Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

577 - Should You Push Through the “Ick”?

28 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever felt the "Ick"? Maybe you were in the beginning stages of a relationship and still evaluating if you're attracted to someone, getting to...

576 - In Praise of Indirect Communication: Is Directness Actually Superior?

21 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're going back to our roots and discussing communication again! We're diving into direct and indirect communication during this episode, and t...

575 - I’ll Never Be Their First Priority: Listener Q&A

14 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're answering a question from a listener in another Q&A episode. We're going to be diving into feeling like you're never a priority for yo...

574 - How to Make Calendaring Not Suck

07 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're covering a topic that causes a lot of friction in a lot of relationships: scheduling. Sometimes, coordinating time with people we love, wh...

573 - Is the Non-Monogamy in Vicky Cristina Barcelona Realistic? Film Critique with Love Factually

31 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're excited to be sharing an episode with Eli Finkel and Paul Eastwick of the Love Factually podcast! We're critiquing Vicky Cristina Barcelon...

572 - Building Commitment Off the Relationship Escalator

24 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about milestones in relationships, and how to build commitment when you're actively trying not to stay on the relationship escalat...

571 - They're Unwinding from Monogamy. Should I Wait Around? Listener Q&A

17 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're diving into a question from one of our listeners about partners who recently left monogamy and are still adjusting to stepping off of the ...

570 - Play as Resistance: featuring Gary Ware from Breakthrough Play and Normalizing Non-Monogamy

10 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free e...

569 - Why is Everyone So Tired of Dating?

03 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're tackling a concept that's on a lot of people's minds lately: burnout. Specifically, we'll be discussing dating burnout and fatigue, which ...

568 - When You Want More Time But Your Partner Won’t Give It

24 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about time, both quality and quantity of it, and what to do if you and your partner end up clashing over it. We're going to discus...

567 - Is Toxic Individualism a Real Problem?

17 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.com/join. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episod...

566 - More Than a Numbers Game: Dating Truths from Feeld's Data Team

10 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.com/join. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episod...

565 - Results Are In: The Largest Non-Monogamy Study

03 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're excited to be joined by Brett Chamberlin and Dr. Amy Moors to discuss the recent results of the largest non-monogamy survey done to date. ...

564 - Help! My partner's dates are difficult to endure! Listener Q&A

27 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're tackling a listener question from one of our Supercast supporters. We'll be discussing in depth how to help regulate yourself when your pa...

563 - The Episode to Share with Your Parents: Remastered

20 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we're sharing a remastered version of an episode that aired back in 2023. This is the episode to share with parents, family, or other loved...

562 - Polyamory in a Red State with Stacey McLarty

13 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

We're excited to invite Stacey McLarty to the show as our guest today! Stacey is a Texas attorney who supports individuals and chosen families through...

561 - Level Up Your Polyamory: Common Newbie Mistakes (and How to Fix Them)

06 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Happy New Year to you all! For our first episode of the new year, we bring you a remastered version of an older episode from back in 2016 about five m...

560 - I'm Solo Poly, But I Want More: Listener Q&A

16 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're tackling two listener questions about being solo polyamorous and wanting a more entangled or anchored relationships, either with existing ...

559 - The Struggle of Loneliness

09 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.com/join. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episod...

558 - This Is Your Brain on (Jealousy) Drugs

02 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're bringing back a remastered episode from way back in the day. We're going to be revisiting our first episode about jealousy, diving into th...

557 - Is Sexual Rejection Hurting Your Relationships?

25 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.com/join. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episod...

556 - How Much is Too Much Information About My Other Relationships? Listener Q&A

18 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're tackling a listener question about sharing information within polyamorous relationships. We'll be talking about how much information is ok...

Let's Have Some Fun For a Change! See You On The Foosball Court - Relationship Recess 2026

14 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Get your tickets now before prices go up!Tickets and details here: multiamory.link/recess2026Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.sup...

555 - Reclaiming Spirituality as a Queer, Polyamorous Person with Brian G. Murphy

11 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We're thrilled to be welcoming back Brian G. Murphy as a guest to the show!Brian is an organizer, author, and certified relationship coach helping LGB...

554 - Persuasion or Coercion? Navigating Polyamory Under Duress

04 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about polyamory under duress (PUD). Being non-monogamous comes with its own set of challenges, and sometimes when external pressur...

553 - What Can Swingers and Polyamorists Learn From Each Other? With Mr. and Mrs. Jones of the We Gotta Thing Podcast

28 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We're excited to present a collaborative episode with Mr. and Mrs. Jones of We Gotta Thing podcast! Mr. & Mrs. Jones are the hosts of the We Gotta Thi...

