Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

386 - Compersion: Is It Necessary? (with Dr. Marie Thouin and Dr. Sharon Flicker)

23 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're joined by Drs. Marie Thouin and Sharon Flicker to discuss compersion and the research they have conducted about it. Dr. Marie Thouin was l...

385 - Keep Conflict from Destroying Your Relationships

16 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're looking at conflict in relationships, what you can do to make sure conflict isn't negatively affecting your relationship, some researc...

384 - Imperfect Polyamory, Personal Growth, and Emotional Labor (with Normalizing Non-Monogamy)

09 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're joined by Emma and Fin from the podcast Normalizing Non-Monogamy! We're doing another Q&A style episode where we answer some of our Patreo...

383 - Non-Monogamy: What Does the Research Say? Part 2 of 2

02 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week's research roundup is covering recent studies about ethical non-monogamy and mental health, sexual health, and the health of children and ad...

382 - Non-Monogamy: What Does the Research Say? Part 1 of 2

26 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to part 1 of our non-monogamy research roundup! Today's episode features some interesting research about non-monogamy: who practices non-monog...

381 - OPEN with William Winters

19 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're interviewing William Winters, who is on the board of directors for OPEN (Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-monogamy). William Win...

380 - Sex Work and Pleasure in Film (with Director Sophie Hyde)

12 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're joined by movie director Sophie Hyde to talk about their new sex-positive and sex-work affirming film, Good Luck, Leo Grande. Sophie Hyde ...

379 - Relationship Science for your Friendships (and Vice Versa)

05 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We talk a lot about prioritizing not only romantic and sexual relationships, but also friendships. Today's episode is digging into some of the researc...

378 - The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy with Lola Phoenix

28 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today, Lola Phoenix rejoins us to discuss their new book, "The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy," which was published June 21st, 2022. Lola Phoe...

377 - Polyam Beginners, Healthy Boundaries, and Ethical Hierarchy

21 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today's episode is another Q&A where we answer some more listener questions, including some about beginners in polyamory, setting healthy boundaries, ...

376 - Having a Good Relationship After Leaving a Bad One

14 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes, we carry over trauma from a bad relationship into a good one, and this can make it difficult to have a fulfilling and happy relationship, e...

375 - Building a Foundation of Trust

07 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today is all about building and maintaining trust in relationships. We're discussing what it means to trust your partner, the process of establishing ...

374 - Friends to Lovers and Other Relationship Escalations

31 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We've done episodes about de-escalating relationships or decoupling them, but this week we're talking about the opposite! We're discussing what it loo...

373 - Listener Q&A with Kate Loree

24 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We're back with another Q&A episode! This week we'll be answering some of our patrons' questions with Kate Loree, one of our friends who co-hosts the ...

372 - Needs, Desires, Boundaries, and More

17 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we're discussing the differences between needs, wants, expectations, boundaries, rules, agreements, and how these terms tend to be often us...

371 - Repeating Unhealthy Relationship Patterns Part 2 of 2

10 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

For the second part of our series on unhealthy relationship patterns, we're discussing some specific considerations when it comes to unhealthy relatio...

370 - Repeating Unhealthy Relationship Patterns Part 1 of 2

03 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're beginning a two-part discussion about unhealthy relationship patterns and why we sometimes tend to repeat them, sometimes even when we...

369 - Navigating Multiple Partners in the Same Space-Time

26 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

For those of us with multiple partners, sometimes the idea of navigating a social situation including everyone can be stressful or intimidating. This ...

368 - Sex Talk with My Mom Presents: Sex Scripts with Dr. Ian Kerner

19 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It's time for another episode featuring one of the other podcasts in the network we're a part of. This week we're featuring Sex Talk with My Mom, wher...

367 - FWB, Polyam-to-Mono, and More Listener Questions

12 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode is another Q&A style one with questions pulled from our Patreon group about friends with benefits relationships, transitioning fro...

366 - Desirability

05 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're covering a tough topic: desirability politics and dating preferences. Analyzing where our preferences come from, especially within the...

365 - Heartbreak and Recovery

29 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode is focusing on heartbreak, breakup, and recovery, and sorting through all the advice out there to try to narrow down what is helpf...

364 - Polyamory and Disability

22 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode is focusing on disability, specifically what it means to have a disability, dating with disabilities, and addressing ableism both ...

