Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

482 - Un-Diagnose Yourself with Todd Baratz

04 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Join us today for a very special discussion with Todd Baratz! Todd is a renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist whose innovative approach to mental...

481 - Can You "Fix" Your Partner's Insecurities?

28 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about insecurities, which all of us have in one way or another, and whose responsibility it is to alleviate them. A lot of us are ...

480 - Communication Hacks: Remastered

21 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week we have a throwback episode going back six years ago to when we discussed three powerful communication tools to strengthen your relationship...

479 - Grief, Breakups, and Hope for What Comes Next

14 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're talking about breaking up again, specifically about the process of grieving a breakup through the lens of the five stages of grief. Lo...

478 - “I’m a relationship anarchist, but no one knows what that is."

10 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week's Q&A episode is circling back to relationship anarchy and how to navigate it when most people either don't subscribe to it or don't even kn...

477 - I Love You But I Don't Like You

07 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we're exploring the difference between loving someone and liking someone. We're specifically discussing how it is we can love someone but a...

476 - "My monogamous partner fell in love with someone else."

03 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week's Q&A episode is tackling emotional and sexual exclusivity and navigating polyamory as someone mostly adjacent to it. Interested in having y...

475 - Is It Better to Settle in Relationships?

30 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about what it means to "settle" in a relationship. We'll be discussing if it's okay to settle and what realistic expectations of a...

474 - "How can I know if sneakiarchy is happening in my relationship?"

26 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're tackling a question about sneaky hierarchy, aka sneakiarchy. We're talking about how to recognize it in future relationships, how to r...

473 - Love Languages Might Be Bullsh*t

23 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about love languages, and taking a critical look at them to discuss whether or not they're actually as important as we make them o...

472 - "Is it possible to get ahead of couples' privilege?"

19 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week's Q&A episode is discussing couples' privilege and how to be cognizant of when it may affect interactions with other potential partners. If ...

471 - Possessiveness Might Help Your Non-Monogamous Relationship

16 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we're talking about feeling possessive over a partner, the psychology and science behind it, and how even when non-monogamous, possessive feeli...

470 - "I want foreplay to start at breakfast."

12 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week's question from our Patreon supporters is discussing initiating sex, foreplay, and mismatched communications. If you want to submit a questi...

469 - Discomfort is Good For You

09 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Nobody LIKES feeling uncomfortable...but today we're going to be looking at a few ways we sometimes avoid discomfort that may be making the problem wo...

468 - "I want to fix our desire mismatch, but my partner doesn't."- Listener Q&A

05 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week's question for our Q&A episode is addressing mismatched desire during busy, long-term partnered life and being stuck in "practical mode." If...

467 - "You're gonna need therapy until you die" - A Conversation with TherapyJeff

02 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're joined by Jeff Guenther, also known online as TherapyJeff! Jeff has joined us to talk about what he does, therapy, non-monogamy, and much ...

466 - "I have lost all enthusiasm for my relationship." - Listener Q&A

29 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

During this mini episode, we're answering just one question from our Patreon community. Today we're discussing reframing relationships, de-escalation,...

465 - Is Single Life Superior? Why Independence Matters for Everyone

26 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Breakup season has passed, so we're going to spend an episode talking about independence is important for everyone, regardless of your relationship st...

464 - This Is Why You Struggle with Honesty

19 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we're talking about honesty, and what makes it difficult to be honest with a partner. We all have difficulty with being honest sometimes, wheth...

463 - You're Not as Open-Minded As You Think

12 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about being open-minded: what it means, how it's often misunderstood, and how we're probably not as good at it as we think we are....

462 - Deepening Connections Through Slow Love

05 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we're talking about slow dating and slow love, which was brought to our attention by Damona Hoffman in episode 456. We'll go over what slow lov...

461 - My Partner Won’t Admit Their Jealousy - Listener Q&A

27 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we have another Q&A episode, so we're diving into some listener questions. Some of the topics we're covering are what happens when just one rela...

