Inner Bonding

Healing the Need for Others’ Approval

03 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you approval addicted? Are you often anxious about what others think of you? Are your good feelings dependent upon how others feel about you? Are ...

Moving Beyond Emotional Suffering

27 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you feeling sad, empty, anxious, stressed, angry, addicted, or depressed? Discover exactly what you are doing to cause your suffering and what you...

How to Have a Healthy Relationship

20 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you looking for a loving partner, or do you want to improve your current relationship? Are you already in a healthy relationship and you want to m...

My Partner is Not Meeting My Needs

13 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you wondered about the difference between legitimate needs and neediness? Are you aware of the system you have created with your partner that may...

No One Appreciates Me

06 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you frequently feel that you do so much for others, yet end up feeling unappreciated by them? Do you yearn to be listened to and seen and understoo...

Learning from Our Differences

29 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

People who are very different from each other are often attracted to each other. Discover why this can be a very positive thing in your relationship a...

Do you Have a Sense of Belonging?

22 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The feeling of belonging is an essential part of experiencing a full life, yet many people walk around with the painful feeling of not belonging. Disc...

The Potency of Your Intention

15 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Learn to practice awareness of your intent so you can move out of your painful feelings and into your inner peace. Discover the power and potency of y...

Can We Influence Others to Want to Change?

08 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you focusing on getting your partner to change to avoid a painful choice that you might need to make? Discover how you can influence people to wan...

The Spiritual Journey

01 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Which part of you do you put your trust in to guide your life - your mind or your soul? The spiritual journey is one of moving from ego wounded self b...

Relationships – What is Your Intention?

25 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Relationships offer us a wonderful arena to learn, grow, and become more loving to ourselves and others, but whether or not this happens depends on yo...

Are You Being Your Authentic Self?

18 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

There is a huge difference between authentically caring for the joy of caring and caring to get something or avoid something. Discover the path to tru...

Self-Abandonment Can Kill You

11 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You were likely not taught that your feelings are a very powerful source of inner guidance. That you need to listen inside, being aware of your feelin...

Do You Attract Narcissists?

04 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you have a pattern of attracting narcissists into your life? Discover why! Are you currently in a relationship with a narcissist and need help navi...

Healing Addictions to Processes and Activities

26 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Discover some of the processes and activities you may be using addictively, to avoid your feelings and avoid responsibility for them. You can heal fro...

Connection – Our Deepest Desire

19 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you longing for connection? Do you want to experience intimacy and connection with others, and the joy and aliveness that this offers? How often i...

Loving Parenting – How Were You Parented?

12 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

No matter how much time you spend with your children, if you are tense instead of present and peaceful, they will not be getting what they need from y...

The Secret to Healing the World

05 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

I know that there is one choice we can make that will heal the divisions and conflicts and wars that we are current experiencing – one choice that w...

Money Management Challenges

29 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Is your wounded self in charge of your money? Are negative feelings about taking personal responsibility limiting you? Are conflicts over money causin...

How Do You Know When You Are in Love?

22 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you know the difference between real love and infatuation? The answer to whether or not you are really in love depends upon which part of you feels...

There is no Excuse for Abuse

15 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you are in a verbally or emotionally abusive relationship, awareness of it is the first step. Discover how you might be compliant in this relations...

The Relationship Blame Game

08 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you and your partner, family, or friends find yourselves in the blame game, blaming each other or blaming yourself? Does conflict resolution betwee...

Practicing the Presence of Love

02 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The practice of the presence of love is one of the most powerful things we can learn to do, and it take courage to open to this practice. The practice...

Do You Know Who and What You Are?

25 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Take a lesson from Elvis Presley: Learn to define your own worth, instead of having to ask others, "Who am I?" While many people believe that self-wor...

Overwhelmed and Frazzled

18 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you get overwhelmed when too much is coming at you at once? When you feel overwhelmed, do you believe that it is about external circumstances? Do y...

Healing Anger

11 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Your anger can teach you many things if you choose to learn from it rather than use it as a means of controlling others. Anger at others is often a ma...

