In Your Right Mind with Monique Rhodes

The Gap

28 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Most of the time, our thoughts are like a river. They flow consistently, one after the other. However, there is a gap in our thoughts. Becoming aware...

Not Again!

27 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What can we do when things happen over and over again in our lives? It can be surprising for us to realize that the things that keep happening consis...

Your Projecting Mind

26 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

There were two ways that I was taught to understand my mind. I find them both incredibly powerful to help relieve stress and anxiety. 

The News Is Not Good

25 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What happens to our peace of mind when the world feels consumed by negativity? In this episode, I explore how constant exposure to bad news, outrage, ...

A State Of Compassion

24 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I met a friend at the weekend. She talked about the incredible struggles she has had in her life and how grateful she is for them. I found our conver...

The Great Imbalance

23 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We are masters of the external world. If we take a moment to think of all of the things we've created as human beings, it is extraordinary. However, ...

Managing Overwhelm

22 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How can we manage overwhelm? What can we do when everything feels like it's more than we can cope with? Let me give you some strategies and tips that...

The Sound Of Your World

21 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In today's podcast, I discuss how we can work with sound in everyday life as a form of meditation.

The Backstory

20 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes, we can see events that can be difficult and not understand how we got to this place. Understanding other people's backstory and our own en...

The War In My Heart

19 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I received an email from one of my students concerned about her growing anger and prejudice to a current event in the news. In today's podcast, I giv...

The Learning Pit

18 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When we learn new things, there is a process that we go through. Often we get to a point where we want to give up. However, if we understand the lear...

Managing As My World Opens Up

17 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I have received many emails from students concerned about feeling overwhelmed as their country begins to open up. And today's podcast, I talk about h...

You Don't Have To Be Anxious

16 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I listened to a podcast from a well-loved author yesterday and finished it a little despairing about her conversation on anxiety. Here are my thought...

Complaining About The Complainers

15 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If we are working with our minds and shifting our habits, what do we do when other people's conversations drag us back into our old ways? This is wha...

Releasing Negative Emotions

14 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I received a message today from one of my students questioning the importance of releasing our negative emotions. Working with our negative emotions ...

Our Mental Suffering Is Optional

13 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

There are two types of ways that we struggle in the world. One of them is part of being human. The other is optional. By understanding that our menta...

The Importance of Reading with Dr Danny Brassel

12 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I love reading. When I was a kid, I read three books at a time. In our modern world, we can find that we are reading many articles, but is it essenti...

Selling Unhappiness

11 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The role of corporations is to leave us feeling as though we are not enough in order to buy their products. Their job is to sell us unhappiness. We...

Life At 17

10 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When I was 17, I thought I had a reasonable handle on how the world worked. I realise now I had no idea. 

The Preciousness of the Present Moment

09 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We miss out on so much. This is due to us not being able to stay in the present moment.

The Four Reminders

08 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

There are four reminders that we can regularly remember to make a massive difference in our lives. In today's podcast, I discuss what they are and ho...

The Importance Of Our Day

07 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

As we rush through our lives, it can be easy for us to forget the difference that we can make to the world. In today's podcast, I discuss the differe...

Our Imbalance

06 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We are hurtling towards an epidemic of stress, anxiety and depression. It is vital to thrive and be happy that we address the imbalance that is causi...

The Art of Peace

05 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

One of my students wrote to me expressing her feelings of helplessness when she reads the news. It can be easy for us to feel overwhelmed by it. Howe...

Nobody Is Hurting You

04 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I received an email from one of my students struggling to understand the idea that another person does not necessarily cause us to hurt. In today's p...

Possibility

03 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

There is so much pressure on us to be winners, to succeed. It can be exhausting. It creates so much pressure on us. However, there is only one strate...

My Family In India

02 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

One of my students is originally from India. I received an email from her where she writes about her concern for her family over this time. What I te...

How Can I Find A Future

01 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

It isn't easy when people we love pass away. However, today I answer a question from one of my students who has a huge loss and is struggling. 

The Aunty Party

30 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I am so excited about tonight. I am hosting an Aunty Party. This means that two of my nieces and one of my nephews are coming over to stay. Yes - we ...

Finding Love

29 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes we put a lot of pressure on the people closest to us to love us. This is learned behaviour. It can make a huge difference in our lives if w...

Food for Thought

28 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

For the last few days, I have disappeared on a coastal walk in New Zealand. As well as finding it wonderful to be out in nature that same relationshi...

My Day

24 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today is my birthday. I always make it an important day. And the best news is that whenever I am in New Zealand, it is always a holiday!

Winners and Losers

23 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What if winning has far less to do with talent—and far more to do with your mind? In this episode, I share the powerful lessons I learned while watc...

Putting Myself Last

22 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How do we balance caring for others without losing ourselves? In this episode, I respond to a listener's heartfelt question about putting their own ne...

