Women Love Nice, Nerdy Guys like YOU—If You Do 1 Important Thing (with Dating Coach Nick Notas)
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Why do women love nerdy guys?
I was just Nerdy Nick and some beautiful woman was like, hey, I want to talk to you. Right. Wow. It's amazing how many women like nerds. Absolutely. Especially nowadays for anybody listening. I feel like it's cooler and cooler to be nerdy, to be a little weird or quirky and lean into it.
Hey, welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I'm your host, dating coach, Conal Barrett. I'm here to help you flirt with confidence, get more dates, and get a great girlfriend, all by being authentic, really genuine, really real. And our guest today is the perfect person to talk about authenticity and being real, and basically dating with integrity, because that is, in my view, a lot of what Nick Notice is about. Today, Nick Notice is here. Nick is a world-class dating coach and He's got over 15 years of experience helping guys like you build up your self-esteem, get good at flirting, get dates. And he's got a huge audience out there. His advice reaches over 300,000 people a month. And he's worked with pretty much everyone out there from... successful professionals to engineers to, well, nerds like me. And Nick has also been featured in outlets like Time, CBS, and Men's Fitness. He's the real deal.
I rarely have men on this show talking about dating, but Nick is a true shining light in this world of dating advice for men. And we're going to talk about helping you get a great girlfriend. Nick, welcome to the show. Hey, thanks so much for having me. And fellow nerd here, so I'm on board. Let's get nerdy. And you can go to nicknotas.com. That's N-I-C-K-N-O-T-A-S dot com to learn all about Nick. And speaking of your homepage, speaking of your website, I was just reading it before we hopped on. And you tell a pretty compelling story. about how back in the mid-00s, you sort of hit a low point in your life. You were going through some things both personally and with your career, and it essentially began you on this sort of journey into now becoming a dating expert who helps guys date.
Can you talk a little bit about that moment of struggle you had and how you bounced out of it? Yeah, basically... At one point in my life, basically around 18 years old, everything kind of crumbled. So I was a nerd to start with, but I'm off to college and all of a sudden my dad gets really sick and has to close down his family business. My only girlfriend ever dumped me on our two-year anniversary. Find out a week later she's with somebody else. And then all my friends moved out of Boston because why would you want to go to college in Boston when you can go to California? So very quickly, I found myself alone, not really knowing how to meet women, meet people, and started probably, I don't know, six-month spiral of depression until I found, sadly at the time, the pickup artist industry.
And it started with the seed as an 18-year-old of, wow, if I could go out and meet beautiful women, this would be amazing. And just started devouring everything I could there, going out, doing horribly for months and months and months because I had no idea what I was doing at all, and then very quickly got some attention of some local pickup artist companies. Spent the first couple of years doing that and realized there's a lot of good ideas here that teach people how to present themselves well, be charismatic, have good body language, but a lot of it is rooted in in insecurity, not helping you be actually confident or honest. And so I said, I want to be able to do this in a way that takes all these principles but helps somebody integrate it into their actual personality.
So true. I had the same experience. I remember being in a seminar in the late 00s. And on the stage is this preening, peacocking guy spouting this Johnny Cochran type of catchphrases. It was like, the alpha male gets all the tail. Something silliness like that. And he was talking about, yeah, if a girl isn't into me, I put that bitch on the next thing smoking. And I was like, like a train? What the hell is he talking about? And I was watching him at the same time. he had at least some concepts that I found actually useful and powerful. And I thought if we could just find a way to take some of the best advice and just not have it in this toxic dirt bag and teach it with some class, that could be really cool.
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