Love Life With Matthew Hussey

Competition is For Losers (And How To Be Irreplaceable)

10 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In his book Zero To One, the venture capitalist and entrepreneur Peter Thiel famously says: “Competition is for losers”.Whether you are ...

7 Subtle Signs He Genuinely Likes You (Don’t Miss #7)

06 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Does he REALLY like you? You may be asking yourself this question right now. Sometimes people ask themselves this question because they want to know w...

Do You Worry He's "Not Sure" About You? Do This...

03 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

I’m a big believer these days in the power of no. What we decide to say “no” to in relationships is often as important what we say yes to. And I...

Is Their Behavior a Deal-Breaker?

29 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Ever found yourself in a situation where the person you are with is doing something that affects you negatively, only they don’t see it as a big dea...

Matt answers YOUR dating questions!

26 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Answering YOUR questions on topics including:- what to do when a guy is acting flakey- creating a "flirtatious energy" (and how to do it)- how to be l...

They Told You They Wanted a Break? The Perfect Response…

22 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What do you do if the person you are with comes to you telling you he wants a break? You’re devastated, you’re scared, and every instinct in you t...

How to Keep Desire Alive – His and Yours

17 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever worry that the chemistry will fizzle in your relationship? Or does it seem as though the butterflies have already flown away? Don’t worr...

3 Simple Steps to Handle Being “Gaslighted”

14 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Have you been gaslighted before? Is it happening to you right now? If you’re not sure what “Gaslighting” means… It’s when someone manipulate...

The ONLY Flirting Formula You Need...

11 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Question: What’s the #1 secret to powerful, seductive flirting? For some people, that’s a silly question. “Flirting is simple,” they’ll say....

Don't Let Fear of Rejection Paralyze You. Listen To This...

07 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Maybe you’ve always been afraid of rejection. Maybe there was a specific moment in your past where you experienced a devastating rejection that has ...

Why Being "Sweet" Is Underrated (For Men and Women!)

03 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

You watch the cliché rom-coms and sitcoms. They tell you to be witty, urbane, “sassy”, sophisticated. And that’s what everyone wants to portray...

3 Compliments That Create Deep Attraction

31 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Ah yeeeeah, it’s that time, friend… a brand new spicy epsiode for you. This one is about compliments, and there’s some really interesting psycho...

It's Not "Weird" To Ask For What You Want

27 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

If you've ever worried about having the "awkward" conversation, answering the booty call text, or speaking out for your needs, this is for you!  ...

Ready to Give Up on Dating? Watch This...

24 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

I can’t tell you how many times a week someone online says to me: “Matthew, I’ve had enough. I’m just going to give up on dating altogether.”...

How to Like Yourself More (Right Now)

20 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

It’s hard to find love when you don’t feel loveable yourself. When you know you’ve made a ton of mistakes. Or you’ve internalized the idea tha...

How to Deal with the Unbearable Pain of Heartbreak (with Guy Winch)

18 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Are you hurting? Is that hurt leading to overthinking? Rumination? A downward spiral of negative self-talk? Do you feel trapped inside your own head, ...

Reading YOUR emails on Love Bombing! Why It Happens, How To Move On From It...

13 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We respond to YOUR emails all about the topic of Love Bombing. Including:Why we get sucked in by love bombingWhat "red flags" to look for early o...

Is He Wasting Your Time? (The Top 2 Red Flags to Watch For)

10 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

I talk a lot about letting go of the wrong person. But how do you know if someone is the wrong person? What are the red flags? How can you tell if som...

"It's Complicated..." No, It's Not.

04 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

You have to help me. I believe there isn’t a woman (person) alive who doesn’t need to hear this message at least once in her lifetime. I know, tha...

Don't Get Into A Relationship Before You Hear This...(Or: How To Be Single)

30 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"Too many people in the single world waste time and emotion pursuing TERRIBLE leads. They date men and women who don’t invest in them, they spe...

The #1 Cure For Your Broken Heart

27 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

I still remember every heartbreak I’ve ever had. If I try I can still bring back the agony of those months after a relationship ended, wondering if ...

Did you lose the "RIGHT" Relationship?

23 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Ever sat ruminating obsessively over something you could have or should have done differently in your relationship? Something you said, something you ...

How The Pain of Regret and Heartbreak Stops You Moving Forward...

19 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

I can’t tell you how many people I’ve coached who can’t let go of the past. Women who are still hating themselves for dating the wrong guy for s...

Why Men "Love Bomb" And What You Can Do About It

15 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever had someone come into your life, dazzle you with their initial investment and attention, only to disappear as fast as they came? This ph...

