In Your Right Mind with Monique Rhodes

Being Honest With Ourselves

03 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

As we commit to a happier life, one of the most profound ways forward is to start to look at ourselves with honesty. In today's podcast, I give you a...

The Eye Of The Storm

02 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When times are difficult, we have the ability not to get swept up in the storm. What if we managed the storm differently and sat in the eye of it wit...

Family Matters

01 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Family dynamics are challenging on the best of days. However, during Covid, they can become even more difficult. In today's podcast, I answer a quest...

Studying Ourselves

28 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Learning meditation is nothing less than a study in ourselves. The more we understand ourselves, the more the door opens to the infinite wisdom that ...

Compulsive Behaviours

27 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What if breaking free from your compulsive habits wasn't about willpower—but understanding what drives them? In this episode, I explore how our mind...

Holding Your Ground

26 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Often we can feel like a small boat in a big storm, unsure of where the next waves are coming from. The most powerful thing we can learn to do is hol...

Look At Your Own Mind

25 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We can't change people.  I understand that this is difficult for us to get our heads around. But it is also the key to our happiness. 

Justifying Your Thoughts

24 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

One of my students had a big blow-up with his wife. He came to me to tell me his story of what had happened. I encouraged him to understand that he c...

Getting To Sleep

23 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A study has just shown that 40% of people are struggling to get to sleep during this pandemic. Rest is a vital factor in mental wellness. In today's ...

44 Years in Solitary

22 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Most people can't manage 15 minutes in a room by themselves. Imagine 44 years in solitary confinement. Could you do it?

Getting To Know You

21 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

No two minds are the same. We must get to know our mind so that we can see how our particular mind works. As we do this, we become more and more able...

Two Minds

20 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We all know the mind that is on all day, taking us off into all different sorts of directions. What we may not be so aware of is the other mind that ...

Breakthroughs

19 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes I just wish I could turn my mind off and have a holiday from it. Often we are at the mercy of our minds that even when we find that the tea...

The Dance of Love

18 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Love is a word that we use quite freely. However, most of us are unaware that the way we love is more like a business contract than love. If we want ...

A Holy Relationship

17 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In working with our minds, we decrease our stress and our anxiety. However, the practice goes even more in-depth and opens up a deeply blocked part o...

Changing Your Mind

16 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When someone hurts us, how do we cope? The obvious answer is that we shut down and protect ourselves. But what if the way forward is different?

Radical Love

15 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What can we do when someone hurts us? Is there a way to heal it differently? Absolutely there is. It's as powerful as it is radical. 

Heart Openers

14 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Having an open heart leads to a happier life. The more loving we are, the richer our lives are and the happier we become. How do we open our hearts?

Loneliness and Solitude

13 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What is the difference between loneliness and solitude? How can we be alone and feel well and happy in ourselves? This is what I discuss in today's p...

Relating To Suffering Differently With Wisdom

12 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this final instalment on relating differently to our suffering differently, I discuss the role that wisdom and insight has in enabling us to take ...

Relating To Suffering Differently With Focus

11 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes when we are suffering, it is all we can think about. However, through working with our minds differently, we can alleviate some of this suf...

Relating To Suffering Differently by Inviting Joy

10 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

There is often an imbalance in our minds. As humans, we tend to focus on struggles and difficulties without naturally giving as much attention to wha...

Relating To Suffering Differently by Letting Go

09 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Letting go is hard. It is not something we are taught or encouraged to do. And yet, in working differently with our suffering, letting go can be a po...

Suffering Differently

08 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Many of us are struggling. We still can't see an end in sight to the pandemic. Is there a way to manage this suffering differently? This is what I di...

Trust and Friendships

07 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Within our friendships, trust can be complicated. We want to have friends, and people we can talk with however trusting new people in our lives is no...

Being With Me

06 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Slowing down is hard. There are so many ways we can distract ourselves, ways that for many of us didn't exist when we were growing up. There is no do...

Seeing The World Differently

05 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Each day that we do this work, we are looking at different ways to address everyday issues. This takes courage and determination. And sometimes, it r...

The Realisation That Begins To Dawn

04 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How do we know that we are making progress on this path? What can we expect to see? In today's podcast, I discuss what progress looks like and what c...

The Struggle To Let Go

03 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When someone hurts us, we can often find it hard to let go of that hurt. This is understandable. However, it also blocks us from living in the best v...

A Surfer Of Your Mind

02 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What does it mean when I teach you to become a surfer of your mind? In today's podcast, I discuss how easy it is for us to become overwhelmed by our ...

Contentment versus Striving

01 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How can we find contentment? How do we reconcile content within the realms of also wanting to better ourselves? In today's podcast, I address some cr...

The Art of Kindness

31 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

One of the fastest ways to increase our happiness levels is to perform an act of kindness for someone else. What does kindness look like? Sometimes k...

Alert But Relaxed

30 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Our meditation practice is also how we can aspire to be in our everyday life. In today's podcast, I answer a student's question about how to work wit...

