Stuck in Your Head at the Bars? How to Confidently Approach and Talk to Women—Even if You’re Shy (Live Coaching with Eric!)
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What challenges do shy men face when approaching women?
Today is an episode for you if you ever get tongue-tied when wanting to approach a woman, especially in a bar or club. You're just not sure what to say. You get in your head. Or maybe you do occasionally talk to women, but you just can't keep the conversation going. And that's really frustrating. And that's what my client, Eric, came to me battling. So you're going to meet Eric today. This is our very first coaching session that we are doing. He came to me with a very specific challenge, getting in his head, struggling with approaching, and struggling just to keep the conversation going. So we're mainly going to be talking about that. And Eric is a really common case. He's a biologist, or rather he's studying biology. He's in his mid-20s. He's a grad student in biology.
What are effective icebreakers for starting conversations?
And a lot of men, maybe you, have logical analytical jobs, like grad school, engineering, software developing, finance. And in this case, biology, science. So if you struggle with science, if you struggle with flirting with women and what to say, a lot of it is because you can be overly logical and not create that fun, playful vibe that women like. So listen to today's episode. I have so many great tips that I shared with Eric. I think a couple little moments you want to go to. At the 17 minute mark, roughly 17 minute mark, I talk about the wrong way to approach women. And then, oh, this is great. There's a really good story at the 39 minute mark where I talk about the truth about what women really find creepy with men who approach them.
Basically, it's not what you think. The thing that you think is creepy is actually not creepy at all. And something that you might not know is creepy is super creepy. So that's at about 39 minutes in. So enjoy this coaching session with Eric. Here we go. Eric, what's up, man? How's your day? Good to hear from you. I'm well. Let's get to some coaching. What is top of mind for you today?
How can men avoid coming off as creepy?
How can I help you, bro?
What is the 'karaoke opener' and how can it help shy guys?
um i guess just talking to potential dates and then in a um in a in a live setting you know like in um at a bar or something is something that i i tend to struggle with i guess if you can help me out with that um you know whoever's listening yeah also on top of that
Tell me a little bit about specifically what you're struggling with. And if you have a story, an anecdote from the recent past about a time you wanted to talk and didn't or couldn't keep the conversation going, feel free to elaborate.
Yeah, I mean, the past couple of times I've gone to this one club near where I live, it's just like, it was decently loud. It was crowded. I'm not too used to clubs, but it was like, Like I, I would go up to a woman and I'd like, I'd like, I'd say like, Hey, is this your first time? Or so something like that. And you know, like, cause like they were at like a Thursday events, right? So it's like, Hey, is this your first time at a Thursday event? They're like, yeah. I'd be like, hi, I'm I'm blah, blah, blah. And they're like, oh, you know, and I'd say, ask the usual, like, what do you, what do you do? Who do you talk to? That, that type of thing. I'm sorry. What do you, what? your friends that kind of thing um and uh but then after that it's kind of it's kind of a struggle to keep going and you know the questions like you know what do you do for work that that type of thing what do you do for fun they're a little they're a little boring i don't even like asking them so i feel like even then my heart's not all my heart's not all there so it can be a little boring and like i guess maybe like the momentum stops and like i feel like
it's kind of something where it's like, well, well, it was good talking to you, you know?
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What challenges do shy men face when approaching women?
0:34–1:23
2
What are effective icebreakers for starting conversations?
1:23–2:44
3
How can men avoid coming off as creepy?
2:44–2:46
4
What is the 'karaoke opener' and how can it help shy guys?
2:46–4:59
5
What is the importance of authenticity in dating?
4:59–12:25
6
How can humor be used to break the ice with women?
12:25
7
What does it mean to bring value in conversations?
11:31
8
How to transition from a conversation to asking for a date?
4:58–1:31:33
Speakers
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