552 - Why Your Partner Doesn’t Plan Stuff (And What You Can Do About It)

21 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about planfulness, or thinking ahead and planning things like scheduling time together, managing life's obligations, or making dat...

551 - My Partner Dates People Just Like Me: Listener Q&A

14 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're tackling a question from a listener about managing jealousy and fear around a relationship where your partner dates other people like you....

550 - We Still Play Medieval Dating Games

07 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're joined by a special guest we've had on the show before, Professor Annalisa Castaldo, to explore 'The Art of Courtly Love,' a medieval manu...

549 - What's Really Driving Your Love Life: The 8 Worldly Concerns

30 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're discussing the Eight Worldly Concerns, or four things we desperately chase and four we desperately avoid, that have driven human behavior ...

548 - Conversations to Have Before Moving in Together

23 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're dusting off an old episode about cohabiting with a partner. In it, we talk about why people move in together, questions to ask yourself ab...

Help us make history: The biggest non-monogamy study ever conducted!

19 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Participate in this anonymous 20-30-minute survey here: Chapman University StudyThis year, we've partnered with OPEN and Dr. Amy Moors at Chapman Univ...

547 - Help! My Partner is Dating My Best Friend: Listener Q&A

16 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're back with another Q&A episode from one of our Supercast subscribers. We'll be talking about relationship dynamics and what to do when a pa...

546 - Therapy Myths That Hurt Your Relationships (with therapist Joe Nucci)

09 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're welcoming therapist Joe Nucci to the show to talk about myths about therapy and the effect they can have on your relationships. Joe is a l...

545 - AI Relationships: Ethics, Intimacy, & Algorithms with Dr. Julie Carpenter

02 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're chatting with Dr. Julie Carpenter about AI and its role in our relationships.Dr. Julie Carpenter is a social scientist who studies how peo...

544 - Are You Sabotaging Your Relationships by Seeking Security?

26 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're discussing our drive to seek security in relationships, especially as economic uncertainty increases, and how sometimes, that can turn aro...

543 - My Metamour Refuses to Meet Me: Listener Q&A

19 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're fielding another question from one of our Supercast subscribers. We'll be discussing how to handle your metamour not wanting to meet you o...

542 - Is Emotional Intelligence the Key to Getting Out of Our Own Way?

12 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about emotional intelligence, self-sabotage, and being objective about our thoughts and emotions. Have you ever had a thought that...

541 - Make Agreements with Yourself, Not With Your Partner

05 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We're revisiting agreements, but this time with ourselves, not others. We're going to be talking about agreements, self agreements, how they differ fr...

540 - Banish the Ghost of Relationships Past

29 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're bringing back a remastered episode about the ghosts of relationships past...and getting into a good relationship after being in a bad ...

539 - Introducing My Polyamorous Partner to My Monogamous Parents: Listener Q&A

22 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we're answering a question from one of our subscribers: how do I introduce my polyamorous partner to my monogamous parents? We'll be discus...

538 - When Knowing Better Doesn't Mean Doing Better

15 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we're discussing why we struggle to put the communication and relationship lessons we learn into practice. Current generations are more therapy...

537 - Breaking the Cycle: Releasing the Grip of Control

08 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome back to our series on control! This week, we're talking about control from the perspective of the person who wants to have the control or powe...

536 - Finding Your Voice: Navigating Control and Taking Back Your Power in Relationships

01 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to part one of our deep dive into control in relationships! Every relationship has power dynamics, but when they get out of control it can be ...

535 - How Do You Maintain Equity Across Multiple Relationships? Listener Q&A

24 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're tackling a question from one of our Supercast subscribers about equity in multiple relationships, feel prioritized, and how to handle toug...

534 - When We're Asked to Change (and When It's Okay to Refuse)

17 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we're diving into what happens when a partner asks you to change, whether it's a small behavioral change or a big fundamental or values cha...

533 - How to be Dateable with Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu

10 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're joined by Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu from the podcast Dateable to talk about--you guessed it--how to be dateable. We're going to be talkin...

532 - Is Attachment Theory Just Bullsh*t?

03 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We're returning to attachment theory this week as we go over some of the criticisms it has faced since rising in popularity. For some, attachment theo...

531 - What's Wrong with Enjoying Consensual Sex with Multiple People? Listener Q&A

27 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We're back with another Q&A episode this week! Today we'll be discussing some listener questions about using the word "love" in a relationship, polyam...

530 - Why You Keep Having the Same Fight – 3 Toxic Patterns that Keep Us Stuck

20 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're bringing back a popular episode on relationship conflict. We're talking about three different patterns that show up in conflicts, how to r...

529 - Yes, You Can Think Your Way Out of Your Feelings (Sometimes)

13 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're discussing cognitive reappraisal, or the notion of thinking your way out of a negative emotional response to a given situation. We'll be g...