Self-Abandonment: How Are You Abandoning Yourself

04 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

If you feel alone, empty, anxious, depressed, hurt, angry, jealous, sad, fearful, guilty, or shamed, you are likely abandoning yourself both physicall...

Does “What if….?” Stop You? Try Surrender Instead

27 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When you are acting out in ways that are unloving to you and to others, your wounded self is in charge. Learn how do you stop indulging your wounded s...

Love is Intelligent

20 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you stuck being a slave of your wounded self, or do you trust your intuition? It is easy to trust and have faith when good things are happening, b...

How Can They Live with Themselves?

13 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Mass murders, violent teens, school violence, drugs, greed - why? You might not think you are selling your soul, but is this true?  The greed and vio...

The Power of Patience

06 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you get impatient? Would you like to become a more patient person? When others are behaving in annoying ways, what do you do? If you get impatient,...

Managing Family Grief

30 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are your adult children disconnected from you? Are you lovingly managing the grief of their disconnection? Are you taking your children's behavior per...

What Will Love Give You?

23 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What are your beliefs about what another's love will give to you? Most of us grew up believing that another person should be our dependable source of ...

Walking Your Talk, Embracing Your Truth

16 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you using your spirituality as a "spiritual bypass" to avoid feeling your feelings and taking responsibility for them? Are you being loving to you...

Jump-Start or Enhance Your Creativity

09 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

If you spend all of your time just getting things done and do not allow time for your everyday creativity, you will not feel alive and content within....

Healing Food Addiction

02 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you tired of being overweight and/or food addicted? Do you find yourself unable to stop using food to fill your emptiness or assuage your anxiety ...

How to Stop Being an Emotional Victim

25 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you an emotional victim, pushing others away with your complaints? Are you stuck feeling like a victim of your past, your circumstances, or of oth...

Why do you Blame?

18 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you find yourself automatically blaming yourself or others? Are you aware of the problems that blaming anger is causing you and your relationships?...

The Vital Importance of Self-Validation

11 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel a deep sense of self-worth? Do you know how to validate yourself or are you dependent for your sense of worth on others approval and valid...

You Are Never Alone

04 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

People who experience Divine love have a sense of vitality and fullness of being, while those who don't often appear empty and lack vitality. Your spi...

Connecting with Your Spiritual Guidance

28 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Many people struggle with their spiritual connection. They want to hear their guidance, but this experience eludes them. Is it supposed to be this har...

The Challenge of Disengaging in Conflict

21 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you struggle with knowing when to communicate with your partner about a problem and when to disengage? Are you reactive in conflict with people who...

Addiction to Caretaking

14 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Caretaking is an addiction - giving to get something back rather than giving for the joy of it.  Is your addiction to caretaking stopping you from kn...

The Challenge of Loving Yourself in Relationships

07 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Loving yourself does NOT mean sacrificing yourself! Giving yourself up is NOT the way to create a loving relationship. Learn how to love yourself and ...

Energy Tells the Truth

31 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you aware of how your energy affects others, and do you care about this? How often do you ignore your inner feeling experience of someone - instea...

Crazymaking: A Major Relationship Challenge

24 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Crazymaking interactions lead to anger, frustration, confusion, and feelings of loneliness, heartache, and helplessness over the other person and over...

Creating Your Own Safety Net

17 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How often do you scare yourself with your false beliefs? Our wounded self is a survival mechanism, designed to keep us safe. But instead of keeping us...

Bucking the Wound

10 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Healing from trauma and childhood abuse is possible, but it’s not about “getting there.” It’s about letting go of unconsciously re-traumatizin...

Relationship Challenges

03 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We all want to be seen and heard accurately for who we really, and it’s heartbreaking when we are not seen or heard by the important people in our l...

Are You Commitment Phobic?

26 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you want to be in a relationship but have a fear of commitment? Are you afraid to commit to a relationship for fear of losing yourself or losing yo...

