From ‘I’m Too Short’ to ‘I Feel Amazing!’ How to Transform Your Dating Confidence NOW (Live Coaching with Ryan)
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How can understanding the 'lower self' improve your dating confidence?
And I think recently, like I'm kind of starting to notice a slight change in terms of things. But this is also like something that I have a lot of work to do. And, you know, and in terms of like approaching women, whether it's like kind of in the context of, you know, just everyday life or like going out, you know, these are things that kind of come to my mind and kind of can affect my vibe.
Yeah, so as you might know from knowing a little bit about my book, in my book I talk about this idea of the higher self and the lower self. And the lower self is that voice of self-doubt where you see a woman you want to talk to and that part of you is like, oh my God, I would love to go meet her. But then that little voice says things like, oh, she won't like me.
What is Ryan's biggest dating insecurity and how does it affect him?
because x or y i'm not this enough i'm not tall or rich or cool enough do me a favor just give me a quick 30 second play by play for when you want to approach your type of attractive woman what does that little voice say to you that stops you or that inhibits you in any way yeah it's a good question i think like um
Yeah. Let's say I'm like in the grocery store and I see a super, uh, attractive woman, like, uh, you know, a nine or something that's, uh, you know, wearing like, like athletic and, you know, beautiful and everything. I think, oh man, like this girl is so hot, but she, she gets hit on all the time. She's, um, you know, way out of my league. I'm kind of like Um, there's, there's a little, there's not too much point in approaching her cause she's, yeah, she's like so far out of my league and, um, it probably just, um, won't go anywhere basically.
Out of your league. Why? I don't mean right now if you don't feel that way, but in those moments of doubt, what specifically makes her out of your league? What are you lacking or not having to offer?
I think really like the main thing is just appearance. Like I feel in terms of like the rest of my life and I'm at the point where I've, you know, over the course of years of getting to where I want to be, I feel pretty good about my career, my life experiences, you know, which would travel and, you friends and social skills and stuff in terms of getting to a place where I want to be with that. And even just like talking to random people, like whether it's in a romantic or just friendly context. So it's, it's, it's more just like, Oh, like, you know, this girl is a lot more physically attractive than I am. Like that's the main thing.
So she's a nine or 10 in your mind physically. And in those doubtful moments, what number are you or how do you feel you are in those moments when you're like, Oh man, I'm, I don't, I'm not the number she wants. What number are you?
Maybe like a five or something. Um, or maybe it ranges maybe from like a four to a seven or something. Um, yeah. So maybe like a four on those days, I think realistically, like if I look at it logically, um, it's probably higher than that, but on my worst days, it's a four, maybe even like a three, to be honest.
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Chapters
7 chapters
1
How can understanding the 'lower self' improve your dating confidence?
1:41–2:23
2
What is Ryan's biggest dating insecurity and how does it affect him?
2:23–8:20
3
What is the Authentic Awakening process?
8:20–16:16
4
How can beliefs about looks negatively impact dating success?
16:16–25:55
5
How does the Higher Self Awakening exercise work?
25:55–33:43
6
What are some real-world examples that challenge beliefs about attractiveness?
33:43–37:48
7
Is it possible to change your mindset and improve dating outcomes?
37:48–1:41:42
Speakers
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