How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Which Dating App is Right for YOU? The Top 7 Apps to Swipe Right on Love and Find Your Soulmate
Tue, 31 Dec 2024
With over 1,000 dating apps out there, it’s hard to know which one is right for you—and which will waste your time and money. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals his top 7 apps that he and his clients used in 2024. Whether you’re looking for meaningful connections or fun, casual dates, this guide will help you find the perfect app to help you get matches and dates… and even find your soulmate!Here’s what Connell covers in this episode:1:30: Why Choosing the Wrong App Costs You Matches and Dates2:45: No. 7: The League—it’s About Quality, Not Quantity4:45: No. 6: Why Badoo is Great if You Aren’t Hollywood Handsome7:11: No. 5 and No. 4: Match and eHarmony—Which Long-Term Relationship Platform is Better for You?12:45: How Coffee Meets Bagel Will Help You Get Coffee Dates with Your Type of Women15:15: No. 2: Bumble’s Latest Innovations that Make Finding Love Easier than Ever19:07: No. 1: The Top Dating App of 2024 is… Hinge! Here’s Why Every Man MUST Be on Hinge22:37: Bonus Tip: A Clever Way Hinge Can Help You Succeed on Other Dating AppsTune in now to turn your swipes into sparks—and matches into love!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:[email protected]
Chapter 1: Why is choosing the right dating app important?
You don't need to look like George Clooney. If you look like George Costanza, that'll do just fine. Welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I am dating coach Conal Barrett. I'm here to help you learn to flirt, gain confidence, get more dates, and choose a wonderful girlfriend. And do it all with authenticity. No sketchy pickup artist moves needed here.
This is about being authentic, dating with integrity, and finding a woman who loves you for you. And I'll bet you hate online dating. I'll bet you hate the apps, right? There's so many dating apps. It's hard to know which one to be on. It's hard to know the right one for you. And there's literally thousands of dating apps. And chances are you're on the wrong app.
Chances are you are on the wrong dating app for you. And that's costing you matches. It's costing you dates. It's probably leaving you frustrated. And that is no bueno. It's no fun not getting matches. It's no fun swiping and swiping and getting little to no good results. Well, in this episode, I'm going to share with you my top seven dating apps for men in 2024.
So we're going to look back on what I think are the top seven apps for men from the last year. And then stay tuned in future episodes, we're going to be looking at the best new apps for you to be on. But today we're going to look at the best seven apps of 2024.
And I want to make sure you know the best app for you, one that's going to help you get great matches, have exciting dates, and meet your future girlfriend. And let's get into it. So I'm going to count down the seven best dating apps for men and why each one deserves your attention.
By the way, stick around until the very end of the episode, because I'm going to share not just the number one dating app for men in 2024, but I'm going to also give you a special kind of cool really practical tip on how to use the number one dating app for men in a very creative, innovative way that's going to help you on other dating apps.
So it's a game-changing move and it's a move that my client Ben used to get 83 matches in one day. If you go to my website, datingtransformation.com, and you look at there's a screenshot of my client, Ben, you're going to see the actual screenshot showing his 83 matches. And I'll teach you how to do that in about 20 minutes at the end of this episode.
We're going to keep things lean, mean, and fast moving today. So stick around to the very end. Okay, the number seven dating app for men in 2024 is The League. The League. The League is all about quality over quantity. The League dating app is designed for white-collar professionals and college-educated people, college-educated singles.
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Chapter 2: What is The League dating app and who should use it?
So if you're a college grad or a professional looking for someone special, a woman with a similar background to you, the League might very well be a really good fit for you. Now the League, just so you know, the League operates mostly in bigger cities. Cities that have a population of around a million or more. So if you live in a smaller town or a rural area, this app probably isn't for you.
You're not going to get the numbers that you need. So think of the league like Princeton. You got to apply to get in, okay? It's the... It's the app that markets itself as the app where you have to get membership. So if Tinder is a party school, then the league is the Ivy League. The league is Princeton. But don't worry, if you pay the membership, you're going to get in.
I used to work with the league as their in-house dating coach, so I know a little bit about how it works. And let's talk cost. The league is pricey. The league is definitely one of your more expensive apps. Memberships start at around $400 per month. And they go up to two grand or more per month.
So I recommend the league if you're a guy who's a little bit older, a little bit more financially stable. You got some disposable income. I would say age 30 to 50 is good for the league. And it's more about quality. than quantity. Now, I have a special sweet spot in my heart, soft spot in my heart for the league, because it's where I met my amazing girlfriend, Jess, my Shmoopy.
