Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

286 - Ghost(ing) Busters!

25 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Ghosting has become quite a common way to end a relationship or prevent one from starting these days. On this episode, we're exploring why people ghos...

285 - Compersion Research with Marie Thouin

18 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Join us and our guest, Marie Thouin, as she tells us about her qualitative research on compersion, as well as her own opinions and experiences with et...

284 - Daily Transitions

11 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Part of being a human is learning how to recalibrate your mind when transitioning from one situation to another. This can be especially difficult for ...

283 - Language in Relationships

04 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Language is a highly nuanced tool that we all use, and so today we're examining how it can affect relationships, reclamation of certain words for diff...

282 - The Shame Game 2: Endshame

28 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week is part 2 of our series on shame, which covers shame specifically around nontraditional and polyamorous relationships, healthy vs. unhealthy...

281 - The Shame Game 1: Origins

21 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're kicking off a two-part series on shame in relationships: where it comes from, why we feel it, how it can affect our relationships (esp...

280 - Receiving and Giving Apologies

14 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Giving and receiving apologies can be a lot harder than it sounds; there's more nuance than a simple "I'm sorry." This week, we're discussing how to p...

279 - Relationship Strengths and Weaknesses

07 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What do you struggle with in your relationships? What is your greatest strength? Inspired by some questions our friend and author Kevin Patterson aske...

278 - Growing Through Criticism

30 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Being criticized is difficult, especially when it's a friend, partner, or family member providing the criticism. Today we're covering how to handle re...

277 - Religion, Shame, and Identity with Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti

23 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti is a public speaker, poet, panelist, art model, sex-positive, autistic, bisexual, polyamorous cancer survivor. She joined us ...

276 - I'm Not Your Mother

16 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week, let's examine some of the dynamics that we fall in to when we cohabit with one or more partner(s) wherein sometimes there's an unfair divis...

275 - Demon Dance Battles

09 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're taking a look at EFT creator Sue Johnson's concept of "demon dialogues," or the choreography we tend to fall in to when fighting or ar...

274 - Compassion

02 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This episode, we're taking a dive into compassion: what it is, why the world needs it, why it's important to practice both with loved ones and strange...

273 - Money & Multiple Partners

26 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're joined by Hadassah Damien to talk about money and finances! Hadassah is the founder of Ride Free Fearless Money, a finance consulting ...

272 - Consent is Sexy (and Professional)

19 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week our guest is Mia Schachter, an intimacy coordinator for film and television, as well as an educator, writer, and podcaster. Mia has gracious...

271 - The Power of Receiving "No"

12 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Why is it so hard to say no sometimes? During this episode we'll explore why some of us have such trouble saying no, why the word "no" is so powerful,...

270 - Habitual Mindstates

05 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We're joined again by Annalisa, a scholar and priest in Philadelphia, to talk about the Buddhist concept of the six realms and habitual moods/mindstat...

269 - Close Quarters Relationships

28 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

There's tons of advice about long distance relationships and how to manage them, but what about the opposite? In this episode, we're discussing how to...

268 - Sex Worker Rights with Alice Little

21 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're joined by Alice Little to talk about sex work, the stigma around it, and steps to take to start moving towards a more sex positive soc...

267 - Reducing Stress Together

14 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The world is fairly stressful right now, and some of us are particularly prone to anxiety and stress already. This week, we're talking about some diff...

266 - The Worst Relationship Advice

07 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Let's talk about some of the bad, outdated relationship advice we've come across, and how it can negatively affect modern dating. As times change, dat...

265 - Real Voices of Multiamory

31 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

For this week's special episode, we're joined by several of our listeners to hear their real-life experiences with polyamory, instead of the common fi...

264 - Are You a Chewer or Spewer?

24 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How do you process your feelings? Are you an internal processor (chewer)? Or an external one (spewer)? In this episode, we're covering what it means t...

263 - Health and Wellness

17 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How do you keep yourself and your polycule healthy during time of illness? We're covering general tips on staving off sickness that are applicable all...

262 - Making a Polyamorous Dating App

10 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week's guests are Amanda Wilson and David Epstein, co-founders of the app #open, a sex positive and polyamory-friendly dating platform. Amanda an...

261 - Restorative Justice

03 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we're talking about restorative justice with Senior Legal Director Andy Izenson from the Chosen Family Law Center, Inc. We're covering what...

