Unlock the 3 S’s for Unshakable Confidence—and Attract the Women You Want!
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What are the 3 S's for unshakable confidence?
When you have a panic attack in the men's room stall, that's not butterflies. That's vampire bats. And that's why it was really hard for me to approach women. Welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I am your host, dating coach, Conal Barrett. I am your podcast dating coach, helping you confidently meet, flirt with, date wonderful women, and get a great girlfriend, all by being authentic. no sketchy pickup artist moves needed this is about dating with authenticity what i call radical authenticity because women like you for you that's you at your most confident and your most authentically attractive self is that core you inside of you And we are in the middle of a four-part series about the 12 essentials of a great online dating profile that gets matches. This episode is a brief interlude, like halftime of the Super Bowl. I'm actually going to take a one-episode detour. I want to talk about a really important topic of why you may struggle with confidence around women or why you...
are down on dating, why you might hate the apps, why you might have approach anxiety. I want to talk with you about some of the mindset challenges you have that make dating no fun and that bring your confidence down. And I want to help you fix it. It won't happen in this one episode, but I at least want to give you, I want to help you to see the matrix. Oh, this is why I struggle with confidence. Because once you understand why you struggle with confidence or struggle with dating, then you can fix it or begin to. And so today I'm going to get really nerdy on you. I'm going to go into full self-improvement coach mode through the lens of dating, of course. But yeah, I'm going to go full on self-improvement nerd. So I hope you like this episode.
It's not going to be 27 tactics to say the perfect thing. It's going to be about mindset because mindset is 80% of it. So really this episode is about... helping you fix maybe the biggest mistake that men make in dating today. What's the biggest mistake that men make in dating? I think it might be this. So many men, maybe yourself, You're focused on what's the right thing to say?
Why is mindset more important than tactics in dating?
What's the right strategy? What are the right mechanics? And strategy and mechanics are important in dating, but they're not nearly as important as having a strong sense of self-confidence and worth and feeling positive about who you are and feeling like your dating results are coming your way. That you know you believe... You know and you believe and feel that you bring a lot to the table. A lot of women are going to like you. And also you have a good, empowering belief about dating. And so big mistake men make is what are the tactics? What are the strategies? And if you focus on tactics and strategies and don't focus on a core sense of self-confidence, what I call a story, then you struggle. You struggle. And I could teach you the world's best opening lines.
I can teach you the best things to say when you walk up to a woman and approach or when you go on a date. But if that woman is talking to you and you're nervous and shaking and anxious and in your head, none of those lines, none of those tips are going to work all that well because your story, your sense of worth and confidence isn't handled. So let's talk about how to fix this and get this handled today. I want to talk to you about what I call the three S's. What are the three S's? Well, these are the three most important pieces that you need to have in place if you want to get an incredible girlfriend, if you want to find love, if you want to get lots of dates and find that wonderful relationship. It takes what I call the three S's.
And I'm going to give you the three S's in order of importance. Because basically you're listening to this podcast, I assume, because you want something wonderful. You have an outcome you want. You want a girlfriend. You want love. Maybe you want to be a dad one day. Maybe you want to be a father, a dad, a husband. Bottom line is you want something wonderful.
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Chapters
7 chapters
1
What are the 3 S's for unshakable confidence?
0:00–2:39
2
Why is mindset more important than tactics in dating?
2:39–14:39
3
How can your story affect your dating success?
14:39–16:29
4
What is the importance of emotional state in dating?
16:29–18:24
5
How does dating strategy play a role in attracting women?
18:24–23:58
6
What personal experiences shaped Connell's dating philosophy?
23:58–30:10
7
How can you change your inner narrative about dating?
30:10–36:02
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