The Vital Importance of Self-Compassion

19 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you believe that someone, other than you, has to give you compassion for you to manage your painful feelings? Do you have false beliefs getting in ...

What to do When You Can’t Communicate

12 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you know a healthy way of behaving when you are stuck and unable to communicate with someone? Is a lack of communication one of the complaints you ...

Embracing Our Quirks

05 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are there odd or different things about you that you judge about yourself and try to hide from others? Discover some of the more common quirks and how...

Addictions and the Lessons of Loneliness

29 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Addictive behavior is often an attempt to avoid the deeply painful feeling of loneliness, heartbreak and helplessness concerning others and outcomes. ...

Explaining and Other Subtle Forms of Control

22 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when you try to explain yourself to someone who is attacking and blaming you? Do you believe that explaining and defending will convince ...

Are You Having a Personal Power Outage?

15 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Discover the vast difference between personal power and power over others. Discover how you can achieve the personal power to manifest your dreams and...

The Importance of Belly Laughter

08 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Full-bodied laughter is a wonderful way to relieve the stress of life, and that often underlies illness. When you do not allow yourself to express you...

The Cat’s Cradle: The Art of Listening

02 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Really listening to someone and caring about their feelings is a great gift, but it is important to understand when listening is appropriate and when ...

The Vast Difference Between Aloneness and Loneliness

24 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Aloneness and loneliness are actually very different, yet people often confuse them. Have you ever been around people, yet felt both alone and lonely?...

Hopelessly Devoted to…?

17 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What are you most devoted to in your life? What lights you up and gets you moving every day? Perhaps you don’t know the answer to this and this podc...

Open 24 hours

10 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you learned how to keep your heart open to your feelings and your guidance so that you can respond to challenging situations from your loving adu...

Are You Brave, or do You Cave?

03 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you brave enough to take the risk of staying true to yourself with your family and friends, even at the risk of being rejected by them, or do you ...

Is Hard Work for Losers?

27 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today we want to speak to the issue of being willing, or not, to work hard to get what you want. It seems that hard work is a challenge for many of to...

How to Know When You Are Being Manipulated

20 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Knowing when you are being manipulated is a challenge for all of us. In this podcast, we share with you what we’ve learned about how to know when so...

Becoming a Loving Advocate for Yourself

06 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you advocate for yourself with the important people in your life, or are you allowing fear and a desire to control others to guide your actions? Ar...

Success: Compete or Cooperate and Create

06 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Many achieve wealth through competition, but are the emotional consequences worth it? And do you know that even more success can be achieved through t...

Becoming Aware of Your Underlying Relationship System

27 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you aware of your relationship system? Is your system full of love, kindness, and support, or is your system rife with strife or distance? It’s ...

Becoming the Leader of the Band

20 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Who makes your decisions - your wounded self, another person in authority, or your higher guidance? Did you grow up learning to not trust yourself? Do...

Think You’re Done with Life? Think Again!

13 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you creating the life you want, or do you feel a victim of a disappointing life? Why are you on the planet? What is your life about for you? If yo...

I Have a Right to my Feelings

06 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How often have you shared your feelings, and the other person became angry and defensive? When is the sharing of feelings important information and wh...

Why You Might Stay in an Unloving Relationship

30 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Is there someone in your life whom you love and whom you keep hoping will change if you love them enough? Are you staying in an unloving or abusive re...

Happily Ever After

23 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Happily ever after can be a reality, but you need to be in reality about what it takes to create a happily-ever-after relationship. Are you willing to...

It’s Going to be Okay

17 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes we get stuck in our wounded self and we can't see how to get back into our loving adult. Often, once we get triggered into our wounded self,...

The Force is With You

09 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you stuck in procrastination or apathy, unable to do what you need to do to create safety, or get thing done, or get to places on time? Are stuck ...

Promises Made, Promises Broken

26 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you make New Year’s resolutions, and if you do, are they from your loving adult or your wounded self? Are they just about goals, or also about wh...

How Important is Your Integrity to You?

19 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you living in integrity with your own soul, or are you operating from "bad faith"? Do you think that you can go against yourself and still find jo...