460 - Multiamory Presents: Navigating Jealousy in Non-Monogamy (Multiamory’s Interview on Better in Bed with Sara Sense)

20 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today's episode is an interview we did with Sara Sense of the Better in Bed podcast about jealousy and navigating it in the context of relationships a...

459 - Non-Monogamy in the Workplace Part 2

13 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

For our second part of our non-monogamy in the workplace series, we're talking about how to actually go about opening up at work, what kinds of change...

458 - Non-Monogamy In the Workplace Part 1

06 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today's episode is the first part of a two-parter series on being out as non-monogamous at work. We're going to explore pros and cons being out at wor...

457 - Creating Lasting Sexual Connections with Emily Nagoski

30 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're welcoming back Emily Nagoski to talk about her newest book, Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. ...

456 - F The Fairytale with Damona Hoffman

23 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're welcoming back Damona Hoffman, the Resident Love Expert of The Drew Barrymore Show and OkCupid's Official Dating Coach. Damona is the host...

455 - My Brain Understands, But My Body is Panicking (with Orit Krug)

16 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We're excited to have a special episode this week! Today Dedeker is flying solo and having a fantastic conversation with board-certified dance/movemen...

454 - When Someone You Love Wants to be Monogamous

09 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Happy New Year to all! Our first episode of 2024 is diving into a discussion about shifting from non-monogamy to monogamy. We'll be talking about why ...

453 - Your Regrets are Here to Help You

19 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we're talking about regret. Regret often gets a lot of negative feedback and a bad rap, often being called a useless negative emotion, but we'r...

452 - Navigating Unrequited Feelings - Listener Q&A

12 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're doing our last Q&A episode of the year! We'll be tackling one final batch of listener questions ranging from unrequited NRE, insecurity an...

451 - Multiamory Presents: Defining Non-Romantic Relationships and More (Multiamory's Interview on The Wright Conversations)

05 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today we've got a very special episode: we're sharing an interview we did on Rachel Wright's show The Wright Conversations. In this episode we discuss...

450 - Polywise: A Conversation with Jessica Fern and Dave Cooley

28 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're excited to share a conversation with Jessica Fern and David Cooley about their new book, Polywise. Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Coac...

449 - When Life Demands Get in the Way of Love

21 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're taking some time to explore what happens when life's demands and outside stressors take a toll on even solid relationships. Things lik...

Presenting: Private Parts Unknown: How a Happy Ending Massage Expanded Her Mind on Sex, Pleasure & Non-Monogamy with Courtney Kocak

17 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we’re sharing a preview of one of our favorite podcasts: Private Parts Unknown. Private Parts Unknown is a Bourdain-style podcast exploring s...

448 - A Polyamory Devotional: Conversation with Evita Sawyers

14 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're rejoined by Evita Sawyers, who was last on the show back on episode 310. Evita is back to talk about her new book, "A Polyamory Devotional...

447 - De-Escalation to Re-Escalation: Listener Q&A With Amanda Katherine

07 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today's episode is another Q&A, this time with Amanda Katherine from the Live Your F*ck Yes Life. Amanda Katherine (she/they) — — is on a mission ...

446 - Multiamory Presents: Navigating Abuse as a Non-Monogamous Person (Dedeker's Interview on Initiated Survivor)

31 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today we have a special episode highlighting an interview Dedeker did on the podcast Initiated Survivor, hosted by Kelsey Harper. Kelsey is a clinical...

445 - Yes, Some People Need Drama

24 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're diving deep into the world of drama! Have you ever met someone who just seems to thrive on it? Or maybe you've seen a bit of that drama-lo...

444 - Assert Yourself Without Being an Asshole

17 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about the five different communication styles in order to help us identify some of the healthy and unhealthy ways we might be expr...

443 - Why Aren't You Being Fair? Exploring Aggressive Fairness in Polyamory

10 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about aggressive fairness in non-monogamy. We all want equitable relationships, but in a relationship style as fluid as non-monoga...

442 - Do You Trust Your Partner With Your Emotions?

