What if the feelings you’ve spent a lifetime pushing down are the very things asking to be heard?In this solo episode, I want to talk about something people ask me about all the time – what does it actually mean to “do the work”? I recognise that the majority of us grew up in homes where feelings weren’t exactly welcomed. Anger got shut down. Tears got ignored. Mistakes got shamed. And so we learned pretty early that the safest thing to do was to push it all down and get on with it. The problem is, those feelings don’t go anywhere. They just wait.We explore:Why most of us were never taught to process our emotions – and how that shapes our adult behaviourThe “dark night of the soul” – the crisis moments that often push us toward deeper self-examinationThe loneliness of changing when the people around you aren’tWhat does doing the work actually look like – inner child work, journaling, reparentingHow to start noticing your triggers as invitations, not problemsWhy going slowly and gently is not weakness – it’s wisdomWhat I know from many years of working with people – and from my own journey – is that nobody ever regrets doing this work. Nobody regrets healing. The invitation is simply to get curious, go gently, and take one step at a time.[Recorded October 2025]About Lael Stone:Lael Stone is an educator, counsellor, and author of Own Your Story: Understanding your past to create your future. With over 20 years of experience working with families, Lael helps people understand how their childhood imprints shape their adult lives – and how to do something about it.Connect with Lael:Instagram: @laelstoneWebsite: laelstone.com.au—Connect with Humans, being™:Web: humansbeing.auInstagram: @humansbeingwithlaelstoneFacebook: @humansbeingwithlaelstoneTikTok: @humansbeingwithlaelstoneYouTube: @humansbeingwithlaelstoneHumans, being™ is produced on the lands of the Bunurong and Wadawurrung people. We pay respect to their unique and diverse cultures and to elders past, present and future.

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