Live Coaching Session: Connell’s Client Matt Conquers His Fear of Approaching—and Gets 2 Phone Numbers!
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What is approach anxiety and how does it affect men?
So basically, I do one-on-one coaching with every single client. It's always one-on-one. And today, this is a phone slash Skype session with my client, Matt. Matt is struggling with approach anxiety. He's getting ghosted. He is afraid of rejection. He's afraid to approach women when other people are watching because he thinks he's going to feel really embarrassed. And I think you're going to love this episode because during our one-on-one chat, Matt had some really great shifts. I think if you want to fast forward to the best parts, at the 14-minute mark, he has a really big major shift about what's causing his fear of rejection. At about the 20-minute mark, I also talk about the importance of courage. in approaching women.
A lot of guys say, oh, hey, you know what? I'll approach women, but I need more confidence first. And the truth is, you don't need more confidence. You need more courage. Courage is the currency that's going to buy you confidence. And I talk about that at the 20-minute mark. There's also some really good stories I share. And I think if you want to shoot toward the end of the episode, there's a couple of really cool anti-ghosting moves I also share. I Because once you start getting phone numbers, once you can start approaching women like Matt is now doing, then you want to know how to not get ghosted and make sure you turn these phone numbers into dates. Oh, and then I forgot this really important part.
So one or two days after we did this phone session, Matt went out, hit the bars, and he got two phone numbers from two really cool, cute girls. And so he already started applying these things from this episode. So listen to the episode. There's a lot of great practical approaching tips, what to say, how to say it, how to approach. Enjoy it. And let me know your feedback. And as always, remember, your dream girlfriend, she's out there. She already likes you. She just has to meet the real, authentic you. Enjoy my coaching session with Matt. Okay, Matt, let's get to it, man. What can I help you with today? What are you working on? What are you struggling with? Talk to your coach.
You know, Conor, I've had a problem with ghosting. I've had a problem with continuing text messages and getting that date in person. I've been having a problem with approaching anxiety as well.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What is approach anxiety and how does it affect men?
1:56–5:10
2
What shifts can help overcome fear of rejection?
5:10–5:41
3
How can approaching large groups create more attraction?
5:41–6:36
4
What is the biggest secret to confidently approaching women?
6:36–7:56
5
How to talk to tall women effectively?
7:56–8:55
6
Why is authenticity and vulnerability important in dating?
8:55–12:02
7
What playful strategies can make conversations more engaging?
12:02–16:27
8
How to confirm a date the right way?
16:27–1:03:54
Speakers
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