He Wrote WHAT On His Bio? Dating Coach Connell Barrett Roasts Cringe Online Dating Profiles
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How can I make my dating profile stand out in my city?
This bio reads like it's like an incel, a drill sergeant, and a dominatrix all had a baby. And that baby hired Andrew Tate to be his dating coach.
Welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I'm your host, dating coach, Conal Barrett. I am here to help you get a great girlfriend and do it by being authentic. None of that sketchy pickup artist BS. And greetings from Miami. I am here writing my second book. It's about flirting. I can't tell you exactly what it's about, but I'm really excited about it. And I wanted to come someplace here in February and just take 10, 15 days, two weeks basically, and crank out the first few chapters of my second book. I'm so stoked about it. So greetings from Miami. And today's episode, in about five minutes, I'm going to...
What are some of the worst online dating bios ever roasted?
give you a real treat. I'm going to go through 10 or 12 of the worst online dating profiles I've ever seen. I'm going to roast some men, not you, but I'm going to roast some of the worst bios and worst photos I've ever seen on the dating apps. We're going to have a little bit of fun. So stick around for that. Today's about mostly laughs and fun. Not quite so many how-to tips today. But I do want to give you one thing that I think will help you since today's topic is online dating. So I'm in Miami and I got here about a week ago and I had a really interesting experience. I get to my hotel. check my phone, check my messages, and I'm on a couple of the dating apps. I'm not actually on them for dating. I have a very steady, wonderful girlfriend.
I have my dream partner, my dream girlfriend, Jess. That said, I'm a dating coach, so I'm on a couple of apps. My profile's active on apps just so I can see what's going on on Hinge and Bumble and Tinder and the like. So I check my Bumble, and my matches here in Miami absolutely explode. All of a sudden, I've got, gosh, twice as many amazing matches on Bumble. And I'm doing pretty darn good in New York City where I live. I'm a dating coach. I better be doing pretty well on the apps because I coach men in how to get more matches and more dates from the apps. But all of a sudden in Miami... It went crazy. You would have thought I was Ryan Gosling. You would have thought I was, I don't know, James Bond. Just like dozens of super quality, attractive women who were matching with me all of a sudden.
And I'm pretty clear why this happened. First, when you go to a new city, you get a new location boost. Most apps, Bumble included, temporarily increase your visibility when you're in a new city. So my increased results were partly algorithmic, sort of like algorithmic freshness, you might say. And it's also part of the way apps work to just keep people engaged. They want you to be happy, right? Apps are not rigged against you. Apps are actually trying to help you. They want your money. They want you to be happy. So it was partially algorithmic and just partly product designed. That's how apps hook you in. And then sure enough, two or three days in, I could see my matches went back to my normal baseline of solid good matches.
But I was like a superhero for a couple of days. Second, though, I think there was something that was an even bigger factor that's got nothing to do with the algorithm. And here's where I have something I want to share with you. the unicorn factor. Let's call it market contrast. My theory of the case is I'm a bit of a unicorn here in Miami, at least compared to New York City. Not because I'm universally more attractive here.
How does location affect my dating app matches?
It's the same profile, but because I'm different from the local male baseline. And this distinction is really important for you to understand so that you can make potential changes to your profile to make you stand out in your market. So keep this in mind. Attraction and matches on the apps, it's relative to your market. Women aren't swiping in a vacuum, okay? They're comparing you to the 30, 40, 50 other guys they saw that day. And if you can contrast sharply with that pattern, then all of a sudden your perceived value, for lack of a better term, spikes in their eyes.
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Chapters
7 chapters
1
How can I make my dating profile stand out in my city?
0:00–1:01
2
What are some of the worst online dating bios ever roasted?
1:01–4:02
3
How does location affect my dating app matches?
4:02–10:01
4
What is the unicorn factor in online dating?
10:01–17:03
5
How can I create unicorn energy in my dating profile?
17:03–21:26
6
What identities can I project to attract more matches?
21:26–25:46
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What are some cringe-worthy examples of dating bios?
25:46–27:59
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