Many late-diagnosed neurodivergent adults carry a quiet, persistent fear: What if I’m too much? In this episode of Divergent Paths, Dr. Regina PhD explores why that fear shows up so strongly for folks with ADHD in their relationships. Emotional intensity, rejection sensitivity, and years of masking can create a painful pattern of overthinking, apologizing, and shrinking after moments of intense expression. Instead of rehashing social scripts, this episode zooms out to examine the nervous system roots of the “too much” story and why it’s often less about personality and more about protection. You’ll learn: How rejection sensitivity amplifies everyday social ambiguity Why masking trains you to self-edit in real time The link between attachment anxiety and post-conversation shame Practical ways to regulate before you repair If you’ve ever wished you could take up less space, this episode offers a different way to understand what’s happening and how to stay true to yourself without shrinking. Sign up for N.E.R.D. Notes and get weekly nerdy neurodivergent insights! Book a Clarity Call with Regina About Dr. Regina McMenomy, PhD Regina is a neurodivergent coach and educator who helps late-diagnosed adults unmask, heal from burnout, and build lives aligned with how their brains work. She founded Divergent Paths Consulting to provide the type of coaching and support that late-diagnosed nerdy neurodivergent folks in educational leadership and tech fields need when they receive their late diagnoses.

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