Can Being Flawed Be Sexy? The Truth About Your Insecurities...

13 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Are the most attractive people always the most confident? Is insecurity always an attraction-killer, or is it more important to own your flaws?In toda...

5 Signs You're Dating a Toxic Person

08 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

There are many dangerous qualities of a toxic person, but the worst one of all may be their deceptiveness. They can be so subtle in their manipulation...

One Simple Behaviour That Helps Relationships Last

04 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What keeps relationships together? And what tears them apart? I've always been obsessed with looking at patterns of those in happy couples.Today, we s...

How to Be Brave in Love After You’ve Been Hurt

01 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever been hurt badly by someone in love? Those wounds can stay with us a long time. They can stop us from taking chances again in love. They ...

Not Enough People Say This on A First Date...

26 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Has this ever happened to you? You’re on a first date... and... He’s charming, handsome, and you feel like you have chemistry… But at the end of...

6 Unexpected Lessons I Learned in Lockdown

23 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

I’ve been thinking about one of the biggest dangers of personal growth these last couple of weeks. The danger is this: we learn a crucially importan...

How to Overcome Negative Self-Talk (Especially After a Breakup)

17 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

“How do you avoid negative self-talk after a breakup? My ex was extremely critical and I want him out of my head.” I say “we,” because I’m n...

The Psychological Bias That Makes You Stay In The Wrong Relationship...

13 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Why is it SO hard to leave, even when we know we are with the wrong person?  How can we get the courage to follow what our brain and heart are scream...

To My Community...

07 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A mere 2 weeks ago it would have been hard to conceive of a world that was about to heat up considerably beyond the tension and emotion already experi...

Is Love Still Possible in 2020?

04 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey ►► Want Support to Navigate This Strange Time? Ask Me Your Burning Love Life Quest...

How To Make Anyone Like You Instantly

30 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Follow Matthew at @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen at @stephenhhussey --- 90% of people are making a mistake in the way they connect with other people...

How to Keep the Flame Alive in Quarantine

27 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

I’ve lost count of what week of social distancing we’re in. But I do know that if you’ve been living with someone since quarantine started then ...

4 Fears That Stop People Opening Up To You

21 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

People spend a lot of time asking the question: “How to do I get my partner to open up?” But they rarely think about the ways in which they regula...

Is It Risky to Flirt with Him? How to Read His Signs

18 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

“WTF? Do not use this.” This is a comment I received last week. It was in response to a flirty little text that I suggested you use with the guy w...

7 Irresistible Texts to Flirt From a Distance

12 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey :) In today’s podcast, I’m bringing you some practical advice on how to flirt at a distance. Some “Quarantexts,” if you will. Ahem. Think ...

5 Causes Of Unrequited Love and How To Prevent Them

08 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

There’s a ridiculously simple principle Matt talks about in his seminars. So simple it seems kind of silly. Naïve even. But it’s actually great. ...

How To Stop Playing The "Waiting Game"

03 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Your phone buzzes. It’s a text from him ;) You can feel your stomach flip over with excitement. Every message he sends is like sweet honey for your ...

What Makes You Irreplaceable to a Guy

27 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

One big myth I've heard from thousands of women is, "I'm only attracted to the guys who are BAD for me". People tell ourselves the lie that there...

Is Coronavirus Revealing You Have a One-Sided Relationship?

22 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Another week in isolation... This crisis is really putting a magnifying glass on my (alarmingly natural) gift for hibernation, as well as my capacity ...

What Made You Fall In Love With Him? (Micro-attractions pt. 2)

19 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A couple of episodes ago we asked you: What are the moments that made you fall in love in the past? We call these moments micro-attractions. Yes, you ...

5 Ways to Be More Interesting Immediately

14 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Well hello there from isolation. Guess what? we made a new podcast for you. It’s about how to be a more interesting and engaging person in any inter...

Everything You Know About Attraction Is Wrong

10 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What is the secret that makes a man look into a woman’s eyes and think, “She is the one for me?” It isn’t her looks. It isn’t her masters de...

"Am I The Only One Not Living My 'Best Life' During Coronavirus?"

07 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

I don’t know about you, but I’m already exhausted by the avalanche of motivational quotes online right now. Advice everywhere. Everyone talking. I...

Answering YOUR Questions About Dating In Coronavirus

04 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Time for a coronavirus Q&A! Today we're doing something a little different. We promised we'd read out some listener emails, so it's time to d...

What Coronavirus Means For Your Love Life

31 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What a week... It’s a time of mixed emotions. Anxiety. Stress. Fear. Uncertainty. Boredom. Resentment about losing the year we thought we were going...