363 - Q & A with Multiamory

15 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're having a special Q & A session with the hosts of Multiamory to give some personal insight into some of the many questions we get asked...

362 - Sluts & Scholars Presents: Come As You Are (with Emily Nagoski)

08 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're having a special episode featuring one of our co-podcasters on the Pleasure Podcast network, Nicoletta, who hosts Sluts & Scholars. In...

361 - More Than Words by John Howard

01 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Our guest this week is therapist John Howard, who has joined us to talk about his newly published book, More Than Words. John Howard is an internation...

360 - Lawyer Up!

22 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're joined by our lawyer, Melissa Hall, to talk about wills, cohabitation, power of attorney, and more. Melissa has her own law firm where...

359 - Porn, Health, and Relationships

15 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Pornography is a hot issue a lot of the time. This week, we're talking about porn, what it is, why people consume it, sex education, porn addiction, p...

358 - Managing Emotions and Expressive Suppression

08 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What is expressive suppression? How can it impact and impair our day to day lives? In this episode, we're discussing expressive suppression, its advan...

357 - Impostor Syndrome

01 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We're discussing the phenomenon of imposter syndrome, which affects many of us in our day to day lives. We'll be talking about how it can affect our r...

356 - Open: Non-monogamy and Sexual Liberation (with author Rachel Krantz)

25 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week we are joined by journalist and Bustle founding editor Rachel Krantz to talk about her new book, Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberat...

355 - Singlism and the Truth About Being Single

18 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode is introducing what might be a new term to some: singlism. We're discussing truths and myths about being single, as well as how ou...

354 - Rethinking Resentment

11 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode is tackling resentment: what it is, how it shows up in real life, what might trigger it, some research surrounding resentment and ...

353 - De-nesting Without De-escalating

04 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Most of the time, when a couple decides not to live together anymore, we assume it means they're breaking up. In this episode, we're discussing how to...

352 - Safer Sex Part 2

14 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to part 2 of our safer sex series! Part 2 will explore a more personal connection to sexual wellness, including discussing the options availab...

351 - Safer Sex Part 1

07 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week marks the start of a two-part series on sexual health. In part one we're covering STIs, STDs, and how we can have better, more informed conv...

350 - Abundance and Scarcity

30 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're talking about abundance and scarcity, and exploring the science behind feelings of scarcity or abundance and how it can affect our beh...

349 - Trauma, Shame, and Post-Pandemic Recovery with Brian D. Mahan

23 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're welcoming Somatic Experiencing Practitioner Brian Mahan onto the show! In 2003, Brian suffered 7-10 panics attacks a day, following a ...

348 - Transforming Feelings Into Words

16 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're discussing transforming feelings into words effectively, which is the basis of most talk therapy and is often fundamental in having su...

347 - Good Enough Sex

09 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode is covering the Good Enough Sex model, which was created in 2007 to help improve couples' sex lives. We're going to be going over ...

346 - Is Seeking a Third Ethical?

02 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're revisiting the concept of adding a third person to an existing dyadic relationship, the ethics surrounding it, and whether or not it c...

345 - Sex Education with Sam Cat

26 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're joined by Sam Cat, creator of the website Shrimp Teeth, which provides coaching and resources for how we think about sex, queerness, a...

344 - Handling Rejection

19 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Rejection is something everyone has to deal with at some point in their lives. This episode explores rejection, including how to have a better underst...

343 - Autism, Neurodiversity and Relationships with Stevie Lang

12 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're joined by Stevie Lang! Stevie is an Autistic writer from Australia and has joined us today to speak about some of the topics he writes...

342 - To Forgive or Not To Forgive

05 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What is forgiveness really all about? Some see it as healing and restorative, and others view it as harmful and invalidating. This episode is covering...

341 - Cheating in Non-monogamous Relationships

28 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Is it possible to cheat in a non-monogamous relationship? We're discussing this question and a whole lot more during this week's episode on infidelity...

340 - Polyamory and Therapy (with Martha Kauppi)

21 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're joined with Martha Kauppi to talk about her book, as well as discussing how therapists can best serve their non-monogamous clients, so...

339 - The Smorgasbord of Relationships

14 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode is all about the Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord! We're discussing its history and creation, its significance, and how you can us...

338 - The Science of Relationship Maintenance

07 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode is all about relationship maintenance, or what we can do to ensure our relationships are as positive and fulfilling as possible fo...