260 - Black Poly Pride with Chanee Jackson Kendall and Cheri Calico Roman

25 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we're joined by Chanee Jackson Kendall and Cheri Calico Roman from Black Poly Pride, who are here to talk about the Black polyamorous commu...

259 - What NOT to do in Non-Monogamy with Dr. Liz Powell

18 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Liz Powell is an author, sex educator, and psychologist who specializes in queer, kinky, and non-monogamous relationships. They are the author of ...

258 - Minimalism

11 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes, the amount of clutter in our homes and lives can negatively impact our mental health, our happiness, and our relationships. This week, we e...

257 - Codependency

04 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What does it mean to be codependent? Is it always a bad thing? Let's dive into our first episode dedicated solely to codependency, and talk some about...

256 - Polyamory and the Trans Experience with Marissa Alexa McCool

28 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're joined by Marissa Alexa McCool, author, podcaster, actor, grad student, and activist. She's sharing her experience as a transgender wo...

255 - Why You Make Bad Decisions

21 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever made a decision that you regretted, either immediately or later? This week, we're diving into the reasons behind bad decision-making (su...

254 - When You're Unsure about an Open Relationship

14 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Thinking of opening up your relationship? If you're having doubts, listen to our advice about what measures you can take when you're unsure about beco...

253 - Resilience and Overcoming Obstacles: More Tools!

07 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Let's talk about resilience, grit, and the scientific research behind resiliency, and some measures you can take to increase resiliency in your life. ...

252 - Reflection, Impending Plans, and Our Appreciation (short episode)

24 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Happy holidays from the entire Multiamory team! We're so grateful to each and every one of you for making this show possible and it's been quite the y...

251 - Polyamory in Science Fiction with Kevin Patterson

17 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're joined with science fiction author Kevin Patterson to discuss representation of polyamory in media, specifically in books, TV shows, a...

250 - Mental Health with Ruby Bouie Johnson

10 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're welcoming Ruby back to the show to talk about mental health, which can be a tough topic for a lot of people, and even more difficult t...

249 - Scheduling and Productivity

03 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're tackling an issue that's a nation-wide epidemic, but particularly prevalent among the non-monogamous community: how to schedule your t...

248 - Playing Monogamy with Simon(e) van Saarloos

26 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're joined by Simon(e) van Saarloos to talk about her book, Playing Monogamy, which has been translated from Dutch to English, and her vie...

247 - Why Your Relationship Needs a Date Night

19 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you and your partner or partners have regular date nights worked into your routine? We're going to explore why it's important to take time to sched...

246 - Non-Monogamy Misperceptions (with Cate from Swinging Down Under)

12 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Think you know everything about non-traditional relationships? Think again! This week we are tackling some of the most common misconceptions and assum...

245 - Your Ex’s Social Media

05 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Should you habitually visit your ex's social media pages? This week, we're exploring the reasoning behind stalking the social media of your ex and how...

244 - Avoiding Emotional Burnout with Queersplaining

29 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're joined by Callie Wright, activist and host of the Queersplaining podcast, for some insight and introspection surrounding LGBTQ lives a...

243 - How Compatible Are You Really?

22 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

What does compatibility mean for you? This week, we discuss compatibility in relationships: what it is, how important it is, and what it might mean if...

242 - Queer Theology with Brian G. Murphy

15 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we're joined by Brian G. Murphy to discuss queerness and polyamory in Christianity. We're focusing on some of the harder questions that sur...

241 - Five Ways to Suck Less at Communication: The Revival

08 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In the spirit of refreshing and revisiting older concepts, this week we're talking about five different methods to communicate more effectively, both ...

240 - Refreshing our Love Languages

01 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we're revisiting the five love languages, and discussing how they play a role in your interactions with others. We're going to go into a li...

239 - Guilt In Relationships

24 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Let's explore feelings of guilt in relationships on multiple levels, when guilt can be a healthy thing to feel, and when it can be detrimental to both...

238 - The Polyamory Breakup Book with Kathy Labriola

17 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

We're joined today by Kathy Labriola, author of The Polyamory Breakup Book! We're discussing how to healthily navigate breaking up when in a polyamoro...

237 - What Monogamous People Can Learn From Polyamory

10 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Let's explore seven things and lessons that can be learned from polyamory and ethical non-monogamy, from how to put yourself first to retaining your o...