03 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're discussing emotional safety and how our close relationships can provide a safe and comforting way to enhance our positive emotions and reg...

441 - Multiamory Presents: The Art of Boundaries (Dedeker's Interview on Help Existing)

26 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're highlighting an interview Dedeker did on Rachel Krantz's show, Help Existing. Rachel is also the author of Open: An Uncensored Memoir ...

440 - We Have All Violated Consent - Listener Q&A with Kitty Stryker Pt 2

19 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We're continuing our Q&A episode today with guest Kitty Stryker. Kitty has been working on defining and creating a consent culture for over 13 years t...

439 - We Have All Violated Consent - Listener Q&A with Kitty Stryker Pt 1

12 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today we have a special guest who has been on our show before! Kitty Stryker has been working on defining and creating a consent culture for over 13 y...

438 - Aromantic Partnerships Matter Too

05 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're discussing aromanticism and aromantic partnerships! A lot of us have heard of asexuality, but the spectrum of aromanticism is a little les...

437 - Relationships Can Save Your Life (Even if You’re an Introvert)

29 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we're talking about the quality of relationships, and not necessarily romantic ones, and how they can have significant positive effects on your...

436 - What If You’re the Toxic One

22 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

As one of the common pop psychology buzzwords on social media today, we've all heard the word "toxic" applied to different situations and relationship...

435 - Why Won't My Partner Sext Me? Listener Q&A with Leanne Yau

15 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We're back with another Q&A episode, and this time we're joined by Leanne Yau, aka Poly Philia! Leanne is a polyamory educator and sex-positive influe...

434 - The Polyamory Paradox with Irene Morning

08 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're joined by Irene Morning, MS, to discuss her book, The Polyamory Paradox, and to pick her brain about somatic coaching, her writing, and mo...

433 - Avoidance or Enlightenment? Spiritually Bypassing Relationship Problems

01 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Even if you aren't a spiritual person or don't have a spiritual practice, we have strategies that allow us to avoid facing reality and minimize feelin...

432 - The Episode to Share With Your Parents

25 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode is for everyone out there who has had a loved one come out to them as non-monogamous. There are a lot of feelings that may come up...

431 - Q&A: Sex, Religion, Veto, and the 80/20 Rule with Billy Procida

18 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're joined by Billy Procida to answer some more of our Patreon listeners' questions! Billy Procida is a stand-up comedian in New York City whe...

Presenting: Shameless Sex - How to Talk Dirty with Sexpert Lola Kat

14 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we’re sharing a preview of another show from the Pleasure Podcast Network: Shameless Sex. Join April and Amy as they inspire radical self-lov...

430 - Is Honesty Always The Best Policy?

11 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On today's episode, we're talking about honesty...honestly. Many of us are taught from childhood that honesty is the best policy, but is it really? We...

429 - Is Ambiamory Right for You?

04 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We talk a lot about polyamory and monogamy on this show, but what about ambiamory? You may have heard it floating around recently; today we're going t...

428 - Unraveling Jealousy in Five Steps with Dr. Joli Hamilton

27 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you ready to talk about jealousy again?! For today's episode we're joined by Dr. Joli Hamilton, the relationship coach for couples who color outsi...

427 - Is Non-Monogamy Just Commitment Phobia? Crossover Episode with Natasha Chandel of Kinda Dating

20 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today's episode is a special crossover with actress, comedian, dating expert, and podcast host Natasha Chandel from the Kinda Dating podcast! Kinda Da...

426 - Repulsed by Romance or Just Numb? Listener Q&A

13 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We're back with another Q&A episode to answer some more listener questions! Today we're discussing open, honest conversations with non-romantic connec...

425 - Polyamorous Legal Rights: The Fight for Equality with Diana Adams Esq. and Dr. Heath Schechinger

06 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

For this week's episode, we're discussing the current political and legal landscape for polyamorous and non-monogamous folks. We're fortunate enough t...