How You Change The World

21 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do you dream of changing the world? In this episode, I explore how the most powerful transformation doesn't start out there—it begins within. I shar...

Three Lives

20 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

As life moves on at such a fast pace, we can easily forget the cycles of it. In this last week, there have been two passings and one birth that have ...

Nightly Rituals

19 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Many of us have morning rituals that help start our days in the best way possible. One of my clients asked me if she could do things at night to help...

The Decoy

18 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes, it's hard for us to tell someone we love that they have hurt us. We may not even be able to see it. What we do see instead is a decoy.

Can I Reach My Dreams

17 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Is there an expiry date to dreams? What if you've suffered a lot and feel you might be too old to dream? In today's podcast, I answer a question from...

Proud of Myself

16 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Is it ok to feel proud of myself? Doesn't feeling proud of myself mean that I am arrogant? In today's podcast, I answer a question from one of my stu...

Attaching To Suffering

15 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What if most of your suffering isn't coming from life—but from a habit of the mind? In this episode, I explore how easily we can slip into identifyi...

Driving Lessons

14 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Many of you write to me and tell me that you're changing the way you are with other people. The only stumbling block you have is when you are driving...

April's Mother

13 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Last week, one of my team had the worst news. Her mother not only had Covid but had to go into hospital. We were so worried. It was a good reminder t...

You Are My Teacher

12 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What if every person who crosses your path is here to teach you something? In this episode, I explore how every relationship—whether filled with lov...

Filling It Up

11 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Being busy is seen as a badge of honour. The busier we are, the more important we appear. However, we're constantly overwhelmed by our busyness. What...

What Will They Remember?

10 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

As I sat at my friend's father's funeral this week, I listened to all of the beautiful things people said about him. He was such a kind and gentle ma...

You Are In Charge

09 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Many of you are writing about your concerns as some countries are showing signs of starting to reopen. Even if you are excited about the light at the...

Hooked

08 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Habits can be hard to break. But what do we do when the odds are against us? What if whole industries are created to keep us hooked on their products...

Jim and the Jeep

07 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today I am driving home to my hometown for the funeral of my friend's dad, Jim. It got me thinking about impermanence and the legacy that we leave wh...

Generosity and Boundaries

06 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A few of you have written about struggling with balancing generosity and boundaries. It can be easy for people to take advantage of us. In today's po...

Being Extraordinary

05 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

There is a lot of pressure on us to be extraordinary. Social media is filled with people showing off how incredible their lives are. But what does ha...

Easter Sunday

04 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

It's Easter Sunday. Depending on where you live and your traditions, today might be a significant day. In today's podcast, I explain a different way ...

Jealousy

03 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Can jealousy ever teach us something deeper? In this episode, I explore the discomfort of jealousy—not as a flaw, but as a doorway into hidden fears...

It Is In The Giving

02 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

For some of us, it can be not easy to recognize the love in our life. What if we don't feel that many people love us? In today's podcast, I answer th...

The Wisdom Of Our Experience

01 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Working with ourselves and seeing into the wisdom of our own experience holds the keys to our understanding. 

Who Will Save Your Soul

31 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When I was young, there were several things I believed that turned out not to be true. It took me a long time to get my head around the fact that the...

Intention

30 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Are you clear on what your life is about? Asking yourself this question can help to clarify how you step into your days. Is it aimlessly, or is it wi...

The Generosity of Attention

29 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity" - Simone Weil. However, when we can give our attention to ourselves and others, it is nothing...

The Web of Connection

26 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

One of the most significant indicators of someone's happiness is their network of social connections. Often people don't realise that loneliness is a...

Your Rough Edges

25 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Everyone you meet, you are supposed to meet. Every relationship has the opportunity for us not only to learn but also to teach. In today's podcast, I...

A Light Bearer

24 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When we are in conflict with others, we play out all of the habitual strategies we have learnt over our lives. They don't usually work. In today's po...

A Transient Dance : Change Is Inevitable

23 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Life is a constant state of change. You know this, and I know this. You're probably familiar with the saying, "Change is the only constant." And that...

Relating To Your Body

22 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In today's podcast, I discuss a question from one of my clients about how she relates to her body. Does your body affect your happiness?

Developing Courage

21 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If you struggle with not entirely living the life you wish you did, how can you start to develop courage? In today's podcast, I discuss a simple and ...

The Blue Sky

20 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes we need to fix things. Sometimes we need a shift in perspective. Both approaches can work well, depending on the situation. 

One Year On

19 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This month signifies one year since our lives changed dramatically. It's a good time to reflect, to take stock of what we have learned and how we hav...

We Only See In Pieces

18 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Our minds are habitual. This means we fill in a lot of gaps with the habitual way we see the world. Understanding this can give us a renewed insight ...

