Why You Freeze When You Want to Approach Beautiful Women—& How to Fix it NOW (Live Coaching with John!)
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What internal blocks prevent men from approaching women?
But he's got one area that he's really struggling with, which is dating. Specifically, he sees beautiful women all the time. He would love to talk to, but he never does. He just never talks to women. And the reason for this is not that John is a coward or that he doesn't man up. And if you want to go talk to gorgeous, interesting, intriguing women day or night, but you don't do it, it's not because you're a failure. It's not. It's that you have a couple of internal blocks. You've got conflict. Either you're afraid that rejection will feel like you're just not good enough, or you're afraid that If you get rejected, if it doesn't go well, you're going to be seen as some sort of social weirdo creep. You're doing something wrong. Or maybe there's a combination of both of those things. Those are the two main causes of approaching anxiety, what's called approaching anxiety.
Fearing that you're going to find out you're just not good enough or fearing that she'll reject you and you'll just feel like a social weirdo who's doing something strange. Neither of those things are true, but boy, they really feel true. And they feel that way to John. These are strong forces. You're going to listen to John have a couple of really big breakthroughs. I'm going to tell him exactly how to get confidently, freely walking up to women. He's already doing it. He's already in the process of taking action. I think you're going to enjoy this coaching episode. I've helped so many guys in this area. It's pretty powerful, these forces that stop us from approaching women. I had a client who was a fireman. Probably still is, actually.
He's a fireman out in the West. And he came to me because I'll call him Juan. Juan wanted badly to go talk to women, but he couldn't do it. So he could literally walk into a burning building and put his life on the line. He was once in a burning building, and he fell through the kitchen floor into the fire in the basement. Thankfully, he was fine. He was not hurt. But he can willfully walk into a burning building and not think about it, but he couldn't turn to the attractive woman standing up at the bar next to him and say hi. That's how powerful these internal forces are that create conflict, anxiety, fear. but these are very fixable. As you're about to hear from John, have his very first coaching session with me.
And by the way, if you are looking or interested in figuring out, hey, what is dating coaching about? How does Connell do his thing? Is dating coaching right for me? In other words, if you would like to stop being too afraid to go approach women, or if you need help with flirting, or you just want help getting a great girlfriend, if you'd like to, you can go to my homepage, datingtransformation.com and book a free call with me. And you and I will hop on the phone and we'll talk about how you can get a great girlfriend, how you can finally feel confident and comfortable enough to meet women out in the real world and get an incredible woman. So go to datingtransformation.com if you want to talk about this. I do one-on-one personalized coaching. And I don't have that many available coaching slots because I do one-on-one coaching. So if you're interested, go to datingtransformation.com and book a free call with me. And if you're not, all good. Listen to John and myself right now and enjoy this coaching episode with John.
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Chapters
5 chapters
1
What internal blocks prevent men from approaching women?
1:11–9:03
2
How can fear of social judgment affect dating?
9:03–24:29
3
What mindset shifts help overcome approach anxiety?
24:29–40:37
4
How to confidently approach a group of women?
40:37–55:37
5
What strategies work to engage with a woman in a group setting?
55:37–1:08:58
Speakers
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