Peace on Earth, Peace in Your Heart

19 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This holiday season let’s focus both on peace on earth and on inner peace. It’s by learning to create inner peace that we can extend that out to o...

Do you want to be right or be loving?

12 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How do you end up feeling when you try to convince someone that you are right and they are wrong? Are you afraid to be wrong and be accountable for yo...

Feeling Trapped? Set Yourself Free!

05 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel trapped in some area of your life – trapped in your relationship, trapped in your work, trapped financially or with family issues or in ...

Learning from and Celebrating Fall – Inward and Outward

28 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It’s fall here in the U.S., which can be a metaphor for how we can see the beauty of our falls – our stumbles, mistakes, and failures. Do you judg...

The Bravery of Asking for Help

21 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes, reaching for the help you need takes bravery and courage because of the fear of rejection and the heartbreak that follows this rejection. A...

Healing Perfectionism

14 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you addicted to perfectionism? Do you believe that if you are perfect, you can control how others feel about you? Are you aware that trying to con...

Is Your Life Passion Directed?

07 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you know what your passions are? Do you know what you're here to offer the planet? Are you unhappy with your work? Do you have a sense that you hav...

Are You Appreciative and Proud of Your Family and Friends?

31 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you loving, caring, and supportive of your loved ones, or are you giving to them to get their approval? Are there people in your life who support ...

Blinded by Arrogance

24 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you trust your own feelings, perceptions, and knowing, or do you believe that others, especially others who may be arrogant about what they think t...

Why Loving Yourself is so Important

17 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you want freedom from anxiety and depression, a high sense of self-worth, loving relationships, an inner sense of safety, balance in your life, res...

Enmeshed, Controlling, Helicopter Parenting

10 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you an enmeshed, controlling, or helicopter parent? Do you have challenges setting appropriate limits and consequences for your children? Many par...

Who Gets the Last Cookie?

03 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you receive joy from others’ joy? Or does being competitive get in the way of sharing the last cookie? There are many experiences that create mom...

Why Me?

26 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you stuck feeling like a victim of your past, your circumstances, or of other people, often saying to yourself, “Why me?” or “It’s not fai...

What Voice am I Hearing – My Guidance or My Wounded Self?

19 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Discover how you can know the difference between the truth that comes from your spiritual guidance and the lies that come from the programmed mind of ...

Humble or Invisible – Do you Know the Difference?

12 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

When you believe you are your wounded self, you end up with low self-worth, which can lead to feeling invisible and actually being invisible to others...

When the Lights Go Out

05 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Discover how to manage the major challenges of life when it seems like the lights go out, rather than get stuck in the dark night of the soul. Learn a...

Conscious Kindness

29 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode of the Inner Bonding Podcast, Dr. Margaret Paul and Erika Chopich, creators of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process, talk about ...

Reaching Forgiveness

22 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you stuck in blame and resentment toward someone, feeling like a victim of another's choices? Are you keeping yourself miserable by holding on to ...

The True Nature of Courage and Grit

15 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you have the courage and grit to do the things you are afraid of, or do you allow fear to stop you? Do you have the courage to love yourself and ot...

Embrace Your High Sensitivity

08 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you believe there is something wrong with you because you have been told that you are "too sensitive?" If you have the gift of high sensitivity, or...

Healing The Mother Wound

01 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you have a mother wound that plagues you in your life and your relationships? Are you still trying to figure out how to deal with a critical mother...

Healing the Fears of Rejection and Engulfment

25 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do the fears of rejection or engulfment control your life? Do you isolate yourself to protect yourself from the fears of rejection or engulfment? Are ...

How to be Happy When a Loved One is Unhappy

18 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel guilty and responsible when others are hurting? Do you try to fix their pain rather than take care of yourself? Do you believe that you do...

The Vast Difference Between Self-Love and Narcissism

11 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Self-love and narcissism are actually opposites! But the ego wounded self in all of us exhibits some degree of narcissism, and discovering where you f...