Presenting: Sluts and Scholars: Peg the Patriarchy with Luna Matatas

02 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are sharing a preview from one of our favorite podcasts that we think you’ll enjoy. On Sluts and Scholars, therapist and sexologist Nicolet...

424 - Polysaturation: Exploring the Limits of Love

30 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about saturation, or more specifically, polysaturation, or the state in which a polyamorous person has as many significant relatio...

423 - Boundaries are all about YourSELF

23 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're circling back to boundaries once again! In light of our book release, we're going to be sharing one of the special tools from it that ...

422 - Are You Polyamorous or Just Pretending? Listener Q&A with Jessica Esfandiary

16 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're joined by Jessica Esfandiary for another Q&A episode to answer some more listener questions! Today we'll tackle topics like enjoying f...

421 - Infla-Dating: Love on a Budget

09 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Dating often puts a strain on our wallets, especially as inflation rates increase, so today we're discussing financial pressures that dating puts on p...

420 - Courage for Hard Conversations

02 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today's episode we're revisiting difficult conversations. In any relationship, there are often hard, emotional, or awkward conversations that we tend ...

419 - Beyond Monogamy: Overcoming Hurdles and Strengthening Bonds Listener Q&A

25 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today we have another Q&A episode! We'll be discussing some of the challenges of being polyamorous in a monogamous world, rekindling friendships with ...

418 - Spring Cleaning Your Relationships

18 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Spring is coming up, and so today we're talking about spring cleaning our relationships! Spring is a great time to do a big tidy up of your home, but ...

417 - Are "Safe Spaces" Possible in Relationships?

11 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we're joined by one of our research assistants, Dr. Keyanah Nurse, to talk about safe spaces in the context of relationships. During this e...

416 - Neurodiversity and the Benefits and Challenges of Non-Monogamy (with author Alyssa Gonzalez)

04 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We're so excited to be joined by author Alyssa Gonzalez for today's episode! She is the author of Non-monogamy and Neurodiversity, which was published...

415 - Tricky Relationship Situations: Rebuilding Friendships, Setting Boundaries, and Managing Trauma

28 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Let's dive into another Q&A episode with some questions from our Patreon supporters! This week we're talking about rebuilding friendship with exes, di...

Presenting: Double Teamed with Cami & Niki: Missing Kink, Prioritizing Partners, and Restructuring FWB

24 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this extra episode, we want to feature one of our fellow podcasts on the Pleasure Podcasts network: Double Teamed with Cami & Niki!Doubled Teamed P...

414 - To Come Out or Not to Come Out with Martha Kauppi

21 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Martha Kauppi has rejoined us today to talk about coming out of the closet and how it relates in particular to the intersection of our professional an...

413 - Gay and Polyamorous Representation with Frank Smith

14 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're joined by a very special guest, Frank Arthur Smith, a queer writer/director/actor/producer originally from Boston, Massachusetts. His ...

412 - Judaism and Polyamory (with Rabbi Nikki DeBlosi)

07 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're joined by Rabbi Nikki DeBlosi, PhD. She is a queer, polyamorous, entrepreneurial rabbi who brings expertise in queer theory and belong...

411 - What’s Your Price of Admission?

28 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we're talking about annoyances and deal breakers in terms of relationships. We're exploring the possibility that in this age of online dati...

Book Release Announcement!

23 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

After four years of work, our book is available for pre-order on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and wherever books are sold! Help us get this book on the m...

410 - Fallen Out of Love or Faded NRE? Listener Q&A

21 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for another Q&A episode where we answer some listener questions and discuss post-breakup friendships, fading NRE, creative ways to satisfy tou...

409 - Can a Ritual Save Your Relationship?

14 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We as humans we love novelty, and when our relationships become complacent and repetitive, it can negatively affect them. However, we also crave stabi...

408 - When Work Gets in the Way of Relationships

07 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Today, we're talking about work, and how your relationship with work can affect your relationship with others, whether you have similar or different v...

407 - Love Bombing: Is it Bullshit?