236 - Progressive Love Academy with Kenya K. Stevens

03 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

We're joined by Kenya K. Stevens, one of the founders of the Progressive Love Academy, to talk about her work with coaching members of the polyamorous...

235 - Live Call-in Show: Multiamory Answers Your Questions

27 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to Multiamory's second live show! For this episode, we address some more questions from listeners and talk some about aromanticism in non-mono...

234 - SHOP: How to Repair After a Fight

20 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Have you gone to the repair SHOP? We've talked about how to disagree effectively and what to do during arguments, but what about afterwards, or with s...

233 - Polyamory Toolkit with Erotic Awakening

13 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

We're joined with Dan and Dawn Williams from Erotic Awakening to talk about their book, The Polyamory Toolkit! There are a few tools they go into deta...

232 - Criticism or How To Doom Your Relationship

06 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Is there a way to offer criticism effectively? It's important to distinguish between constructive criticism and destructive criticism, and to put thou...

231 - Help! My Friend is in a Bad Relationship!

30 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

What should you do if your friend is in a bad or toxic relationship? Should you do anything? In this episode, we examine how to determine if a friend'...

230 - WTF is Positive Masculinity?

23 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Masculinity is a touchy subject for a lot of people. We're looking at some ways masculinity has been gauged and studied throughout history, and if mas...

229 - Live: Ask Multiamory

16 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to our live show! For the first time, we're taking questions from our listeners about polyamory and any specific issues they're running into i...

228 - Pursuit and Withdrawal

09 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

We’re talking about “pursuit and withdrawal,” a common behavioral pattern we see crop up in relationships when the people involved are trying to...

227 - Rules vs Agreements feat. Boundaries

02 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we discuss the differences between rules, agreements, and boundaries, and how sometimes they can hurt a relationship more than help one. We...

226 - Sex Talk With My Mom

25 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

We're joined by the mother-son duo who host Sex Talk With My Mom and talk about their experiences talking openly and personally about their sex lives ...

225 - Real Relationship Talk with Lola Phoenix

18 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

We're joined by writer Lola Phoenix to talk about common non-monogamy advice and how it can sometimes miss the mark. Lola (pronoun: they) is a queer, ...

224 - Feelings Are Not Facts

11 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

An expression we've used on the show in the past is "feelings are not facts." It's been somewhat controversial so we decided to dedicate an episode to...

223 - Six Secretly Toxic Relationship Behaviors

04 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Today we're having a round table discussion with our friend Ben Day about six relationship behaviors that most people think are normal (or even romant...

222 - Zen and the Art of Relationships

28 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

What does buddhism have to do with relationships? Actually a lot! In this episode we talk to priest Annalisa about what all of us can learn from Buddh...

221 - A Best of Episode

21 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

It’s time for our Patron’s favorite moments! This episode was created by suggestions from our awesome private Patreon group members. We asked Patr...

220 - Secrecy vs Privacy

14 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This is a big question that comes up in non-monogamy, especially when it comes to talking about other partners to one another. So what is the differen...

219 - Labels By Any Other Name

07 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Millennials don’t do labels these days or do they? Some folks despise labels while others live and die by them. Today we describe labeling the holy ...

218 - I've HALTed. Now What?

30 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Let's chat about the acronym HALT, which stands for - Hungry Angry Lonely or Tired. We also like to include horny, drinking and sick to the mix but HH...

217 - Commitment in Non-Monogamy

23 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Commitment is so often misunderstood when it comes to non-monogamy. We discuss definitions of commitment and identifying the traditional markers of co...

216 - What is Emotional Support?

16 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

So what exactly is emotional support. How do you ask for it? How do you go about learning what kind of emotional support that you need. What kind does...

215 - The Science of Jealousy

09 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Jealousy happens in all types of relationships, but what is the science behind why we respond with jealousy to certain situations. What happens inside...

214 - Ghosts of Normativity Past

02 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Are you suffering from a Monogamy Hangover? We'll give you a dose of medicine to help cure what ails you. Many of us have been given a set of relation...

213 - Relationship Goals

26 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

RelationshipGoals - No, we're not chatting about the infamous Instagram hashtag. On this episode, we take a trip on the relationship escalator. What d...

212 - Relationship Baggage

19 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Get ready for the travel metaphors! They will be plentiful! We've covered this before in a previous episode, but we think it's time to tackle this sub...

