online dating for men today is just knowing what to say, knowing what to write, And today's episode, I want to give you exactly what to say, what to write, seven days a week. Literally. If you're not sure what to write for your opener on dating apps, Sunday through Saturday, today's episode is for you. So I came up with seven days of openers. And These are openers that I've tested. I use them. I give them to my clients. Every single opener you're about to hear has worked. And let's just get to it. I'll give you each one Sunday through Saturday. And I'll just give you the opener. And then I'll explain a little bit as to why it works, how you might tweak it if you want to. But these are literally copy and paste if you want them to be.
If you want them to be. Okay, let's get to it. And let's start with Sunday. So if you're not sure what to send to a woman for your online dating opener on a Sunday, send her this. Happy Sunday. It's marathon day for me. It's a Netflix marathon, but still. TV emoji. This is just a dumb, dorky dad joke, but there's a clever little twist here. And you're going to get a lot of women writing you back saying, LOL, ha ha ha, you tricked me. So give this one a try. I like this one because it has a fun little twist at the end. She thinks you're talking about running an actual marathon, but of course it's a Netflix marathon. So this one works because it's self-effacing. You're making fun of yourself a little bit. And there's a surprise joke.
There's a surprise laugh. By the way, if you like this one, if this is your sense of humor, a little bit cheesy, a little bit dad jokey, but also clever, this also works as a prompt. You can also use this as a prompt or as an opener. And I've had a lot of matches with women on the apps who say things like, oh, that sounds way more fun than running a real marathon. Or there was one woman who matched with me once who said, actually, I run real marathons, but I love Netflix marathons as well. And I also like this one because it sets you up to talk about what's on TV, Netflix. You probably struggle with, well, what topics do I talk about? What do I banter with women about? Well, what's on Netflix is great.
So it could play out like this. You send her this Sunday icebreaker. Happy Sunday. It's marathon day for me. A Netflix marathon, but still. She writes you back. Ha ha ha. Very cute. Very funny. And then you might not know where to take it. Well, just stick with the Netflix theme. So speaking of Netflix, I'm curious, what shows are you binging right now? Or tell her what you're binging. And now the two of you are having a nice, light, bantery conversation about TV. And that's a great topic to be bantering about. So give that one a try. I'm a big fan of this one. All right, let's move to Monday. If you have no idea what to message a woman for your opener on a dating app on Monday, go with this. Pop quiz. Your weekend highlight, dot, dot, dot.
A, napping. B, yoga. C, cupcakes. D, eating cupcakes during yoga. Pencils down, pencil emoji. It's playful. It's so easy for women to reply to this. You're giving them an option and it works because it's playful.
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