Facing Each Other Anew

17 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

For some of you, vaccinations are arriving. With this comes the knowledge that you are about to socialise again. Not surprisingly, this is causing so...

Making Plans

16 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Most of us love making plans. But what happens when we use those plans to try and protect ourselves from the uncertainty of life?

Bring It On The Path

15 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How can we find peace and happiness when in our own homes there is disruption? In today's podcast, I answer a question from one of my students about ...

Giving Our Power Away

14 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What if every emotional explosion in your life is actually coming from inside you—not from the world around you? In this episode, I explore how easi...

Our Own Reflection

13 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Our days are filled with other people triggering us. We might feel frustrated, angry, disappointed or happy in their presence. It all depends on our ...

Within Not Without

12 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We all want to feel good. We all want a happy life. However, where to find that happy life often seems elusive. This is why today's podcast is so imp...

Is It Time To Leave?

11 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

There are times in our lives when we know it is time to leave a job or a friendship or a relationship. It's clear, and there is no question. However,...

Grievances

10 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In today's podcast, I discuss a three-step process for dealing with grievances and why it is essential to handle them well. 

Love For Others

09 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What do we do when there are people in our lives that we struggle to even like? What if they have differing opinions from us? If we are looking to ex...

Openness

08 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The final quality that will help us be happier is openness. This is one of my favourite topics and I think you'll discover in this podcast immediate ...

Resting My Mind

07 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I just took a much needed week off to rest my mind. What a relief it was. I feel so much better for it, and of course, it reminded me how we fatigue o...

Loving Heart

05 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The next quality that opens us even more quickly to a beautiful and happy life is to work with a loving heart. In today's podcast, I explain what tha...

Inner Wisdom

04 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

As we go deeper, I identify three qualities that will enable you to fast track your way to a happier life. In today's podcast, I discuss the first on...

Being Honest With Ourselves

03 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

As we commit to a happier life, one of the most profound ways forward is to start to look at ourselves with honesty. In today's podcast, I give you a...

The Eye Of The Storm

02 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When times are difficult, we have the ability not to get swept up in the storm. What if we managed the storm differently and sat in the eye of it wit...

Family Matters

01 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Family dynamics are challenging on the best of days. However, during Covid, they can become even more difficult. In today's podcast, I answer a quest...

Studying Ourselves

28 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Learning meditation is nothing less than a study in ourselves. The more we understand ourselves, the more the door opens to the infinite wisdom that ...

Compulsive Behaviours

27 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What if breaking free from your compulsive habits wasn't about willpower—but understanding what drives them? In this episode, I explore how our mind...

Holding Your Ground

26 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Often we can feel like a small boat in a big storm, unsure of where the next waves are coming from. The most powerful thing we can learn to do is hol...

Look At Your Own Mind

25 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We can't change people.  I understand that this is difficult for us to get our heads around. But it is also the key to our happiness. 

Justifying Your Thoughts

24 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

One of my students had a big blow-up with his wife. He came to me to tell me his story of what had happened. I encouraged him to understand that he c...

Getting To Sleep

23 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A study has just shown that 40% of people are struggling to get to sleep during this pandemic. Rest is a vital factor in mental wellness. In today's ...

44 Years in Solitary

22 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Most people can't manage 15 minutes in a room by themselves. Imagine 44 years in solitary confinement. Could you do it?

Getting To Know You

21 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

No two minds are the same. We must get to know our mind so that we can see how our particular mind works. As we do this, we become more and more able...

Two Minds

20 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We all know the mind that is on all day, taking us off into all different sorts of directions. What we may not be so aware of is the other mind that ...

Breakthroughs

19 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes I just wish I could turn my mind off and have a holiday from it. Often we are at the mercy of our minds that even when we find that the tea...

The Dance of Love

18 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Love is a word that we use quite freely. However, most of us are unaware that the way we love is more like a business contract than love. If we want ...

A Holy Relationship

17 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In working with our minds, we decrease our stress and our anxiety. However, the practice goes even more in-depth and opens up a deeply blocked part o...

Changing Your Mind

16 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When someone hurts us, how do we cope? The obvious answer is that we shut down and protect ourselves. But what if the way forward is different?

Radical Love

15 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What can we do when someone hurts us? Is there a way to heal it differently? Absolutely there is. It's as powerful as it is radical. 

Heart Openers

14 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Having an open heart leads to a happier life. The more loving we are, the richer our lives are and the happier we become. How do we open our hearts?

Loneliness and Solitude

13 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What is the difference between loneliness and solitude? How can we be alone and feel well and happy in ourselves? This is what I discuss in today's p...

Relating To Suffering Differently With Wisdom

12 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this final instalment on relating differently to our suffering differently, I discuss the role that wisdom and insight has in enabling us to take ...