Just Broke Up? This Conversation Will Give You the Closure You Need (feat. Girls Gotta Eat)

27 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

“Is there anything I can do to rekindle the relationship with my ex?” It’s one of the biggest questions we have after a breakup. And if you’re...

Powerful Lessons In A Crisis (With Ed Mylett)

24 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What can we do when crisis hits? How should we change our goals, our routines, our emotional response when our lives get shaken by unpredictable probl...

How To Love After Being Hurt

20 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Ever been hurt or betrayed? Maybe someone broke your trust, cheated, or took your love for granted... If so, I’m really sorry. The pain th...

Men And Sex: What You Should Know

16 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Pull up a seat. It’s time we had an honest talk about men. When looking for love, I believe there’s no better way to start than by deeply understa...

The Dumbest Mistake People Make In Dating

13 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Last episode we talked about how to respond to a flakey guy using “Bliss Point” text messages - which combines being salty and sweet to make someo...

3 Texts That Make Him Chase You

09 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Most women are used to being told things like: “You need to make him work for it”, “You need to have standards”, “You need to respect yourse...

4 Questions That Tell You Whether It's Time To Leave Your "Situationship"

05 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What is the limbo between being in a relationship and also not being in one? Recently it has been called a “situationship”: the moment when you’...

Why Men Don't Open Up (And What To Do)

02 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Let's talk about masculinity. In 2020, there is still such a gap of understanding between men and women that deeply affects our romantic relationships...

Why Do Happy People Cheat?

27 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

There's no easy way to talk about infidelity. It's a painful, difficult topic that evokes a strong emotional reaction. But it's also one that so many ...

Don't Let Your Vision Of A Healthy Relationship Be Compromised

24 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

When you fall in love, it's way too easy to start trying to fit someone into your world, even if their behaviour compromises your deepest values. You ...

The Big Question: How Are You At Your Worst??

20 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

You might be the kind of person who is funny, joyful, and amazing to be around when you’re in a great mood. But what about when things get tough? Or...

Why The WRONG Guys Always Approach You

16 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

*NEW SERIES* Could it be true? After 3+ years off the air…is our podcast ‘Love Life With Matthew Hussey’ really back?? YES. And what’s really ...

Awkward! How to Deal When You See Your Ex

27 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

 After you break up with your ex (unless you flee to another state or get an entirely new group of friends) chances are good you’ll run into hi...

Men Live for the “Maybe”

24 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Ok… let’s answer this age-old question once and for all: Do men prefer women who are “hard to get,” or do they just want a woman who will take...

“He Won’t Commit – But He Won’t Let Me Go”

22 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

You love him. You want to be with only him. But he wants to keep his options open. He knows how much it hurts you that he can’t give you the commitm...

If You Would Never Marry Him, Should You Date Him?

22 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Today’s caller has a really interesting question: She knows for certain that she wants to marry a man who’s Jewish, but she just “accidentally”...

Define Who You Are

17 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

You may be surprised by my message today. After all, I’m the first person to encourage you to be ambitious. But I want to warn you of the dange...

How to Protect Your Heart from a Rebound Relationship

15 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Is it wise to date a guy who just got out of a relationship? How can you know if he’s actually ready to get serious with you now or if he’s still ...

If You Want THIS, it’s Never Too Late…

13 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

 We all have insecurities about qualities we don’t have. Sometimes, gaining confidence is simply a matter of appreciating the other amazing qua...

The Rejection-Proof Way to Ask a Friend Out

10 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Our caller, Karen, has a crush on her friend. She thinks there’s a chance he likes her too, but he’s very shy. Is there a way she can test the wat...

The Ultimate Secret to Overcome Weakness

06 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Recently, I picked up an iconic book for the first time that you likely read in your youth. (You’ll have to listen to this episode to find out what ...

This Makes You INSTANTLY More Approachable

03 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

See that handsome guy over there across the bar? He actually wants to approach you. But he’s way too terrified of being rejected to take a shot in t...

3 Compliments Every Man is Dying to Hear

01 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I’m going to let you in on a secret: Men desperately want to feel like real men. Even though we proudly use “product” in our hair and aren’t a...

He’s Got a Close Female Friend? 2 Things that Will Help You Deal

27 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

It’s only natural to feel a little jealous of the “other woman” in your man’s life. But if your relationship is worth it, you can deal with a ...

This Kind of Intimacy is Wasting Your Time

24 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

 We all understand by now what “Late-Night Booty Call Guy” wants from you. But today we’re looking at a species with a different, much more...

Just One of These Will Change Your Whole Love Life

22 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode I take a question from a listener named Ashley, who believes that she’s doing all the right things to meet men, but can’t see...

