You know that voice in your head that won’t stop replaying awkward conversations or predicting disaster before you’ve even begun? We all have it. But what if you could teach it to speak differently instead of trying to silence that voice? In this episode of Mind the Gap, we explore the surprising science behind self-talk — the silent, internal dialogue that shapes how we think, feel, and act. Drawing on the work of psychologist Ethan Kross, ancient Stoic philosophy, and the principles of emotional intelligence, we unpack practical tools to help you shift from inner critic to inner coach. Why do we spend nearly one-third of our waking life in silent conversation with ourselves?The health costs of unchecked mental chatterHow to use “distanced self-talk” to reduce reactivity and regain perspectiveWhat Marcus Aurelius and Seneca knew about reasoning with your thoughtsHow awe, self-awareness, and the right kind of listener can calm the storm inside Whether you're a leader, a partner, a parent, or a human, learning how to talk to yourself more wisely is a game-changer. Key quote: “You are not your thoughts. You are the one hearing them.” Resources mentioned: Chatter by Ethan KrossMeditations by Marcus AureliusDaniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence.

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