She's my Shmoopy, just like on Seinfeld. Which one do you want to go to, Shmoopy? You call me Shmoopy. You're Shmoopy. You're Shmoopy. You're Shmoopy. You're Shmoopy. That's our nickname for each other. We're very annoying. So I love the league for that reason.
And it's not for everybody, but if you're not looking for tons of matches, you just want quality options and you have the cash to spend, then check out the league. Here's number six, Badoo. Badoo, my favorite app to say. Badoo. Yabba dabba doo. Yabba dabba doo. It's sort of a surprise entry, coming in at number six on the list.
It's not trendy or flashy, but Badoo is great if you're a guy who struggles to get matches on apps like Tinder, Bumble. Badoo tends to value substance over looks. Bottom line is online dating is largely looks-based. I would say roughly 75% of your online dating success is going to come from having the right photos.
That doesn't mean you have to be a male model or Hollywood handsome, but it is a very looks-based context here, swiping on the apps. The cool thing about Badoo is... Badoo, women are looking more for substance rather than great looks. So you don't need to look like George Clooney. If you look like George Costanza, that'll do just fine. It's not a lie if you believe it.
And the cool thing about Badoo is it also caters to men from different ethnic groups who struggle and face bias on other apps. Because let's be honest, in America, if you're listening to this in the USA, it's not a disadvantage to be a white man. That's just, for better or worse, I would say worse, that's the world we live in in 2024.
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Chapter 3: Why is Badoo a good option for those struggling with looks?
It also means that the women who are on eHarmony, they're really there to date. They want to find a partner. They want to find a boyfriend. And that's not true of a lot of women on a lot of dating profiles or dating platforms. And this is not about women or men. It's both men and women. A lot of people are on dating apps. They're just there for... You know, the rush of a match.
They're looking to just message people, but not necessarily go on dates. And if you're on eHarmony, you are there to find love. So that's why I like it. The women there are very invested in finding a guy like you. Membership costs from roughly $25 to $60 per month, I'd say.
And the thing I love about eHarmony is that they have a compatibility matching system that pairs you with women who, again, share your values and goals. So eHarmony is less about swiping and more about meaningful connections. So if you've got carpal tunnel from swiping with no luck on other platforms, eHarmony is a great choice. Here is a pro tip.
You can use eHarmony's what's called guided communication feature to help you break the ice. What that means, and a lot of apps are doing this now, is apps give you little ice breakers. to make it easier to find that first thing to say. Because it can be tough. It can be tough finding the right way to break the ice. And eHarmony has these cool little guided features.
Tinder has them too, but they suck on Tinder. On Tinder, they suck. It's like, ask how your day was, which is terrible. So eHarmony has a much better communication feature to help you know what to say when you see a woman you want to talk to. All right, let's get to the top three. Number three is Coffee Meets Bagel. Coffee Meets Bagel. This is a swiping app I really like. There's real depth here.
There's real depth on Coffee Meets Bagel. Who is it for? It's for guys, let's say 21 to 40. So if you're younger, Coffee Meets Bagel is a good place. And again, the nice thing about CMB is it's for people who are looking for meaningful connections. Unlike Tinder... This app is focused more on quality over quantity, although it's more geared toward the younger crew.
So if you're in your 20s or 30s, definitely consider it. And the nice thing about Coffee Meets Bagel is each day you're presented with a pretty nicely curated batch of matches. And look, lots of apps say, here's your batch of the day. My sense... of Coffee Meets Bagel is that the algorithm actually does a pretty good job of finding women who are your type, who match some of your dating criteria.
Whereas some apps just say, we think you and Jane Doe will be a good fit, but she couldn't be any different than you. I think Coffee Meets Bagel's algorithm is just a lot smarter than the ones I see on other platforms. And one of the standout features are the prompts and questions that actually make it fun and engaging to fill out your profile.
It's actually enjoyable to fill out your profile on Coffee Meets Bagel, or at least it's not drudgery. And the prompts and questions... Make it easier for you to really showcase your authentic self, which of course, if you've listened to my podcast before, you know the power of authenticity.
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Chapter 4: How does Match.com cater to serious daters?
I would say that the people, the men and women on Bumble, it's a good mix of both serious and casual dating options. You can find the love of your life on Bumble. You can also find a more casual date. You can also find a hookup if that's what you're looking for. Nothing wrong with a fun little fling. Nothing wrong at all. You have a nice mix of a little bit of everything on Bumble.