528 - The Art of Stepping Back: De-escalation

06 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're getting into the nitty gritty details of ending relationships, whether it's by breaking up or de-escalating. We'll be discussing all t...

527 - Why Your Search for Closure Isn't Working

29 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about a universal human experience: wanting to feel better after a relationship ends. However, a lot of us end up seeking the wron...

526 - How do you make space for a primary relationship while keeping a non-primary one? Listener Q&A

22 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're answering some more listener questions! We'll be tackling some questions about moving too fast in relationships, relationship hierarchy, a...

525 - Your Metamour is Not the Villain with Alex Alberto

15 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about metamour relationships with Alex Alberto. Alex is a queer author, publisher, and filmmaker. Last year, Alex published their ...

524 - From Worried to Empowered: Taking Action for Relationship Rights with Experts Diana Adams and Brett Chamberlin

08 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We're excited to welcome Diana Adams and Brett Chamberlin back to the show to discuss advocacy, relationship rights, and more. Diana Adams (they/them)...

523 - How do I cultivate polyamorous community? Listener Q&A

01 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We're back with another Q&A episode! Today we're answering some questions from our Supercast subscribers about organizing local polyamory meetups, how...

Our Audiobook is here!

28 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Our audiobook is out now at all major audiobook retailers! Learn more at multiamory.com/bookJoin our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.com/...

522 - The Power of Denial: Are You Lying to Yourself?

25 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're tackling a heavy topic: denial. Most of us have dealt with this at one point or another, especially when it comes to relationships, whethe...

521 - Finding Fairness in Non-monogamy

18 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about equity, equality, and fairness in all relationships, but particularly non-monogamous ones. We'll discuss the differences bet...

520 - Do You Treat Your Partner Worse Than You Treat Your Friends?

11 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're chatting about romantic relationships, friendships, and the ways we often treat the two differently. Why do we think of our romantic partn...

519 - Competing for Attention: Why Your Partner's Distraction Hurts

04 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about attention and attentiveness as a relationship resource. It's natural for us to want to feel loved, important, and listened t...

518 - Talking to Kids about Non-Monogamy (with Evolving Love)

25 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're answering some more listener questions, and we're also being joined by Abbey and Liam from the Evolving Love Project to get their perspect...

517 - Breaking the Approval Cycle

18 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about the need for approval many of us feel every day and the impact it can have on our relationships. We're discussing what appro...

516 - Is Solo Polyamory Right For You?

11 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're focusing on solo polyamory! We'll be covering what solo polyamory is, its variations and the different forms it can take, and why you ...

515 - Romanticization: Friend or Foe?

04 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about romanticization and its role in our relationships, our lives, and more. We all idealize something, whether it's a place, a p...

514 - My Metamour is Convinced I Hate Her. Help! Listener Q&A

28 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We're back with another Q&A from our lovely subscribers! Today, we're discussing mono-normativity, metamour relationships, and polysaturation as we an...

513 - Our Body and Brain are Not Always on the Same Page: Remastered

21 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We're bringing back a special conversation between Dedeker and Orit Krug! Orit is an award-winning Board-Certified Dance/Movement Therapist and Licens...

512 - Before, During, and After Opening Up Your Relationship

14 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're going back to some polyamory 101 basics and talking about opening up previously monogamous relationships. We'll be talking about some help...

511 - Protecting Your Relationships from the News

07 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Happy New Year! We're starting back up again this year talking about negativity bias, how it affects our media landscape, and in turn, how it affects ...

510 - Don't Let Envy Ruin Your Relationship

17 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about the green-eyed monster...envy! We've talked a lot about jealousy in the past, but this time we're focusing on envy, which is...

509 - Frank Smith Gets Real about Queer Polyamory

10 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're welcoming back writer, director, actor, and producer Frank Arthur Smith to talk about non-monogamy in queer media.Frank is a queer writer/...

508 - Four Steps to Stop a Conflict Spiral

03 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're discussing conflict spirals, or what happens when you're arguing with a partner and it's no longer productive, you're exhausted, and you j...

507 - Putting Your Values into Action with Jaime Gama

26 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're joined by Jaime Gama of the popular Instagram account Gotitas de Poliamor. We'll be discussing non-monogamy, identity, community, and much...

506 - How do I prioritize my career and my relationships? Listener Q&A

19 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're back with a Q&A episode! We're answering some questions from our listeners and talking about balancing relationships and a burgeoning care...

505 - Do We Need to Get Married, Really?

12 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're revisiting the topic of marriage and non-monogamy, talking about why you might want to get married, why you might NOT want to get married,...