211 - Thinking Critically about Sex Positivity and Sex Negativity

12 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

What does Sex Positivity and Sex Negativity actually mean? There is a lot of confusion surrounding these terms. People have a tendancy to throw these ...

210 - Take the Fight Out of Your Fights

05 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Conflict is inevitable, but conflict can be productive. Everyone gets into fights and arguments but that doesn't mean your relationship is unhealthy o...

209 - To Cohabitate or Not to Cohabitate, that IS the Question

26 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Are you currently living together? Thinking about moving in? Why do you want to move in together? On this episode, we tackle some of the situations & ...

208 - Failure is an Option

19 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Failure is always an option, but it doesn't have to be the end of the world. We hear about failure quite a bit when it comes to schooling and even job...

207 - Self-Sabotage

12 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Listen all ya'll, it's a sabotage! Okay this episode isn't really about the famous Beastie Boy song, it's about something much more serious. Self-Sabo...

206 - Attraction Perceptions & Misconceptions

05 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

What exactly IS attraction? How important is attraction? Why are we attracted to certain people or attributes? There are a lot of myths and misconcept...

205 - Anger is Good for You

29 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Anger is usually viewed as bad or something that should be stifled from a very young age. However, anger can be a force for good too! A lot of folks t...

204 - Metamour Troubles & Struggles

22 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when you don't get along with your metamours? Or perhaps one of your metamours doesn't like you and you feel stuck in the middle. Today, ...

203 - Tackling Insecurities

15 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Today we tackle insecurities. Insecurities tend to affect our relationships and ultimately overall our happiness. We open up and share some of our own...

202 - Polyamorous Superhero Fiction

08 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

We speak to Kevin Patterson & Alana Phelan author's of For Hire: Operator. The book is an all encompassing love story and super hero novel all wrapped...

201 - Are you ready to be polyamorous?

18 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Is anyone really ever ready? This week we delve into the different signs that determine if you are ready to become polyamorous...or not. We talk about...

200 - 200 Episodes Later

11 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

It's Multiamory's milestone 200th episode! We take part in a veritable retrospective hootenanny - sharing which tools, research, and lessons from crea...

199 - Visibility and Worthiness with Kat Blaque

04 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're joined by transgender rights activist and YouTube sensation Kat Blaque. We talk about outness and visibility, handling criticism and b...

198 - Supporting a Partner through Loss

27 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We all experience loss - the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, being let go from a job. This week we discuss helping a partner through ...

197 - HIV with Liz Sutherland

20 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

For many people. the very topic of HIV is quite scary, but not so for our guest this week, Liz Sutherland of Positive Life New South Wales. We chat wi...

196 - Am I Still Polyamorous If...

13 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Fortunately, there's no Polyamory Board of Directors who decides who makes the cut or not. However, that doesn't prevent many people from worrying abo...

195 - Wellbeing and Online Dating

06 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Online dating presents a wealth of opportunities to connect with like-minded people, but it also introduces the potential for endless frustration. If ...

194 - Recovering from Infidelity

30 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We get a lot of questions related to infidelity: can you even "cheat" when you're consensually non-monogamous? If my partner cheats on me, should we t...

193 - Making Long Distance Relationships Work

23 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Long distance relationships are pretty common in non-monogamous communities, and they are becoming even easier to maintain with modern technology. Thi...

192 - Self-Esteem Boost

16 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Forget participation trophies! This week we're talking about self-esteem. We all have our highs and lows, but did you know that having greater self-es...

191 - Toxic Relationships

02 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Are your relationships a dumping ground for toxic waste? This week we talk about the hallmarks of toxicity in relationships. Whether you've got a toxi...

190 - Surviving and Thriving in NRE

25 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel like you can do anything? Are your palms sweaty and your stomach butterfly...ish? You may be feeling New Relationship Energy (NRE). This w...

189 - Handling Backlash

18 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

When you start talking to people about non-traditional relationships, the reaction isn't always pretty. This week dicuss what motivates negative react...

188 - What Hierarchy Means to Me

11 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Some people think polyamory can only function with a primary-secondary hierarchy. Others think it's a recipe for disaster. On this episode, we want to...

187 - Break Free of Relationship Drama

04 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

No one wants a relationship full of drama...or do they? Turns out there are specific roles that many of us actually enjoy to play in any given "drama"...