The memberships run from about $25 to $55 per month. If you're into strong, confident women, Bumble is a great go-to place. Just make sure, and this is true for all apps, but just make sure to keep your profile really sharp and really engaging. And I definitely recommend using the compliments feature. Send those compliment openers. They do cost money.
I think you get a certain number of compliments every week, but you're going to have to pay a couple bucks for a compliment. So use them intelligently and make sure that your profile is dialed in and fantastic. a compliment that you pay for to use on Bumble, those compliment openers, they're only going to work as well as your profile's overall quality. So keep that in mind.
You can't just say, oh, I can send compliments now. I'll send 10 compliments. If your profile's not really good, you're probably not going to get that many responses. But if you have a really good profile, if you listen to this podcast and use some of the dating advice I use, then I think you're going to have a good experience using Bumble, especially if you send compliments. Okay, here we go.
My number one dating app of 2024. It is, drumroll please, it's Hinge. Hinge is my favorite. Hinge is my top choice.
for lots of reasons it's designed for everybody regardless of your age and dating goals you have women on hinge who are very serious about dating they're looking for love they're not looking to be a pen pal they're not just trolling for social media follows which is a big problem on tinder right now women on hinge are very serious about dating
And they're also so, so much less flaky on Hinge than on other apps. You also have a nice combination of women on Hinge. You have largely women looking for love, looking for relationships. But you also have a reasonable number of women who are there for more casual dating. And that's just like Bumble.
There's nothing wrong with having a little fling or just having a short-term few dates and just see where it goes. Regardless, the women who are on Hinge, they are really there to meet you in person. They're not just there collecting likes and leads, at least not nearly as much as other dating apps. And Hinge has some really cool, unique features that...
And here's where we get into how you can really use Hinge to change the game here. That bonus tip I teased at the top of the episode. Hinge is the only large dating app, if not the only dating app, that allows women to
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Chapter 5: What makes eHarmony suitable for long-term relationships?
By the end of the Hinge dating system process that I do with my guys, you've got a kick-ass great profile on Hinge that's getting you, who knows, 10, 20, 30, 50 likes a week from some really quality options. Then you just put that same basic profile on a different dating app. Then at the end of the day, you've got two apps that are bringing you lots and lots of good dating leads.
And that way you're just getting lots of options. And you can, from there, eventually choose a wonderful girlfriend from the two or three women who you've met and who you like the most. So one of my clients, Ben, I did this with Ben. And when Ben came to me, he was really struggling. He wasn't getting good matches. He's a personal trainer here in New York City where I live.
And he's just totally tanking on different dating apps when he first came to me. So we used this Hinge dating system. And we swapped in and out different photos of him. And first few photos we tried didn't work that well. But then he took a really great photo of him at the beach with a surfboard. He's into surfing and into some cool beach activities.
And he looks good shirtless, which is a nice bonus. And we found the right photo, finally started to work on Hinge. And literally overnight, he got 83 matches in a single day. So your mileage may vary. New York's a big city. You might not get 83 matches in a single day.
But hell, man, if you get a dozen good matches in a day or 15 to 20 good matches in a week, you can easily convert that into maybe two dates per week with some really wonderful women. What this Hinge dating system is, is it takes the guesswork out of creating a really good profile because it focuses on what works and it rejects what doesn't work or swaps out what doesn't work.
It's a big game changer. I love Hinge just because it's a great app. The women are invested in dating. It's fun to use. I like the navigation of it. And you find a little bit of everything. You get mostly women who want great boyfriends and relationships. But there's women who are looking for fun, too. But almost all the women, at least compared to other apps, they're there to meet men like you.
But the other reason I love Hinge and why it's number one is because of the way it's created. Every piece of Hinge is a chance to get a match. It's almost like your hinge profile is 12 profiles in one. Because think about it, on Bumble, on Tinder, you don't know what women are swiping on.
They're either swiping right on you, but you don't know why, or they're swiping left, and then you don't even know why that's happening either. Because every single piece of your hinge profile gives you the opportunity for a heart, for a like, you get so much valuable intel and data. And we can work with that or you can work with that to turn that into matches. So there you have it.
The top seven dating apps for men in 2024. I hope you enjoyed this. Stick around. I've got so much more online dating. advice coming your way I'm on all many of the big apps myself I'm not dating I have a girlfriend I'm doing it for testing and for content for my clients and for this podcast but I'm always innovating and I'm always looking for different ways to help men leverage
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