31 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Love bombing has become a hot topic both in psychology and on social media these days, and so during this episode, we're exploring what love bombing i...

406 - Open to Poly but Unwilling to Communicate (Listener Q&A w/ Dr. Zhana Vrangalova)

24 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We're having our first Q&A episode in the new year with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova! During this episode, we learn a little about Dr. Zhana's work and answer...

405 - Are Relationship Doubts Normal?

17 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

One of the most searched relationship questions online is "Is it normal to have doubts about my relationship?" On today's episode, we're exploring tha...

404 - Break Free of the Dating Loop (with Damona Hoffman)

10 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

For today's episode, we're joined by Damona Hoffman to talk about a variety of topics, including dating and modern dating culture, and she also answer...

403 - When Friends Kick You to the Curb

20 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We talk a lot about handling breakups in romantic relationships, but we haven't talked much about friendship breakups. In this episode, we're discussi...

402 - Looking Back on the Polyamorous Commune (with authors Glen Olson and Terry Lee Brussels)

13 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Glen Olson and Terry Lee Brussels, authors of the book "Fifty Years of Polyamory in America: A Guided Tour of a Growing Movement," join us for a deep ...

401 - Are Elders Better at Polyamory? with Kathy Labriola

06 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Kathy Labriola is back to discuss her most recent book with us, "Polyamorous Elders: Aging in Open Relationships," some of the inspiration that drove ...

400 - Behind the Scenes at Multiamory

29 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It's our 400th episode! Join us for a conversation where we talk about how Multiamory is produced, all the people, money, and costs involved, and how ...

399 - Love Won't Make You Happy with Carrie Jenkins

22 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Author and professor Carrie Jenkins joins us this week to discuss her newest book, Sad Love: Romance and the Search for Meaning, and some of the princ...

398 - Monogamy and Relationship Anarchy

15 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today's episode is guaranteed to spark strong opinions. We're discussing relationship anarchy: can it be practiced in monogamy or is it a contradictio...

397 - My Partner Won’t Talk About the Future & Other Listener Questions

08 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We're back again with another Q&A episode to answer some of our listeners' questions! Today we're tackling the difficult topics of different nesting s...

396 - The Most Successful Online Dating Practices (with OkCupid's Michael Kaye)

01 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're joined by Michael Kaye, head of communications at OKCupid! We're thrilled to have Michael join us to discuss online dating, how it has cha...

395 - 50 Ways to Handle Jealousy - Part 2

25 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Part 2 of 50 Way to Handle Jealousy is here! Today's episode covers the final 24 out of the 50 tools we're discussing this series. Last week we discus...

394 - 50 Ways to Handle Jealousy - Part 1

18 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Everyone in a consensually non-monogamous relationship gets asked the question, "How do you deal with the jealousy?" Even people who have practiced no...

393 - Polysaturated But Still Thirsty - Listener Q&A Episode

11 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It's time for another Q&A style episode! We're discussing some of our Patreon supporters' questions concerning polysaturation, communicating about ava...

392 - What to Do When You Are Way More Stressed Than Your Partner?

04 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We have another episode about stress to share with you! Today's episode is a discussion on what stress is and how it can affect your partnerships, par...

391 - Are Polyamorous People Addicted to Love?

27 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're talking about love addiction! Love addiction is a bit of a controversial term to begin with, so today we're going to go over what addictio...

390 - What It’s Really Like to Be a Polyamorous Parent (with Jessica Daylover from Remodeled Love)

20 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're joined by Jessica Levity Daylover, elder millennial, polyamorous parent, entertainer, author, and more. Jessica has a BA in Philosophy and...

389 - Struggling with Honesty & NRE (Patreon Q&A with Libby Sinback)

13 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We're back with another Q&A episode, and this time Libby Sinback is joining us to give her perspective as a queer, polyamorous mom. She is also the ho...

388 - How to Gain Self-Worth and Stop Comparing Part 2

06 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today brings us to part 2 in our series on our discussion about self-worth and comparison, with this part focusing more on the comparison aspect. We'l...