Use This Management Technique… on Your Man

20 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

As a business owner who oversees a large team, I’m always striving to improve my skills as a manager. But, let’s face it: even when I’m in “bo...

My #1 Tip to Take Control of a Tense Situation

17 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I’m never too proud to use a personal anecdote to illustrate my point, even when the experience was a near-disaster. So, if for no other reason than...

“Am I Just a ‘Hook Up’ to Him?”

15 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Our caller, Halima, is worried. She’s got a huge crush on a guy at work. And while that situation brings all of its usual complications – what if ...

My Valentine’s Day 3-Step Survival Guide

13 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Confession: I don’t really care much for Valentine’s Day. But it is upon us, and the sappy engagement ring television commercials and greeting car...

Mistakes Can’t Hurt You if You Remember This

10 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

 I made a colossal mistake the other day on national television. Want to hear the embarrassing story? I’ll tell you in this episode. Not just b...

How to Overcome the Most Painful Rejection

08 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

There are few things in life that hurt worse than loving someone who doesn’t love you back. It can make you question your own value: If someone I ho...

These 6 Words End Any Argument

06 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Contrary to popular belief, arguments themselves aren’t what damage relationships; it’s the amount of time that we take to recover after an argume...

Should You Force a Friendship With An Ex?

03 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

You broke up with him…and broke his heart. But time has passed, and now he wants to try to be friends. You miss hanging out and having a laugh with ...

Don’t Fall into the “T0-Do List” Trap

01 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

 We all do it: Make To-Do lists a mile long and then tell ourselves we’ve had a productive day if we’ve checked off a bunch of “stuff” be...

Do Something Right NOW

30 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Stop everything and listen to this episode right now. In it, I’m going to give you a quick tip that will get you immediate results with that nagging...

How to Date Your Friend’s Ex (And Not Kill the Friendship)

27 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

So you’ve got strong feelings for a guy… He’s funny, he’s handsome, he’s kind, but there’s just one tiny problem: he just so happens to be...

What’s Really Behind Your Booty Call?

23 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Should you be ashamed of The Booty Call? If you’re just having fun, and you’re really ok with a casual fling, then I say, go for it. The problem i...

This is a Really Gross Question, But You Can Learn From It

20 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

As someone who gives love advice for a living, I’ve heard it all. Or so I thought… until I got this insane email question from a listener. Now let...

It Should Take Exactly THIS Long to Get Over Your Ex

18 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Ok, here’s the formula to calculate the time it should take to get over your breakup: Grab a pen. I’ll wait…OK, now add the number of months you...

Why “Be Yourself” is Awful Advice

16 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

“Be yourself.” To most people, this means, “you’re perfect, just as you are.” (Or, at worst, it’s considered a harmless cliché.)  But I ...

Is Passion Overrated?

13 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

“There’s so much PASSION with this new guy I’m dating! We can’t keep our hands off of each other!” “I just want a job I can feel PASSIONAT...

A Totally Counter-Intuitive Mind Hack to Get More Done

11 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Ok, you’ve got a million things to do today, and you’re not going to rest until you get it all done. So you work and you grind and you keep checki...

The Power of Keeping a Promise

09 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

“Can you make it to my birthday tonight,” asks your friend who’s planned an annoyingly hipster “drinks thing” in a totally inconvenient neig...

Don’t “Drunkenly” Follow Your Dreams

06 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I strongly believe we all have the power to create incredible lives. I even designed a 5-day Retreat process that helps thousands of women around the ...

3 Insider Tips to Negotiate Like a Pro

04 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Oh, hey, you left something on the table there… it’s ALL OF THE MONEY YOU’RE WASTING by not negotiating for the things you want! I know, it can ...

This Quick Tip Will Transform Your Relationships Forever

02 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Grab a pen and paper, because I’ve got a (fun) little assignment for you today! I’m going to give you a tip that you can use today that will trans...

My Holiday Travel Rant

28 Dec 2016

Contributed by Lukas

You know me by now. So you know that once in a while I just can’t hold back. I have to rant. And today, my friend, you’re going to hear it. We’r...

Want More Than a Friendship With Him? Then You Need THIS…

26 Dec 2016

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s LOVE Life, I take a question from a caller named Crystal who wants to know why she’s 28 and can’t seem to find long-term love. I catc...

Meeting His Family? Your 3 Step Survival Guide

23 Dec 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Meeting your boyfriend’s family for the first time can feel like a lot of pressure… especially when he saves your introduction for a big holiday g...

Transform the Way You Travel

21 Dec 2016

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve all done it: Stressed ourselves out before a trip by making epic to-do lists, cramming our suitcase full of the books we think we “should”...