The Inner Child

29 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What do we do when we have experienced difficulties in our younger life? Do we need to heal our inner child? In today's podcast, I answer a question ...

How Can I Trust?

27 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What do we do when people let us down? How do we regain trust when someone has hurt us? My reply is perhaps not a traditional approach to trust, and I...

Anger and Grief

27 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How do we cope when someone we love passes away? In this time of Covid, it can be hard to come to terms with what seems to be the senseless loss of t...

Your Mind Is Very Sticky

25 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

It's easy for us to be unaware of how sticky our minds are. However, this is something we need to become aware of in order to have a happier life. 

The Gap In Our Thoughts

24 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today I answer a question about meditation and working with our thoughts that will clarify what the gap is that we are looking for and why why it is i...

One Day A Week

23 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

There is a ritual from one of the religious traditions that I find extremely powerful and profound. In today's podcast, I contemplate how to bring thi...

Healthy Vulnerability

22 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How can we share what is going on for us and find the balance between vulnerability and being negative? In today's podcast, I answer a question from o...

Your Mind As A House

21 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We have become very good at taking care of our physical hygiene over these months of this pandemic. However, one thing we are not as skilled at is tak...

Are You Brave Enough?

20 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

These times demand us to ask important and powerful questions of ourselves. In today's podcast, I challenge you to ask those questions. 

Choice Paralysis

19 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Are there ever times in your life when you struggle to make a choice? Is it that more than one option feels appealing and you fear that you might miss...

Cycles of Abuse

18 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Why is it that when someone has been abusive or damaging to us, we often hang in there in the relationship? Why is it so hard to walk away? What is it...

Look At Yourself

16 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

One of the techniques I teach you is how to see through your worries as merely stories. However, sometimes this technique is misused. I explain what I...

How To Make Friends

14 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

As we get older, we lose old friends faster than we make new ones. So what do we do when we need to make new friends? This is what I will give you som...

You Train The People In Your Life

14 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What do you do when people aren't treating you the way you hope they would? Look in the mirror and realise that you have a part to play in it.

Troubled

13 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today I feel troubled. There is no way around it. It creates questions inside of myself that feel important for me to answer.

We Are Not Alone In This Experience

12 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In today's podcast, I reflect on the struggles of the loss of freedom that so many of us have right now and how we can perhaps look at this a little d...

I'm Anxious About Staying Healthy

11 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

It's a time where many of us are concerned about our health. This is wise. However, if we fixate and become overly anxious about anything, this can be...

Everybody Hurts

10 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes we can find it hard to relate to other people's pain. Equally, when people behave badly, we can find it difficult to see our faults, and it ...

Is Fear Stopping Me?

09 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In today's podcast, I answer a question from one of my students who is unsure if it is fear stopping her or if she is merely going down the wrong path...

I am Failing At My New Year's Resolutions

08 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Each year we go through a process of creating resolutions for the New Year. Right about now, we often realise that we are failing at them. What if I t...

The Hooks That Steal Your Happiness

07 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Each day we literally give our happiness away by without even realising it. However, understanding the way these subtle hooks steal our happiness we c...

Caring For You

06 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

These times are unprecedented. How can we get through with sanity when so much is happening?

Don't Bite Off More Than You Can Chew

05 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What do we do if many areas of our lives are in a bit of a mess? How can we become happier? In today's podcast, I discuss the smartest way to change q...

Relaxing in Meditation

04 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes it can be challenging for us to relax as we sit down to do our daily The 10 Minute Mind practice. In today's podcast, I give you some strate...

How Do I Measure Myself

03 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

At times we have unrealistic expectations of ourselves. However, circumstances can mean that we cannot contribute in the ways we are used to. This lac...

I Can't Give Up Sugar

02 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What do we do when we know something is not good for us, yet we can't stop? In today's podcast, I explain ways to change old habits. 

The Light of the Tunnel

01 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

As we go through, what is undeniably a dark and challenging time, we have the opportunity to grow and learn in ways not usually available to us. In t...

The Hope Of 2021

31 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

For those of you who have not reached midnight yet I am already in 2021. It left me thinking a lot about where hope is found as we turn the page on a ...

Give Yourself The Zoomies

30 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

When bad things happen, especially when those things seem random and meaningless, we crave a sense of understanding and, ultimately, control. In today...

The Art of Fireball Goals

29 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Fireball Goals are the foundation of my life. If you want to feel genuinely alive, Fireball Goals are one of the keys. In today's podcast, I explain w...

Playing With Dinosaurs

28 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Often we don't realise that we can change habitually difficult situations. Playing dinosaurs with my niece reminded me of how this is possible.  The ...

Imagining Another World

27 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We are at a crossroads. We have a choice to go down the old worn-out roads that don't work or do things differently. This is a wonderful time to look ...

How To Handle Christmas

24 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

For most people who celebrate Christmas, it is going to be very different this year. In today's podcast, I discuss how you also may need to handle it ...