337 - Kids, Consent, and Sex Education

31 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode we are joined by Ashley Robertson to learn about age-appropriate education about sex and consent for children, as well as how to t...

336 - Queerplatonic and Alterous Relationships

24 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This episode covers the origins of the term platonic, differences in language between romantic and platonic relationships, and alterous and queerplato...

335 - Nonverbal Communication

17 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode is about everything but the words! Learn about nonverbal communication, how to better recognize your own nonverbal cues, and actio...

334 - What Makes a Good Hinge Partner

10 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Being a hinge partner can be tough sometimes. This episode focuses on some unique struggles that hinge partners may face, some common pitfalls, and wh...

333 - Multiamory Stories: Kori Nicole Williams (Finding Family in Relationship Anarchy)

03 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode is another one of our Multiamory Stories, this time with Kori Nicole Williams. Kori is a writer who loves entertainment news and u...

332 - Transactional Relationships

27 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes there are people who only provide assistance or offer something nice when they're getting something (or expecting to get something) in retur...

331 - Business Time

20 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This episode started as being about special concerns for starting a business with or working with a romantic partner. It grew to also encompass what w...

330 - Identity in Relationships

13 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is about identity. Listen to hear our discussion about all of the research surrounding identity, relationships, and how one can influence...

329 - Validation Variety Pack

06 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is a discussion on internal and external validation, what those terms mean, how they're both important to a healthy relationship and life...

328 - Relationship Standards: Too High? Too Low?

29 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We've talked about relationship expectations and goals, but what about standards? This episode is diving in to the concept of relationship standards, ...

327 - Compassion Fatigue

22 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What is compassion fatigue? It's that tension coming from helping those in distress. You'll find out more about it during this episode, as well as the...

326 - The View from 30,000 Feet

15 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week is all about philosophy! We're talking about Stoicism, some common issues people face in relationships, how looking at those issues from a b...

325 - Age, Generations, and Relationships

08 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

During this episode, we're covering how age affects relationships, sex, and dating, and how age and generation tend to affect our approach to relation...

324 - Toxic Positivity

01 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode is covering toxic positivity (it does exist!). We're going into detail about how toxic positivity shows up in our lives and what w...

323 - You Won't Like Me When I'm Angry

25 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're talking about anger, the beneficial aspects of it as well as the harmful and unhealthy ways we express it sometimes. Join our amazing ...

322 - From the Kitchen Table to the Parallel Universe

18 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode covers the "spectrum of entwinement," in polyamory, or the different forms and styles of polyamory people practice, how much entwi...

321 - Navigating Big Life Changes

11 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is all about the stress that big life changes brings about, whether or not the change is good or bad. We're going to talk about some of t...

320 - Limerence and NRE: The Dark and Light Sides of the Force

04 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode is all about the fun and the not so fun parts of new relationships and crushes: New Relationship Energy versus Limerence. We'll go...

319 - What Are Your Values?

27 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How do you know what your values are? Our values help us know what's important to us individually and how to react in difficult situations. We'll be d...

318 - Party For One: Dating Yourself

20 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode is all about how to date yourself! Having adequate alone time is vital, but if you don't know how to utilize it or if you're frigh...

317 - Multiamory Stories: Michelle Hy (Polyamorous While Asian)

13 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week is a one-on-one interview with Michelle Hy, creator of the Polyamorous While Asian Instagram account and an advocate for spreading awareness...

316 - Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fawn

06 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode is about trauma responses: fight, flight, freeze, and the lesser known fawn. We're taking a dive into the ways these manifest and ...

315 - RADAR Troubleshooting

30 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How do you even begin to pitch RADAR check-ins to a partner? What if you have a big fight or disagreement surrounding a RADAR? This episode is all abo...

314 - Deconstructing Jealousy

23 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

It's been a while (4 years!) since we've really talked about jealousy, so this week we're revisiting the topic. This episode is deconstructing jealous...

313 - Compersion Season 2: Roundtable Discussion

16 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode we're joined by Jackie Stone, the creator of the web series Compersion, and four of the actors in it: Derrick, Jammie, Loren, and ...

312 - Psychological Flexibility is (also) a Triangle

09 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode is all about psychological flexibility: what it means, how it looks in real life, and the benefits it can have on your relationshi...