504 - Decolonizing Love with Millie and Nick

05 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

For today's episode, we're joined by Millie and Nick from Decolonizing Love for a spectacular conversation about polyamory, intersectionality, colonia...

503 - Normalizing Non-Monogamy: Bru + Mark

29 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

For this week's episode, the Multiamory crew is taking a much-needed break, and featuring episode 308 of Normalizing Non-Monogamy: Bru + Mark! Hosts E...

502 - Help! My relationship is going TOO well! Listener Q&A

22 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to another Q&A episode where we answer some questions posed by our lovely listeners! Today we're discussing different levels of sexual attract...

501 - Are you having sex or is sex having you? A conversation with Dan Savage

15 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Dan Savage joins us today to talk about love, sex, non-monogamy, commitment, and much, much more! Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, a podcaster, a...

Big News! Memberships are Now Sliding Scale!

10 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

🎉 Big Announcement 🎉As some of you have already heard, we’re making the big transition from Patreon to Supercast. This move has been 2 years i...

500 - 500 Freaking Episodes

08 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're celebrating 500 episodes of Multiamory! Ten years after the first episode, we're telling the story of the beginning of the podcast, re...

499 - Post-Nonmonogamy: Navigating Life After Polyamory with Andrea Zanin

01 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're joined by writer Andrea Zanin to talk about their upcoming books. Andrea Zanin, MA, is a white, nonbinary, middle-aged queer whose writing...

498 - Is it possible to limit the expansion of our feelings for others? Listener Q&A

24 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today's episode is another Q&A! We'll be answering Patreon questions about whether or not your first relationship should be a non-monogamous one, deal...

497 - I Hate the People My Partner Dates

17 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What do you do if you can't stand the people your partner dates or dislike how they date? Today, we're discussing all the different ways these situati...

496 - Trying Monogamy After Non-Monogamy with Rachel Krantz

10 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Rachel Krantz is back to talk about her experience with monogamy after being non-monogamous. Rachel is a journalist and the author of OPEN: One Woman'...

495 - Anger & Anxiety: The Unexpected Couple Ruining Your Relationships

03 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

For today's episode, we're examining anger from a slightly different perspective: how it relates to anxiety and vulnerability in your relationships. W...

494 - Can We Be Compassionate Towards One Penis Policies? Listener Q&A

27 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we're back with another Q&A episode in which we discuss one penis policies, labels and identities, and intimate friendships. If you want one of...

493 - But What if I Want the Relationship Escalator?

20 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we're discussing the relationship escalator, which is often criticized in non-monogamous spaces. However, some non-monogamous folks may want th...

492 - Workaholics Aren’t Actually More Productive

13 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we're diving into workaholism and its effect on relationships. A lot of us in western (American) culture pride ourselves on working hard and ne...

491 - What We Can Learn About Love from the Animal Queendom with Owen Ever

06 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're welcoming guest Owen Ever to the show to discuss insights they have learned from researching the animal queendom's social-sexual dynamics....

490 - I can't get over mistakes my partner made early on: Listener Q&A

30 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We're back with another full-length Q&A episode where we answer questions from our Patreon supporters. Today we'll be discussing cPTSD and over-analyz...

489 - Multiamory Presents: Unmet Needs in Polyamory

23 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're very excited to be showcasing an episode from our good friend Libby Sinback's podcast, Making Polyamory Work. In this episode, she's discu...

488 - Out and Empowered: Protections and Visibility for non-monogamy with OPEN

16 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're excited to be joined by Brett Chamberlin from OPEN! Brett (he/him) is a social impact organizer with over a decade of leadership experienc...

487 - Diagnosis: Depression (The Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me)

09 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today, join us for a hopeful discussion about depression! We'll be sharing some personal anecdotes, some research about depression, and some tips for ...

486 - Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center with Rhaina Cohen

02 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about friendship, love, and romance with Rhaina Cohen. Rhaina is the author of the bestselling book The Other Significant Others: ...

485 - My Ex Hurt Me Deeply. Can We Still be Friends? Listener Q&A

25 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We're back with another full-length Q&A episode answering questions from our supporters on Patreon. For today's episode, we'll be discussing what to d...

484 - Compersion is a Spectrum with Dr. Marie Thouin

18 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today, Dr. Marie Thouin is back to talk about compersion and her new book on the subject.Dr. Marie Thouin is a Mindful Dating & Relationship Coach who...

483 - Why Do We Lead With Fear?

11 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we're talking about fear, specifically how it can affect our relationships and what happens when we lead with fear. We're going to discuss fear...

482 - Un-Diagnose Yourself with Todd Baratz

04 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Join us today for a very special discussion with Todd Baratz! Todd is a renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist whose innovative approach to mental...