Flying Start 2021

23 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

At this time, we have a golden opportunity to reflect on the year that has been. Never has this been more important than in 2020. Flying Start 2021

Family Christmas

22 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Whether you can see your family this Christmas or not, coming together with the family you grew up with can bring up a lot of uncomfortable emotions. ...

How Compassion Leaves Us Feeling Happier

21 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What is compassion? And why does it play such an important role in our happiness? In today's podcast, I discuss compassion as one of the keys to a hap...

You Can Stop Your Unhappiness

20 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Last week I was coaching one of my students and we uncovered that one of her behaviours that caused her the most unhappiness had come to her through a...

I'm Jealous Of You Monique

19 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

One of my students wrote to me about his jealousy. In today's podcast, I discuss how to work with it.    This podcast is brought to you by The Hap...

Your Mind Is An Instagram Feed

18 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

One of my students came to me and told me she thought she had mental health issues. She was addicted to her Instagram feed. In the same way, we also a...

Happiness Is Not In The Big Things

17 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

When we think of happiness we have a tendency to think of large wonderful events bringing larger waves of happiness. However, happiness is more like s...

The Politics Of Kindness

16 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

It's a big day for me and a big contemplation on the power of kindness as a value in a wider community.  This podcast is brought to you by The 10 Min...

What Parts of Me Do I Conceal?

15 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

It's not easy to show others who we are. We are constantly manoeuvring to to show the best sides of ourselves. In today's podcast, I discuss how impor...

How Much Do We Need?

14 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

For 13 years I lived out of one bag traveling the world. It's a good reminder, at this time of gift giving and consumption, of how little it is that w...

What Fear Tells Us

13 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

There is no doubt that fear is uncomfortable. It can be a powerful message for us to protect ourselves. However, often it is telling us something else...

What We Learn As Children

12 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

As children, we come into the world with a much deeper understanding of what it is to be human than develops as we get older. In today's podcast, I di...

Have We Lost Our Manners?

11 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes people write to me and tell me off for things. Sometimes they are justified and I take the steps to course correct. Yesterday I received an ...

The Lessons of John Lennon

10 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

With the 40th anniversary of the passing of John Lennon a few days ago, I began mulling over who he actually was. It provides a thought provoking less...

You Can Handle Change

09 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

One At A Time

08 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

I was watching The Crown last night. There was a scene with Queen Elizabeth that struck me, as I watched her gazing out of the window. I realised I wa...

The Thief of Joy

07 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

There is one thing that strips us of our joy instantly. In today's podcast I discuss what this is and why indulging in it makes no sense at all.   Th...

Be Like A Goldfish

06 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Last night I was watching a TV show where one of the characters explained why the goldfish was the happiest being alive. In today's podcast, I explain...

Gratitude As A Connection

05 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

As people become more isolated and anxious at this challenging time, in today's podcast, I suggest one small way that you can make a difference to som...

Open and Let Go

04 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Naturally, we have days when we feel out of sorts, physically, mentally or both. In today's podcast, I discuss the best technique for managing this. ...

The Power of Retreat

03 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

I've made it to New Zealand, and for the next two weeks, I will be in compassionate confinement in a room. It reminds me of retreats I have done in th...

The Importance of Home

02 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Today I am landing in my home country of Aotearoa, New Zealand. It's seems the perfect time to discuss the importance of home.  This podcast is bro...

The Gift of Fear

01 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We usually look at fear as something negative. In today's podcast, I discuss two times in my life when fear was my best friend. I then explain a power...

Enough Is Enough

30 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

There is a whole industry that thrives on our belief that we are fundamentally flawed. In today's podcast, I discuss how to know when enough is enough...

The Resounding Yes

29 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Inside each of us is the ability to tap into the most incredible wisdom; we just need to know how. In today's podcast, I explain this by telling a sto...

We Don't Get What We Ask For

28 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In today's podcast, I'm going to tell you the story of my French teacher, who saw a weakness in me and played on it when I was at school. It's a great...

The Art of Making Mistakes

27 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

I am one of those people who loves making mistakes. Of course, it is not always pleasant and fun to see the result of them; however, the more mistakes...

The Importance of Giving Thanks

26 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Today Thanksgiving is being celebrated in many households around the world. In today's podcast, I talk about why giving thanks is most potent when it ...

The One Certainty

25 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

There is one thing in our lives that is certain. Reflecting on it can be a powerful way for us to get the most out of life. 

In The Giving We Receive

24 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

If you want your life to change, you can change it. If you want different things showing up you can bring those things to you. I explain this in today...

The Practice of Kindness

23 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

One of my students is struggling with being kind. He asked me to help him. In today's podcast, I discuss the importance of kindness as a daily practic...

The Happiness Equation

22 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

If you want to be happier, there are three elements in the equation. In today's podcast, I teach you what they are.    The Happiness Baseline

Dropping The Mind Into The Body

21 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In The 10 Minute Mind, one of the techniques I use is dropping the mind into the body. In today's podcast, I explain what that means and why it is so ...

Sober Up

20 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This is a sobering podcast. As I wake to the news that one of my students has lost her battle with Covid at 45 years old, leaving two young children, ...