311 - Metamour March

02 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

To kick off the month of March, this week's episode is a series of interviews from some of our Patreon subscribers about their relationships with thei...

310 - Polyamory Reminders with Evita Sawyers

23 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we welcome onto the show Evita "Lavitaloca" Sawyers, non-monogamy coach, speaker, educator, and creator of “Today’s Polyamory Reminder,”...

309 - Love is a Triangle

16 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is exploring the triangular theory of love, which was a model set forth in order to understand the different permutations of love and rel...

308 - Fun Matters

09 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Our culture doesn't always recognize the importance of having fun. This episode takes a look at some research on fun and enjoyment and discusses how w...

307 - Chosen Family

02 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The concept of chosen family emerged not too long ago, and in this episode we're exploring its origins, meaning, which communities use the term nowada...

306 - Bonding Styles with Dr. Eli Sheff

26 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Eli Sheff joins us (again!) this week for her third appearance on our show to talk about her research on polyamorous families, as well as some dif...

305 - Why Won't You Listen?

19 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode tackles active listening, why it's so difficult to listen sometimes, the importance of learning to listen well, and some ways to p...

304 - Community Diversity and Tokenism with Crystal Byrd Farmer

12 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Crystal Byrd Farmer, a polyamorous writer and speaker from North Carolina. She is the website editor for Black & Poly and a board member for the Found...

303 - Is Your Partner Going to Change?

05 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is about change. It's a common saying not to date someone with the hopes of changing them, but human nature is change, so throughout this...

302 - Challenging Polyamory Concepts for Advanced Students

15 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

There are a lot of common beliefs and well-established ideas within the polyamorous community. But how many of these are just touted as gospel because...

301 - Solo Polyamory with Tristan Taormino

08 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're joined by Sex Out Loud podcast host, award-winning author, sex educator, and speaker Tristan Taormino to talk about solo polyamory and...

300 - 300th Episode!!!

01 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We're so happy to have everyone who has stuck with us along this journey! For our 300th episode, we're talking about Multiamory's origins and how ever...

299 - Thirsty Sword Lesbians with April Walsh

24 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Join us with April Walsh, a game designer and civil liberties attorney, to talk about Thirsty Sword Lesbians, a kickstarter table top role playing gam...

298 - Eustress, or Are You a Good Stress or a Bad Stress?

17 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

For this Multiamory episode, we're focusing on stress: the differences between distress and eustress, how stress is actually necessary for quality of ...

297 - Your Brain in a Bad Relationship (with Dr. Rhonda Freeman)

10 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Rhonda Freeman, neuropsychologist and founder of Neuroinstincts®, has joined us this week to discuss what goes on in the brains of narcissistic a...

296 - Relationship Health Checkup (with Erin Tillman)

03 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week's guest is Erin Tillman, aka "The Dating Advice Girl," who has joined us to talk about health checkups in relationships and to give her valu...

295 - Polyamory and Intimate Partner Violence (with Christy Croft)

27 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

As with many other things, approaching domestic violence and intimate partner violence within polyamorous relationships can sometimes require differen...

294 - Triads and Throuples, and Quads, Oh My!

20 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Relationships such as triads and quads which contain more than two people are largely disputed, discussed, and sometimes practiced in polyamory. Many ...

293 - Should you go to therapy? Pt 2

13 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Part 2 of our series on going to therapy covers how to choose a therapist, some special considerations to think about when deciding on the type of the...

292 - Should you go to therapy? Pt 1

06 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

If you're asking if you should go to therapy, the answer is probably yes, but in this episode, we're laying out some common questions people might ask...

291 - Attachment Theory and Polyamory

29 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We're joined by Jessica Fern, author of the upcoming book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Non-monogamy. She is also a psychotherapist, ...

290 - Is Polyamory Feminist? With Laurie Penny

22 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week's guest is Laurie Penny, an author, journalist, and screenwriter from the UK and has joined us to discuss polyamory and feminism and how the...

289 - De-Coupling

15 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is all about breakups and de-coupling with intention! We're sharing some important steps to take when transitioning a relationship out of...

288 - Repair Attempts

08 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

It's time to go back for repairs again for a bit...instead of talking about fallout after a fight, however, this episode covers ways to get your fight...

287 - Getting Closure

01 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What does it even mean to "get closure?" It's a phrase used a lot for a lot of different situations, but what does it actually mean? When is it necess...