7 Powerful Secrets to Attraction that Women Have Taught Me (You Need to Know These!)
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Who is Connell Barrett and what is this podcast about?
There's nothing creepy about approaching. What is creepy is to want to do it and just staring and doing nothing. Welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I'm your host, dating coach, Conal Barrett. author of Dating Sucks But You Don't, I am your podcast dating coach. I am here to help you flirt more confidently, get more dates, and get a great girlfriend, and do it all by being authentic. No sketchy pickup artist moves needed. No toxic BS. This is about dating with integrity and authenticity. Yes, even if you're an introvert, even if you're a nerd like me. And today I have a fun episode. I have a lot packed into a very short episode. Today I want to share with you seven secrets that women have taught me about romantic connection over the years. I've been working on my dating life, or I should say I started working on my dating life exactly 20 years ago, 2005. And I've learned a lot from women. And I want to give you seven secrets that are going to help you. And these are things I bet you don't know.
I'll bet you don't know these. So you're going to hear straight from women today through the lens of my stories and my experiences. Just a quick housekeeping thing. before I get to these seven tips for you, I am about to start working on my second book. It's a book about flirting. It's a book about how men and women can essentially create chemistry almost from a whole cloth, starting from nowhere. And I'm going to be taking about three months off from taking on new clients. So if you are looking into the possibility of improving your dating life, and you're open to a dating coach, then what you could do if you want to is book a free call with me at datingtransformation.com and I will share with you, here are the sources of your dating problems. Here's why you're not getting matches.
Here's why you can't approach. Here's why women put you in the friend zone. And then I can share with you a roadmap for if we were to work together how to fix these things using my personalized coaching. The thing is, I'm not going to be taking on new clients in about six weeks because I'm going to be taking a sabbatical to write my second book. So anyway, in the next 30 days or so, if you want to book a free call with me, please do. If you don't, no problem at all. I'm just not going to be available for many, many months for new clients. Okay, anyway, go to datingtransformation.com if you want to book a free consultation with your favorite ginger podcast dating coach. Okay, let's get to it.
What is Secret #1 about women wanting to see your softer side?
I want to give you the seven secrets that women have taught me over the years. I've got a story for each one of these. Secret number one, women are attracted to your masculine and your feminine energy combined. That's right. Women are attracted to feminine energy from a man along with masculine energy. Here's a quick story to exemplify that. I actually stumbled on this insight almost accidentally, man, 15 years ago or so. I'm on a date, second date, sitting in a park bench with a wonderful woman named Kathy, very stylish, inquisitive, bright, pretty art dealer. And she'd met her share of jerks, clearly. So we're sitting in a park bench. We're having smoothies. And at one point, we're talking about dating and sort of what women do and don't want. And she said to me, I hope you're not a wolf in sheep's clothing. And I said to her, well, actually, I'm a sheep in wolf's clothing. Now, I was just trying for a clever turn of phrase. I wasn't going for a deeper truth. But Kathy's eyes got really wide. And I'd accidentally stumbled upon a truth that
And she said, really? That's what we want. We want a man who's a man, but also soft inside. That's it. She got really excited that I said that. I was just trying to be witty. And the more I thought about that moment after our date, I thought, yeah, that does make sense. You might associate femininity or a softer side with weakness, but I want you to know that embracing that soft side doesn't rob you of anything. It doesn't rob you of a masculine essence. It balances it. It makes you more complex. It makes you more complete. It helps you get more emotionally attuned to women. There's a quote from Carl Jung from something he wrote called The Red Book, Liber Novus. Carl Jung, The Red Book, Liber Novus.
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Chapters
5 chapters
1
Who is Connell Barrett and what is this podcast about?
0:00–2:53
2
What is Secret #1 about women wanting to see your softer side?
2:53–7:34
3
What does Secret #2 say about scoring points on first dates?
7:34–10:59
4
Why do women want you to approach them according to Secret #3?
10:59–14:11
5
Is it really creepy to approach women or not?
14:11–24:30
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