Konnected Minds Podcast with Derrick Abaitey

Segment: 'Why Me?' to 'Why Not Me?' - The Three Stages of Confidence Nobody Talks About

18 Feb 2026

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From teenage pregnancy to imposter syndrome to unstoppable self-awareness - and the brutal truth about why parents must have uncomfortable conversations with their children before the world teaches them the hard way, the 18-year-old girl who called crying because she thought she was pregnant and had never been taught about protection or boys because her parents never had that conversation with her, the psychological reality of imposter syndrome where good things happen and the first reaction is "why me?" followed by arrogance of "if not me then who?" and finally settling into humanity, and why reading books from Magdalene Albright to Roosevelt's memoirs reveals that greats are just human beings with the same 24 hours and the same organs as you - so why not you, while the real question becomes: are you self-deprecating enough to insult yourself so harshly that when strangers on social media try to bring you down they become mere mortals because whatever they say you've already said worse to yourself, because the only person who can bring your spirit down is you, and if Derek and his friends sit around discussing the worst things about you thinking it will break you - you actually thrive because you don't lose sleep over the opinions of people who shouldn't be discussing your life anyway. In this raw episode of Konnected Minds, host Derrick Abaitey sits down with a powerhouse guest who dismantles the dangerous silence parents keep with their children about relationships, sex, and consequences - revealing the exact moment when an 18-year-old girl called her crying and scared because she thought she was pregnant, when the girl begged "please don't tell my mom I'm coming to see you" but the call was made anyway to check if everything was okay, when the mother said "yeah she's at home watching TV" having no idea her daughter had left to seek help, when the conversation revealed this young woman had never been taught about boys or protection because her parents never had that conversation with her, when getting pregnant at a very young age herself meant knowing the only person who would have a problem was her mother because her father was deeply religious and spiritual, when her father's response was calm and empowering: "the fact that you're pregnant now doesn't mean your life comes to an end - when you deliver you go back to whatever you want to do," when that support made it possible to sacrifice hanging out and having fun in the 19s and 20s to be a mother instead, when the lesson became clear: every action has a consequence and young people must know this early. This isn't motivational self-help talk from Instagram influencers - it's a systematic breakdown of why children in their 18s, 19s, 20s should be comfortable telling their parents "there's this guy I'm talking to" or "there's this girl I'm talking to" because if they can't have that conversation they'll make life-altering mistakes without guidance, why an 18-year-old girl called crying thinking she was pregnant because her parents never taught her about protection or boys, why getting pregnant at a young age was not planned and should never be the inspiration for anybody because it meant sacrificing youth and exploration to be a mother, why imposter syndrome is real and happens in three stages: self-doubt asking "why me?", arrogance saying "if not me then who?", and finally humanity, why reading books from greats like Magdalene Albright and Roosevelt reveals they are human beings with the same 24 hours and same organs as you proving "why not me?" is the right question, why being self-deprecating and insulting yourself harshly means nobody on social media can bring you down because you've already said worse to yourself, why strangers discussing your life are mere mortals whose opinions don't deserve sleep or attention, why a Rwandan minister reaching out about Women of Valor triggers imposter syndrome first before realizing it's the fourth year of promoting this event so it's not a big deal, and why the only person who can bring your spirit down is you - making self-awareness, brutal honesty, and refusing to care about nonsense the foundation of unstoppable confidence that thrives on criticism instead of crumbling under it. Host: Derrick Abaitey

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